<p>I don't think anyone is saying you shouldn't have standards. I think the belief is that race shouldn't be one of those standards, or if it is, grow a pair and admit you're being racist. Arguing about semantics isn't going to chance the fact that you are treating someone differently due to their race. Sorry.</p>
<p>I fully admit that I'm "weight-ist" (is there such a thing?) since I usually don't date extremely skinny or extremely overweight men (but I rarely find either attractive, so the situation doesn't come up often). </p>
<p>Of COURSE you have all the rights in the world to turn anyone down for a date for whatever reason you choose. That DOESN'T mean your reasons aren't racist. Sorry. I know we live in a PC bubble and everyone hates to be labeled as racist. But just so you know, racism isn't necessarily going around lynching black people, or standing on platforms in a white hood. It's in our everyday actions, in the simplest choices that we make, that shows our own inherent racism. However you slice it, you're being racist if you treat a person of one race differently than another based on their race.</p>
<p>And just so you know, I'm an Indian female who's dated white guys, black guys, Indian guys, Asian guys, Latin guys, you name it. Though it is your choice, consider that you might be seriously limiting yourself and cutting yourself off from many amazing people by so arbitrarily creating your "standards".</p>
<p>What if your culture (nationality I mean) looks down on dating and marrying outside of your race/ethnicity? How do you react to your relatives gossiping about you behind your back and wishing bad on you? What if, let's say, the Italian community no longer sees you as Italian because you married someone who is black or...Arab?</p>
<p>This is all hypothetical.</p>
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Holy crap do you have anteriograde amnesia or are you illiterate or something?</p>
<p>You said that you've seen girls post on here that they would only date a guy who is 6'0". Guess what Einstein? I'm the only one who said that a guy must be 6'0" in Wutang's thread! Coincidentally, you and I posted in that same thread! Damn, what a shocker! Reread your post before you go ape **** on me.</p>
<p>I couldn't do crap to you? It sounds like you're challenging me no? </p>
<p>Do me a favor: shut the **** up because you have no idea what you're talking about and who you're messing with.
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<p>Yeah, I remember that thread...which is part of why I said that I've seen girls on here say that type of thing. But I hate to break it to you, you're not the only girl in the history of CC to say something about a guy's height. You certainly aren't the only girl to ever state something like you would prefer a guy to be 6' or above...you're just not as special as you seem to think you are. Sorry. </p>
<p>When it comes down to it, I know better than you about the intention behind my own post. It was only to point out that people have preferences in who they date or don't date. There were no hidden insults behind it at all.</p>
<p>I always find it amusing that people who start fights go on and on about the other "not knowing who they're messing with" when in all reality, they have no idea either. But hey, if you're wanting to win the contest of being the most paranoid and crazy, congratulations.</p>
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And just so you know, I'm an Indian female who's dated white guys, black guys, Indian guys, Asian guys, Latin guys, you name it. Though it is your choice, consider that you might be seriously limiting yourself and cutting yourself off from many amazing people by so arbitrarily creating your "standards".
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<p>And if forced to make a choice, wouldn't you prefer the Indian guy first (provided that all off those guys are attractive to you and have a good personality, more or less)? </p>
<p>Don't lie to yourself. And the CC community. :)</p>
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And if forced to make a choice, wouldn't you prefer the Indian guy first (provided that all off those guys are attractive to you and have a good personality, more or less)?</p>
<p>Don't lie to yourself. And the CC community.
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<p>Nope. I actually dumped the Indian guy for a white guy. I honestly tend to date white guys more than anything else (just by circumstance of where I live, mostly), but I have never and will never discount someone for a relationship due to their race.</p>
<p>You can tell me I'm lying to myself, but for me, it's always been about personality. Looks play in, but as you get to know a person, they matter less and less. I see something inherently wrong with discrimating against people based on their race, but if you have no problem with it, then good for you. I'm just telling you to man up and admit it to yourself, instead of guising it as something else through every loophole you can find.</p>
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Nope. I actually dumped the Indian guy for a white guy. I honestly tend to date white guys more than anything else (just by circumstance of where I live, mostly), but I have never and will never discount someone for a relationship due to their race.</p>
<p>You can tell me I'm lying to myself, but for me, it's always been about personality. Looks play in, but as you get to know a person, they matter less and less. I see something inherently wrong with discrimating against people based on their race, but if you have no problem with it, then good for you. I'm just telling you to man up and admit it to yourself, instead of guising it as something else through every loophole you can find.
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<p>You must have been born and brought up in the US AND must have lived in a totally white community. And because you're a girl, I guess looks matter less than personality overall. </p>
<p>In my experience, I've found that people of two different races rarely marry/date each other, and this is mostly due to cultural and religious differences. In most cases, I think it is a mutual feeling between people of two different races not to date/marry each other.</p>
<p>By the way, I just now looked back on Wutang's post, and I didn't even address your preference once in that entire thing. </p>
<p>The only thing I ever even said about short girls at all is that it irritates me when I see all the tall guys taken by short girls...and while that does have a bit of truth to it, it's really not something that actually bothers me. Just something I like to complain about. </p>
<p>So why, all the sudden, do you feel that I'm attacking you over something so stupid?</p>
<p>Hun, read the entire thread. I did make a statement and I was the only one who said it on CC. </p>
<p>I don't know who I'm messing with? Unless you're a female Marine, a covert CIA operative, or something like that...I'm not scared of you. So thanks for proving to me, the lurkers, and the CC community that you're full of ****.</p>
<p>Thanks for calling me paranoid and crazy, I'll be sure to let the mods know about your lousy attempt at character assassination.</p>
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I don't know who I'm messing with? Unless you're a female Marine, a covert CIA operative, or something like that...I'm not scared of you. So thanks for proving to me, the lurkers, and the CC community that you're full of ****.
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<p>lol calm down, hun.</p>
<p>I <em>am</em> calm. Next time, tell Katho not to make asinine posts saying I'm crazy and paranoid if she doesn't want to be reported to a moderator.</p>
<p>And what about your unprovoked threats and profanity? </p>
<p>You're not the only girl to ever say anything about height preferences on CC. Maybe in that post, but not ever. Get over it already and admit that you completely overreacted to a post that wasn't - in any way - trying to attack anyone.</p>
<p>Alright, that's good to hear. </p>
<p>Now, would you date a 6ft guy of some other race? :)</p>
<p>Actually, interracial dating is on the rise, especially in "melting pot" countries such as America. And honestly, for men, looks, though they should matter, should probably matter less than personality. Regardless of where I was born or how I identify with my culture, it doesn't make it less racist to decide not to date someone based on their race. I don't know why that's an issue.</p>
<p>I didn't threaten you. I said thank your lucky stars that you can hide behind your computer because I wouldn't take your comment very well in person. And you did provoke me, by insulting me indirectly. Yes, I was the only one on CC who said a guy <em>must</em> be 6'0". If you're so adamant about the fact that I wasn't the only one who said it on CC, then please, by all means search all the threads on here that have the subject of height. You will find that I was the only one who said the following phrase: The guy must be 6'0". </p>
<p>You're the one who threatened me by saying I couldn't do crap to you. You were challenging me, AND THAT WAS A THREAT.</p>
<p>And I did not bypass filtering, so I am not in contempt of the TOS. Nice try. If you're going to sink that low where you have to attack me for the words I use, then attack everyone else on here that used profanity. Stop being sanctimonious, because I'm sure I can scrounge up some posts where you have used profanity.</p>
<p>"How is it ridiculous? Don't give me some vague answer. I have every right to turn anyone down for a date."</p>
<p>Who the **** said you don't? I didn't say you didn't. But don't say you only date a certain race and then claim you're not a racist.</p>
<p>"I'll do that, thanks for the advice. I can also very clearly see how you can base a remark like "not that I can see why any girl at all would be interested in you" by just talking to me on an internet forum. That's perfectly logical. ^_-"</p>
<p>It's pretty easy to see. You're not exactly deep, quite the opposite actually.
^_-</p>
<p>wow this became all big, people denying their racist tendencies and even a little catfight on the side. </p>
<p>Well I post the definition of racism again, even though someone already did that:
Racism- or racialism is a form of discrimination based on race, especially the belief that one race is superior to another. Racism may be expressed individually and consciously, through explicit thoughts, feelings, or acts, or socially and unconsciously, through institutions that promote inequality between races.</p>
<p>If any of you who do not believe you are racist, can prove it using this definition, or maybe you found another one, then please to save yourself tell me why this definition does not apply to you.</p>
<p>No, it was saying that you wouldn't be able to hurt me. </p>
<p>And my comment was nothing to be taken badly in the first place. It's not hard to see that you're blowing an innocent example completely out of proportion.</p>
<p>I didn't take it out of proportion. In my response to you, I said "if" you were attacking me. I wasn't sure, so I gave you the benefit of the doubt by using the word IF. And if you were attacking me, I added my 2 cents to the bit saying to mind your own business and that I had said many times that I would date someone regardless.</p>
<p>It's not hard to see that you were the one who started going off on me after I said "If you are attacking me...." in my post.</p>
<p>You said that I couldn't hurt you, which means that you were in fact challenging me to try to kick your butt.</p>
<p>And mightynick:</p>
<p>Yes I would if I felt something for him.</p>
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Regardless of where I was born or how I identify with my culture, it doesn't make it less racist to decide not to date someone based on their race. I don't know why that's an issue.
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<p>You can call it racism or whatever you want, the fact that most people feel comfortable identifying themselves with someone who looks like them and shares the same culture is an undeniable fact. As an Indian male, a white girl or Chinese girl would take me less seriously if I asked her out compared to a white guy or chinese guy. In order for myself to be taken seriously I would need to make the extra effort by familiarizing myself with her "ways". It's not easy to make yourself attractive to someone of another race, especially if your a guy. Some people manage to do it, but its quite uncommon. If you ask a white guy/girl what their ideal standard of beauty is, and most of them will say "blonde hair, blue eyes or brown hair and green eyes, etc". In fact, I used to ask my white friends if they would ever date an Indian or Asian girl, and most of them would say no beacuse those girls don't fit their definition of beauty. On one occassion, a friend of mine went as far as saying most Indian girls are ugly, which is why he wouldn't date them.</p>