Advice requested please! I’m a Southern California single mom with one child. My son is a 16-year-old junior with a 4.6 GPA (4.0 unweighted), 1560 SAT (800 math), president of a local volunteer organization, works part-time, and will be captain of the varsity football team next year. He is 6’2", 235 lbs, and plays OL and DL (I absolutely hate the fact that his coaches played him for almost every single play except special teams all season - so very dangerous and I’m torn between pride and wanting to throw up with every snap). We don’t have PSAT results yet but given his SAT scores we are very optimistic that he will be a NMSF/F too.
He wants to study engineering at the best brand name school he can get into. He thinks football might be his ticket to achieve that goal. I love him more than anything and would be proud of him no matter where he goes. And I hate putting his brain/health at risk! I make a solid income that makes me think we won’t qualify for much need-based aid except for at the most generous schools (hello Harvard). I haven’t run NPC calculators yet, waiting to do 2019 taxes, and I only have $20k saved in his 529. So I am digging hard into learning about merit-based options including UCF and the other Florida schools for NMF full rides (UT-D is not an option); Stamps scholarship at U.Miami where he would also be a legacy (I’m an alumna - Go Canes!); and other outside support options for the UCs which I could afford to do full-pay as a CA resident, but barely. We toured Cal last summer and loved it, and he would also be very happy at UCLA. We consider UCI and UCSD to be safety schools for him, at least academically. I will not let him play D1 football and he’s probably not big/good enough to anyway.
So football. He is a very good player, but not All American. However he is easily in the top level AI for any of the Ivys, and would help pull up their stats in that regard. I have so many questions! Is it true that the Ivy coaches really care about their players as scholars first and football players second? Would he have time for a social life in the off-season at an Ivy? Are we crazy to think he’s even a serious Ivy contender, given that there are plenty of players bigger and better than him with only slightly lower AIs?
Any advice or thoughts you brilliant people have would be greatly appreciated.