<p>Homeschooled kids may get all those things you are talking about but they seriously lack in life experiences.</p>
<p>I cant speak generally, but for my family homeschooling has given freedom to get involved with our community far more than I was ever able to do as a public schooler. We have a lot of people who need help in the community, and since my kids are always around, they are naturally the ones people depend upon for assistance. In the course of dealing with a wide variety of individuals, my children have learned a variety of approaches to people. So I dont think my kids lack real life experiences. I do think they have adopted a personal culture that is different from what has become the norm for teens, and that this may cause some non-homeschoolers to feel uncomfortable around them.</p>
<p>Last night our pastor called me about a problem with his computer. When I was done with the conversation, my wife asked what it was all about and I mentioned that the pastor had a corrupt file. On hearing this, my 16year-old son scowled and with a deep voice said, Ack! Corruption in the Church! to which we all fell apart in laughter. We wondered aloud what my sons friends thought of his sense of humor. He said his friends way of humor is typically too crude and even profane for them to appreciate his style. And, you know, I have noticed this myself. So while my son enjoys and gets along very well with public-schoolers, he feels different. And they know there is something different about him. They may misinterpret the difference as naivety or a lack of experience, but in fact it is nothing of the sort.</p>
<p>They are sheltered. While you may say football games, prom and exposure to drinking and drugs (and the choice to do them or not) and anything else "aren't important" or are "bad", you are just plain wrong. People need to grow up and not be so sheltered by their parents.</p>
<p>I think it is worth saying here that for the majority of its history the world has done okay without football games, proms, and underage drinking. So I can see why someone might think these activities are unimportant. But I think I see what you are trying to say. There are certain cultural rites of passage common to public-schoolers that homeschoolers typically miss. I nevertheless think homeschoolers can and typically do experience these sorts of rites, but by different means and, in my childrens cases, for apparently different purposes.</p>
<p>The purpose of rites, in my view, is to conduct children toward responsible adulthood. My kids have never had premarital sex, never participated in alcohol abuse, never done drugs or had opportunities to choose these things. But I do not think it is necessary that kids be forced, as part of a rite of passage, to make these choices while they are kids. My oldest child was, as you say sheltered, having only recently had the opportunity to do the things mentioned above. But now she is mature enough to judge wisely. She sees more clearly what is at stake. Therefore, she has swiftly dismissed these destructive behaviors. Also, she knows they are not the activities of her peer group, which consists of such people as her mother, her boss, our pastor, our pastors wife, business men and women, doctors, lawyers, and myself. Basically, my daughter has transitioned into adulthood so that she now identifies more with our interests and less with the interests of immature teens. It is true that our rites of passage did not include football games, but (crossing fingers) they appear to work very well so far.</p>
<p>While home schooling may be right in certain situations (such as a terrible public hs, or other extraneous circumstances) I'd go so far as to say that it is generally useless and restrictive on "growing up" in the world that the kid will soon live in.</p>
<p>I think this generalization is much too broad and unsupported. I suspect, as with most things in life, schooling, whether done at home or in the public, depends upon the people involved and their unique circumstances. It is what you make of it. For me it was a matter of probabilities. I think my circumstances are such that were I to have chosen the public schools (despite that they are supposed to be really great), my children would have succumbed to the same pathologies and academic problems that virtually surround us. I dont say this smugly. I am just a simple guy with hardly anything to show for being alive except my family. What I am trying to put forth is that there are a lot of people who, like me, could really benefit from homeschooling despite our limitations (financial, intellectual, and otherwise), but who summarily dismiss it because of the mistaken beliefs of the prevailing culture.</p>