Honors dorming situation

<p>i heard that non honors students can still dorm in Denton with a honors student though… so ill try to work that out</p>

<p>Yes they can, but that is if there are any vacancies. I don’t know about Denton, but I can tell you that at Centreville they turned some doubles into triples and triples into quads, so that chance might be slim.</p>

<p>I know it is a frightening time, but it is also time for you to spread your own wings. The best way to ruin a close friendship is to live together, trust me, I did it in college for my soph yr and thought we would have a great time, by Dec we were fighting, by May we never spoke again, and I basically went home 1-2x a month and to UMD (was dating Bullet) 1 x a month, so it wasn’t 24/7.</p>

<p>i understand what you are saying and i appreciate your advice, but i shouldve been more clear when in my original post… the friend im talking about is someone i met through Terpnet (kinda like the facebook for new UMD students), so i actually i never even met him before lol</p>

<p>I just want to revisit this issue, I requested a non-honors roommate who I met through TerpNet (we had a lot of the same interests, etc and I know that dorming with an Honors roommate is more recommended but out of all the people I talked to I am most comfortable with the non-honors roommate lol)</p>

<p>But basically i have an option, since dorming with a non honors roommate at Denton is not guaranteed, I can either decide to get Honors housing over my roommate (if the request doesn’t go through), or I can “guarantee” dorming with my roommate at another dorm… </p>

<p>so my question is, as an honors student is it really that important to dorm in honors housing? also if there are any current/past honors students that could give their opinion on this id really appreciate it… as much as I would like to dorm with my roommate I don’t want to give up honors housing if it really is that much more beneficial</p>

<p>Although Denton is by NO means all work and no play, it’s not unusual to find lounges that have kids studying in the evening. I’m not sure you could say that about all freshman dorms on campus.</p>

<p>D was in a (planned) triple in Denton. One roommate studied a lot, the other roommate partied a lot (at frat houses and off-campus parties, mostly). D did most of her studying in the lounge until about midnight, then won money from the guys on her floor playing poker until 2 or so…</p>

<p>Past Denton resident here.</p>

<p>I think Denton tends to have a better mix of students than the non-honors dorm. There is just more diversity in terms of hardcore studiers/hardcore partiers/in between/etc as opposed to mostly people who party. In terms of amenities, though, Denton is the same as any other freshman dorm. Whether it is worth it to give up the mix of people (I mean, you will for sure meet awesome people in any dorm, but I did tend to prefer those in the honors one haha) for this guy you are really connecting with, well, I don’t know. </p>

<p>Your alternative roommate could be really ****ty…and then it wouldn’t be worth it.</p>

<p>But he could also be neutral, and you could befriend this guy who you met on Terp Net outside of being his roommate. </p>

<p>And he could also be awesome…and you could be friends with him AND the guy you met on Terp Net.</p>

<p>Or the guy on Terp Net could be the sucky one haha.</p>

<p>It’s really a crapshoot man, I mean it depends on how LITTLE you connected with the honors people and how MUCH you connected with this guy. Considering the fact that I don’t really believe your roommate makes/breaks the dorming experience (hopefully you don’t spend too much time in your room, anyway), I would say go for the honors dorm over the Terp Net friend, but if you are screwed over by a really ****ty roommate, just don’t blame me ;). Haha. Hopefully you can get the roommate you met on Terp Net as well as the honors dorm!</p>

<p>I am with umcp11. SHOCKER I KNOW! You want to be a room mate of somebody you met on line and connected. The reality is you don’t know this person and their quirks, they are in fact a stranger. I would not want to live in double made triple because of them not getting into the honors dorm. I would not place myself at the bottom of the barrel knowing that we would not be in any classes together.</p>

<p>This is a parent speaking, IMHO you want to room with them for security knowing somebody when you arrive. First, you can do that by hooking up with them that night after moving in, and the benefit is you have increased your social circle hanging in another dorm. Second, every freshman is in the exact same boat regarding honors/gemstone/scholars very few (prob 10%) know anybody. You all will be strangers. Third, the first few weeks are a lot of fun, you will find yourself and make new friendships. Creating a false security blanket rooming with a terpnet friend could also be constricting in building new relationships. You will feel a responsibility to the relationship and may build resentment, stinks if the kids you get along within the dorm don’t like your roomie. You are now forced to choose roomie or friends!</p>

<p>You are not the first kid to go to college and live with a stranger, and I believe that fear is the mitigating factor. Going to college is frightening, since for the 1st time of your life EVERYONE is a stranger, thus asking for a roommate is a security blanket. Please realize when you do this you have a social contract with them, they expect an immediate friendship and your support. IN OTHER WORDS YOU ARE TIED TO THEM, YOU ARE THEIR NEW BEST FRIEND …ARE YOU WILLING TO MAKE THAT COMMITTMENT? </p>

<p>I know my comments seem harsh, but I am not someone who sugar coats and this is the reality of dorm life. You can get a great one, a crappy one or choose them. Great or crappy there is no committment, request one and there is a committment (friendship)</p>

<p>thanks for the reply bullet, just like you said im not one who sugar coats things so im just gona say it straight up, many (of course not ALL, but many) of the honors kids i met through facebook (roomate surveys, etc.) or Terpnet just didnt seem like people i could “connect” with… whereas the guy i met on terpnet who ive also been talkin to often has many of the same interests as me (sports, partying, music, etc.)… most of my friends are also black so that was another factor</p>

<p>either way ill probably end up choosing the honors housing over the roommate but hopefully itll both</p>

<p>I really dont believe that just because your “friend” is your roomate you are tied down to them. I mean he/she is just your roomate! You could make many other social circles around campus because there are so many people! Also it’s what you make of it, sooo you could be tied down and miserable, OR you dont have to be! It’s up to YOU and your roomate…</p>

<p>^Yeah I agree with this, too.</p>

<p>You can even be a REAL friend to your roommate and still make other friends…:P</p>