<p>I'm attending MSU next year and I'm wondering if I can find a long term boyfriend after I date for a while. How hard is it to find a good guy that's marriage potential? Does anyone know if MSU is more known for hookups or dating?</p>
<p>What is your university dating scene like? Is it more hookups than serious dating or just casual dating? Any other tips on college dating? Do you guys have a boyfriend/girlfriend? Talk.</p>
<p>Michigan State or Mississippi State?</p>
<p>Most schools have a much smaller dating scene than hook-up/party scene.</p>
<p>Michigan State</p>
<p>College kids don’t “date” they “hang out with.”
Why are you so hung up on commitment?
Long term bf… marriage potential…?
Might scare off many of the young men of MSU if you plan too far in the future.
You’re young, be carefree, enjoy being single.
That said, if you are willing to lower your standards and loosen your morals… the sky’s the limit.</p>
<p>“Loosen your morals”? What the hell kind of advice is that?</p>
<p>The advice to the OP is she is in total control of her actions, as well as the consequences.
Loosening her morals is just an option.
Didn’t mean to upset you, sirsteveh.</p>
<p>I don’t think it’s that unusual to hope to meet your future husband or wife in college. Lots of people do, and they don’t necessarily get married the second they graduate, either. </p>
<p>That said, my advice would be to find a group of friends who aren’t into hooking up. Some of them will probably be guys. And after that, don’t think too far ahead–don’t start evaluating the boyfriend potential of every guy you meet within five seconds of “hello.” That isn’t as easy as it should be, and for a lot of people (both girls and guys) it takes practice. I think you will be fine.</p>
<p>Obviously most people in college look to hookup but there are always those that look for potential mates too. You just have to look harder and be patient.</p>
<p>“College kids don’t “date” they “hang out with.””</p>
<p>Speak for yourself?</p>
<p>Of course, excluding Twisted, who is in one of the known committed collegiate relationships on CC.
Pardon me.</p>
<p>None of my three kids “hooked up” in college, so I don’t know about “most.” Both D’s went to college with boyfriends they had in high school, in fact. “most” is not accurate.</p>
<p>Your choices are your own, OP, and you create your own future. Just be patient <em>hugs</em></p>
<p>"Of course, excluding Twisted, who is in one of the known committed collegiate relationships on CC.
Pardon me. "</p>
<p>And I dated in college before that, and my friends date now. We “hung out” in high school. That sounds so childish.</p>
<p>The person saying no one dates is ignorant. People do date, but dating is not as common as hooking-up.</p>
<p>Agreed.</p>
<p>I’m in a relationship now albeit with a girl I met in high school, who still goes. It’s pretty good I’d say, although sometimes I feel a bit more “still connected” to high school than I’d like.</p>
<p>OP, it is one thing to be concerned about getting a bf. It is an entirely different thing to be worried about not finding a husband. You are in college to a get an actual degree, not an M.R.S. one. If you are going to college just to get a man, you might be very disappointed.</p>
<p>And as for the hooking up scene, there are plenty of college students who do not participate in the one night stands. In fact, I know of only one person who was into the FWB…most of the kids I know are in long-term relationships or dating.</p>
<p>I personally met my bf through an online dating site. I knew prospects were not high for someone like me in the college dating world so I looked OUTSIDE for a relationship…turned out that we both attended the same college. We’ve now been dating for three and half months.</p>
<p>susgeek, why do you think your kids would tell you, “Oh, Mom, I got hammered and hooked up with a bunch of girls this semester!”</p>
<p>You need to be less oblivious.</p>
<p>^^^Because they are all in LTRs.</p>
<p>OP- If you want to date and not hook-up, you will have to communicate that to the guys you meet. If you ignore the late night texts and bootie calls, you can subtly let him know you expect more. If he does not come around or communicate in the daylight hours, that’s an indication he’s not into you as a person.</p>
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Less likely, but doesn’t prove indefinitely.</p>