<p>You can threaten to sue if it gets serious, but tell her that she will never see you again, and by writing a bad letter, your future will be impacted severely. Ask her if she wants 5 minutes of her time to turn into a lifetime of you suffering. Don't tell it to her, but students have been known to sue if they didn't get into a college. My school does a thing where you sign something saying you and your parents are satisfied with the letter (which I am with all 3 of mine). Get your parents to talk to her, but try and be nice because if you are in ANY SORT OF WAY arrogant or angry, she will not budge. If she refuses, then get angry. But yeah just my thoughts.</p>
<p>Rahoul -- good info. I am going to try again tomorrow, she was not hear today. Also, I am very aware that I can sue for slander if I am rejected because of her lies. Honestly, she would be stupid to be defaming in her app. It would be a good thing for all parties involved if I got into a good school. She's pretty stupid, in my opinion....</p>
<p>If you get good recs from your other sources then hopefully the admissions board will see through the immaturity of your counselor.</p>
<p>You can always file a misconduct complaint with the state.</p>
<p>Wow, I would not recommend telling the lady that you're going to sue her. Lolozl.</p>
<p>edit - Hopefully, your counselor is reading this thread as I type, and she can see what you do think of her - um, doesn't sound like her rec would have to include "slander" and "lies" to get you rejected.</p>
<p>Its tougher than you might think to sue a GC, and even if you do sue them, its not going to get you into your college. If you have the idea that she is "stupid", it will most likely come out in your voice, unless you are a good actor, and if you were a good actor, you probably could have avoided this situation by just keeping your mouth shut and going along with the authority figure, no matter how painful. </p>
<p>You just need to invoke her human feeling of decency and forgiveness, even if you think you were absolutely in the right. Because the teacher is almost never wrong, because even if they are wrong, they are the ones who people will believe, making them as far as your concerned, right. At t30 schools, I'm not going to lie and say GC letter can be eclipsed by teacher recs, because it just cant - small public schools especially, they need to know what your stats mean from your school. So your best bet would be to just convince her to neutrally give your honest standing in your class, just check that you have "most challenging' courseload if you indeed have it, and just move on. It takes less work for her to write a neutral recomendation (which... probably wont get you into t10) but at this point, it seems to me its about damage control. </p>
<p>I hope you learned something from this. That high school is all about who you know, who likes you, and who you take **** from, big surprise there.</p>
<p>Ask your principal to write another letter that states that the GC was wrong, and that he believes you are a very good person. Tell your principal that you will NEVER tell anyone of his letters, and he can send them to each college that you apply to without your GC knowing via mail (not through GC).</p>
<p>Do you know she is going to write a bad rec. or are you just assuming and making the situation worse.</p>
<p>Grudges aside, she is still a professional. I cant see that she would intentionally jeopardize the future of a student at her school</p>
<p>Suck it up and apologize. Regardless of who really initiated this or who has been the worst offender in your battle with the Counselor of Most Awful Evil, an apology will work wonders. If you truly feel she's targeting you (while I imagine that she feels a little annoyed at you, for plausible reasons), an apology places you higher up--she has no reason to hold a grudge, or to let it come out in the recommendation, if you have sincerely come forward and said sorry. Smile and be polite and acknowledge that you might have once been too demanding or rude, even if you don't feel that way on the inside--what's one day of hurt pride to four years at your dream school? Then buy her some tea or baked goods as a thank-you.</p>
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Suck it up and apologize. Regardless of who really initiated this or who has been the worst offender in your battle with the Counselor of Most Awful Evil, an apology will work wonders. If you truly feel she's targeting you (while I imagine that she feels a little annoyed at you, for plausible reasons), an apology places you higher up--she has no reason to hold a grudge, or to let it come out in the recommendation, if you have sincerely come forward and said sorry. Smile and be polite and acknowledge that you might have once been too demanding or rude, even if you don't feel that way on the inside--what's one day of hurt pride to four years at your dream school? Then buy her some tea or baked goods as a thank-you.
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I find this amazingly hilarious, I can't believe I've actually read something like this. I know some of the people here are obsessed with colleges but, if someone hasn't done anything wrong, but there is a big problem with the counselor herself/himself/itself, he should apologize to he/she/it just for the sake of writing a "decent" recommendation (which may not even work)? </p>
<p>Please. There are better solutions out there. What you're saying is not even all about "pride", it's simply ridiculous.</p>
<p>LOL. Made my day for the epic lulz. Thanks.</p>