How did you get your parents to send you to the US?

Student Lounge International Students
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<p>I am an int. student (egyptian) & I got accepted to Drexel with a nice scholarship.
Now, after the long way I have come to achieve this, my mom doesn't wanna send me to the US anymore.
I know that probably many of you faced the same problem..clingy parents/coming from a culture where girls do NOT leave home before marriage..
Maybe you could help me out.?
Any ideas how to get my mom convinced??
This is really urgent, tho, cuz she has to fill out a bunch of papers and deadlines are approaching..
Sucks !</p>

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<p>I’ve always been telling my parents I’m going to study abroad, so when the time came, they didn’t have much choice other than to accept it, really.
But. Things I think may convince your parents:

  • show them how much better US universities are - that they have generally better level of teaching, better equipment etc. (of course if true)
  • show them how much you’ve already done and dedicated
  • show them that you’ve got much more perspectives
  • show them that you may get a better-paid job
  • explain what an amazing scholarship you’ve gotten
  • show them that it’s your dream!</p>

<p>Also, I think that maybe, if that opposition of your parents emerged just now, they might be just simply afraid of an empty nest :wink: In this case, maybe you should talk to them about your adulthood and that you’re not leaving them forever and they will never see you again, explain that you’re not running from them, that there is Skype etc.</p>

<p>I’ll keep my fingers crossed everything will work out well, you’ve gotten an outstanding chance!</p>

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<p>Do you know why exactly your parents are hesitant to let you go? Different reasons require different approaches. To demonstrate a variety of reasons why parents might be concerned:

  • financial reasons
  • fear that you will marry an American and not return home
  • fear that you won’t be able to take care of yourself in a foreign country
  • loneliness on their part
  • doubts that you need a college education at all
  • doubts that Drexel would provide you the best education available</p>

<p>My current roommate is from India and her parents would not let her leave the country until she agreed to marry a local Indian boy (to reassure them that she will come back).</p>

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<p>I’m a parent and as far as I can remember my child always wants to study in the US and when that time came for him/her to apply I helped him/her with everything including daunting applications and driving to SAT/ACT exams.
I never thought that this dream will become a reality and very soon it will, my child will be in the NYU class of 2016 and that’s when it hit me! I’m going to be lonely, worried as hell that soon enough my child will be out in the real world!
I thought about not letting go but then that would be so selfish of me!
But with phone messaging, skype and facebook I know things will be easier for us!
I wish your mom and I are friends or next-door neighbours, then I have someone to share with my “misery”!! :slight_smile:
…just thought I’d share on a parent’s perspective!</p>