<p>I know that a lot of people get great ones, but it seems like an equal number have crappy experiences. How did it go for you upperclassmen?</p>
<p>I hated my roomy until march of freshman year, he was inconsiderate, uncommunicative, today he's one of my best friends on campus. you've got to break in a little.</p>
<p>My freshman roommate and I were very much in the middle--we got along fine, but we weren't best friends. Stayed out of each other's hair, mostly. </p>
<p>Funnily enough, I was really close to my sophomore year roommate and then we had a falling out. haha. </p>
<p>Don't worry about it, it's part of the experience and you'll laugh about it later.</p>
<p>I've talked to a few people about this (tad worried too) and from what I can gather, the extremes (best friends, set-you-on-fire-while-you-sleep) are really rare.</p>
<p>Mostly it's civil but that's about it. It's not the insta-friend process you'd expect. At least that's what I got from those talks.</p>
<p>My roommate and I were both pretty considerate of each other, and we were both unconfrontational. We really never had any disagreements, and we never had a set of rules either. Ironically enough, we had more issues with our next door neighbors than we did with each other. It wasn't a best friend thing either, but it was probably as good a roommate experience as you could ask for.</p>
<p>If you guys haven't met your roommates yet it's probably best that you don't go in with preconceived anxieties--I know it's hard, and I sympathise, totally. But in all likelihood, your future roommates are thinking the same thing. Everyone wants things to work out, so unless they're really ****ed up things aren't going to go badly for the first week at least.</p>
<p>^^ Whoops that sounded more cynical than I intended. What I meant was, roll with it. It's a numbers game.</p>
<p>"Don't worry about it, it's part of the experience and you'll laugh about it later."</p>
<p>this is probably the most important thing said in the whole thread, too many people are caught up and petrified of having a less than perfect roomy, when the point of coming to college and living with others is to cope with these hurdles. Most (almost all) college students end up living with roomates after college, even if they are good friends, they can change, you have to deal with it, and learning to deal with roomates is one of the skills you definitely want to walk away from columbia knowing.</p>