@michelle426 ED schools??! You can only apply to ONE school ED. You need to explain this to your dad. Many colleges share lists of accepted students at ED time, and if you apply to, and are accepted at, multiple schools ED, you may lose your acceptances and have a difficult time finding another school to let you in RD. Also, other students from your high school who apply to those schools in future years might get put in an “auto reject” pile because you broke the ED contract.
What schools have your dad picked out for you, and what are your stats? You need to take a look at the Common Data Set for each of the schools your dad has picked out and show them to him. Explain your likelihood of getting in. Then, apply to the schools he wants you to apply to, making sure he knows that you are, as well as some schools you want to apply to. Ask your dad why he picked the schools, and try to convince him to look at the schools YOU want to look at, too.
It’s possible your dad is just saying that he won’t pay now, and will change his tune once the acceptances (or rejections) start to roll in. In the meantime, though, you need to look at some schools that will give you merit money. There’s a thread on this forum that lists automatic merit scholarships that you might qualify for. You can also receive about $5000 in loan money I think, and you can earn a couple thousand a year by getting a job. Depending on what your stats are, this could be enough to fund your education without your dad having to sign off on anything. That way, even if you don’t get into the schools your dad wants you to get into you’ll be able to live away from home and go to school somewhere. If you’re paying for 100% of the school costs, neither of your parents have to agree with where you go.
In terms of the tutor- even if you don’t think you’ll need one, a tutor can be helpful. Give it a month or so, and if you really don’t think it’s helping, then talk to your dad about that. Show him your grades, and ask if you can take a couple of weeks off from tutoring. Perhaps make an agreement where if you maintain your grades during those weeks, you don’t have to continue receiving tutoring, but if your grades slip (you’ll probably want to define percentages for that- so if your grade drops .00001% your dad can’t force you to go through tutoring because “your grades slipped”) then you’ll resume tutoring.
I’m really sorry this is happening to you. Take a deep breath. I think turning to a third party could be a good idea. Your school’s GC would be the best person for that. Meet with your GC and explain the situation, then ask for help in talking to your parents. Perhaps your GC could also meet with your parents and advocate for you. Your parents would probably listen to the GC.