How do I tell my friend that I do not want to be her prom date?

Pre-College Topics High School Life
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<p>Prom is in June, and so far, I'm a girl without a date. It doesn't really matter to me, as most of my friends are going alone as well. My semi-close friend moved from my school at the end of freshman year. We didn't really socialize when we actually attended school together, but became closer through my best friend and have kept in touch recently. She wants to go to our prom, and she wants me to bring her as my date. Mind you, we're both straight girls. </p>

<p>Couples have to be made official with the school. Seating charts are made, souvineers are personalized with the couple's names on them, couples must be approved by the administration, etc... The reason why I'm not just bringing a guy friend is because prom couples get so legit. Bringing a girl friend would be all the more awkward. She thinks there's nothing wrong with it. And while I'm totally open-minded, frankly, I'm worried about what others will think. It may be blunt, I don't want to go to prom as a lesbian. Not to mention the fact that my school, while on the outskirts of of NYC, is probably not as liberal as one would think and would probably never approve it.</p>

<p>She's already asked my best friend, who turned her down. And she turned to me for support. I would've never thought I'd be next on her list. She's adament about going with one of us. I just don't know what to tell her so she won't be crushed and totally offended.</p>

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<p>Maybe tell her you will be happy to have her as a part of your group and that you two will hang a lot during it?</p>

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<p>Can’t you bring someone but <em>not</em> as your date?</p>

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<p>Quick and painful. A simple no.</p>

<p>Just kidding. Don’t do that. She needs to realize that there are plenty of men out there, though.</p>

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<p>Tell her that like the girl in Mississippi, you don’t want to hit the national news :)</p>

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<p>No. And that’s the problem. If we could, I’d invite her to come as part of the group in a second. </p>

<p>And no, jym626, I definitely don’t want to make national headlines. :p</p>

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<p>Why can’t she be part of your group?</p>

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<p>How about you foist her on a dateless male friend?</p>

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<p>Because in order to come to our prom as an outside student, you have to accompany someone who DOES go to the school as their date. She’ll only consider going with either me or my best friend. Neither of us want that.</p>

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<p>We’ve tried; she finds fault with all. She’ll consider going with only one guy – someone who we don’t really socialize with. Setting them up would be a failure of epic proportions for many, many reasons.</p>

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<p>maybe she is secretly a lesbian.</p>

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<p>Tell her you want her to come (if true), but that it’s only possible if she goes with a random dateless male that you socialize with. </p>

<p>I mean, just be honest…don’t let her ruin your own plans! But be nice and friendly and if she is your friend, she should understand.</p>

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<p>send her a link to this cc thread.</p>