<p>Hey guys, me and my gf have been together for a year and a half. She is younger than me so I only have senior prom this year and not her. Obviously I am taking her to my prom, but another friend I have that goes to an all girls school doesnt have a date to her prom which is 2 weeks after mine. She asked me to go with her just as friends and she knows i have a gf. I kinda told her okay but my gf doesnt know yet. I asked my gf that hypothtically if this girl asked me would she be ok with it and she said fine. I feel terrible about the whole situation and idk what to do.</p>
<p>… Why did you tell your friend you’d go with her when you have a girlfriend?</p>
<p>she didnt have a date and knows i have a gf. She said not to go if shed get mad and that wed go as friends.</p>
<p>around here, everybody goes to the prom with friends if they don’t have dates…as long as your GF is okay with it…no big deal; but you do need to discuss this with her…don’t feel terrible; you are being a good friend!!!</p>
<p>one more thing; if you promise your GF (and stand by it) that you will just take your friend to prom, no after party, no trip to the beach etc, it may go easier…just my take on this…</p>
<p>“I asked my gf that hypothtically if this girl asked me would she be ok with it and she said fine.”</p>
<p>why? just tell her straight-up that u would like to take your friend to prom. if she’s at all reasonable, she’ll be cool with it. not really a big deal, lol.</p>
<p>because weve been so good lately and i dont want to screw things up. even tho she said she would be fine with it i can tell shes acting weird and she wont admit that thats whats wrong.</p>
<p>Seriously, I don’t see what the big deal is. If you think your girlfriend feels uncomfortable, retract your offer and tell your friend that you’re sorry but she’ll have to find someone else. Hook her up with one of your other friends if you feel guilty.</p>
<p>I can’t believe you seriously proposed a hypothetical scenario to your girlfriend lol. Why didn’t you just ask her outright?</p>
<p>You lose both ways. Serious ****-up sir.</p>
<p>No girlfriend is going to believe you when you say you’re “just friends” with another girl, especially when you’re taking her to prom. </p>
<p>I make similar mistakes all the time though.</p>
<p>Agreed, ask your gf directly. Don’t string the friend along, she’s waiting to know if you’re going to be her date. If you are so worried that it will upset your relationship, then the relationship is on shaky ground already. You take a bouquet of flowers on the morning of the other prom to your gf with a mushy note. Then go have a platonic time with your friend at her prom. No grinding dancing, macking out, whatever. Also, don’t get jealous if your gf goes to a dance with one of her " guy friends" in the future.</p>
<p>Well i just asked my gf about it and she said to go. I know for a fact shes not acting herself anymore but everytime i tell her to tell me if its bothering her and i wont go, she wants me to go even more.</p>
<p>Stop bugging her about it. Let your gf think about it for 24 hours (she will get a consensus from her gfs) before you tell your friend yes/no . Your gf is cool. Your repeatedly questioning and doubting the sincerity of her consent will irritate her, don’t mess it up by being insecure. Your gf likes that you are nice to ALL your friends. Lucky man.</p>
<p>“No girlfriend is going to believe you when you say you’re “just friends” with another girl, especially when you’re taking her to prom.”</p>
<p>um…i asked one of my guy friends to be my back-up prom date & he’s dating someone : P haha, great, now i feel like the other woman -_- lol, whatever, i was friends with him first, ya know? ;)</p>
<p>I don’t think it’s a big deal, honestly, but it all depends on what’s normal in your area. There’s nothing particularly romantic about prom, honestly, especially if you’re in a big group. Your gf has nothing to worry about.</p>
<p>But, the decision ultimately needs to be your gf’s. Ask her casually and see what happens. If she’s mad, back off and leave it at that. It’s not worth jeopardizing a relationship.</p>
<p>I think your girlfriend minds a lot, but just is unwilling to say anything.</p>
<p>Or this will be her “Get Out of Jail Free Card” which means she will use this as the excuse to break up.
nyrb123-Will you let us know what happens?</p>
<p>Tons of people go as friends…don’t feel bad. Your girlfriend should chill out about it, if the poster above me is right.</p>
<p>The situation sounds a little petty. I personally don’t find it that big of a deal if you went your friend, but clearly your girlfriend does. She might be testing you by saying things like that, or simply trying to act nonchalant. Either way I’d recommend not going to spare her feelings.</p>
<p>haha of coourse ill let u know.</p>
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<p>this .</p>
<p>Y don’t u just go and not tell ur girlfriend?
If it’s at a diff school, why does she have to know about it?
U can have ur cake and eat it too ;)</p>