<p>Apparently, the kids don't mind...</p>
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<p>I should have said -- the article is from the Los Angeles Times.</p>
<p>Mine does. Which is pretty aggravating, since I could have managed his way into and out of a lot of situations. The ingrate. </p>
<p>Seriously, your link... I'm not signing up for the LA Times. But no doubt the article is good, and underlines what CCers have been saying all along. Kids are held back by lack of parental support, not the opposite.</p>
<p>Well what the article actually says is that most students were happy with their parents' level of involvement. That doesn't mean they're all helicopter parents:</p>
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According to a UCLA survey released today, a whopping 84% of college freshmen nationwide reported that Mom and Dad showed the right amount of involvement in the decision to go to college. Of those, 80.5% said they were fine with the amount of input their parents offered in choosing a school.</p>
<p>"What we might have expected to see, given all the media attention about the helicopter parents, is that maybe a bunch of students would be saying there's too much parental involvement," said John Pryor, director of the annual freshman survey by UCLA's Higher Education Research Institute.</p>
<p>Instead, only about 10% complained that their parents' involvement in the application process was over the top.
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<p>"...84% of college freshmen nationwide reported that Mom and Dad showed the right amount of involvement in the decision to go to college. Of those, 80.5% said they were fine with the amount of input their parents offered in choosing a school."</p>
<p>Now it's "news" that most parents know their kids well and parents and kids agree as a family on an appropriate level of parent involvement in their kids' lives.</p>
<p>I haven't followed the other thread on this so not meaning to repeat things, but I think there is a huge difference between support and going over the top. A giant difference between supportive parents and the true helicopter parents that people focus on.</p>
<p>Finding and pointing out potential good fit schools and other resources? Wonderful. Calling professors to discuss why their child didn't get a particular grade? Inappropriate. Driving kid to dorm? Absolutely. Attending the student orientation? Wrong. Providing tutors when needed? Great. Copy editing your child's comprehensive PhD exam? No. These are things I've seen and it suggests serious 'boundary issues' to me.</p>
<p>I see tons of things young minds can and should do but now on occasoin their parents are doing it and it's frankly bizarre to me. Sure the kids don't mind- the ones I ask think is normal and it's less work for them! Moreover, such kids CANT do those things (orthink they can't) so of course they don't object. That doesn't mean its good for them or right. </p>
<p>Having said that, I think the above extremes, and similar ones are actually the minority. I don't think most parents are true helicopter parents. I think this term is getting overused and we focus a lot on the unusual strange parent behaviors but for most its just normal support.</p>
<p>Sorry - I wasn't trying to sign anyone up for the Times! I think you can see it by going to <a href="http://www">www</a>. latimes.com and clicking on the California section (on the left) and scrolling down. That's how I did it.</p>
<p>"Copy editing your child's comprehensive PhD exam? No."</p>
<p>Now, waite just a minute!</p>