how is winter break going?

<p>I just thought I'd ask. I'm sure everyone else is having a great time. I might be one of the few that isn't--I've only got one solid friend left from HS that may not last much longer. I've only had two social outings thus far (and everyone else leaves next week.) I try and write folks from college and high school but they don't write me, so I feel out of the loop on social events. It seems as if I've completely disappeared from everybody's radar.</p>

<p>During the summer before freshman year (2005) I got the same responses from my high school friends. No one wrote me until August (and the message was "how has your summer been?"), and I was trying to figure out how to explain three months of summer break in ten seconds or less to everyone, given that they weren't interested previously. I fear the same thing may happen here--I'll have to explain five weeks of break in five seconds or less.</p>

<p>I don't think in terms of sound bites; I much prefer to explain things in detail, complete with examples. What do I do?</p>

<p>Well, do any of your college friends live in the area?</p>

<p>Afraid not; they're all over the state.</p>

<p>Well...for me, it's been a very quiet break and I'm absolutely happy to do nothing. Nobody from my college has really contacted me, it's been mostly 3 of my HS friends and that's fine. Everyone's got their own agenda. If they wanna talk to me: fantastic, if not, oh well. I live a pretty quiet, boring life so I understand that some people are super busy and I'm not the most memorable person in the world and that's cool :). I think if you want to give a detailed example of how things are doing: you should. Don't try to figure out a way to please them by forgetting about yourself. If they at least asked, they're probably even slightly interested...so you should express yourself in a way that makes YOU happy :)</p>

<p>Sorry if this didn't really help you out :-/ I've read your other post but I didn't comment on it because what I would've said would've been a repeat to almost everyone else. I really wish you the best of luck :) You seem like a nice guy so I hope things work out for you :)</p>

<p>My break is incredibly boring. I can't believe I'm saying this, but I can't wait until school starts again. I have more fun in college than I do at home, which is understandable since my parents aren't there to keep an eye on me. I've mostly been cleaning the house since that's what I do when I'm bored. I've watched tons of movies now, hung out with some family, shopped, and hung out with my boyfriend who lives 30 minutes away. </p>

<p>As for my high school friends, I think I've grown apart from mostly all of them, even my best friend of 7 years. :( It's as if she doesn't even make an effort to hang out with me anymore. She would rather go hang out with her other friends than with me. I don't know. It bothers me sometimes, but then I just get annoyed because I have tried to be friendly and inviting, but she just acts so disinterested. I remember the first week back home, I asked her if she wanted to hang out with me twice and both times she was like 'Oh, I might be hanging out with so and so tomorrow' and so and so is someone who lives in town with her and sees her practically everyday whereas I've been living 3 hours away for the past 4 months. I've been home 2 weeks now and I've only hung out with her once and noone else. I think a lot of this has to do with what happened between me and my ex. We had a lot of mutual friends in high school, but after something that happened in October (basically I refused to hook back up with him), he started spreading these stupid lies about me to our friends...how juvenile is that? :( At least I still have my current boyfriend, my roomie, and the awesome friends I've made in college. :)</p>

<p>Nobody from my high school has contacted me... People who I thought I was friends with go out with each other never telling me. I feel extremely left out. Thankfully I found good friends in college or else I don't think I would have survived my 4 years there.</p>

<p>What I've learned is that if you can enjoy being alone most of the time if you had to, then you are set for life (well not really but you know what I mean). And I think that I am so used to be alone that it's become my enjoyment. It's nice to know that I will never need to depend on people in my life for happiness. But hey, I guess I live on a completely different wavelength than most people I guess. ;)</p>

<p>Generally I don't mind being alone that much... However right after I started school (I go to school in California) my family moved out to New Mexcio. So I basically have no friends at all out here, and have been totally alone for the last two and a half weeks. It was nice seeing the family, but I'm very ready to get back now.</p>

<p>i'm in the same position as most of you. my family moved an hour away from my h.s. town after graduation so i don't really know anyone here. the few friends from high school that i wanted to see have become very distant from me, and we don't really talk too much anymore. the little plans we had to meet up over break have all fallen apart, so i've only seen one person throughout, and only for a couple hours. i'm so ready to go back to school this weekend, my new life is there. i feel like there's no real connection to my "home life" anymore, apart from my family.</p>

<p>It seems pretty standard from here that people grow apart from high school friends.</p>

<p>Heh, I feel the same way as a lot of you I guess. Most of my friends at high school were more "academically oriented" than "party oriented" I guess, so not a lot of them actively go out to do stuff. </p>

<p>And, I mean, I hate to say it, but I've probably had more fun in the 10 weeks at UC Santa Barbara compared to all of high school... and UCSB is such a huge refreshing change after spending 2 years at a community college.</p>

<p>I'm a pretty independent person, so it doesn't really bother me, but I still can't wait wait to get back :) Sure, there's always stuff like dorm drama but it's all part of the experience.</p>

<p>I never have to experience "dorm drama" or "apartment drama" because I don't know anyone nearby me so it's all good. The friends I do have are a lot more academically oriented like rc251 said. And yes I am very independent (I've been called too independent before).</p>

<p>It's gone, and I am now back in a winterless land... <em>sigh</em></p>

<p>Haha yeah back to the grind for me on Monday. Seven books for one class is not going to be fun. I would drop the class if I didn't love the material so much.</p>

<p>adconard, what college are you attending?</p>

<p>I have ten books for my epistemology class, but I too would drop the class were it not enjoyable.</p>

<p>UNC Charlotte.</p>

<p>What about you? Are you in grad school or something?</p>

<p>No, I am an undergraduate at Georgetown.</p>

<p>Wow, well I must admit. I am pretty impressed. Good luck with that. Epistemology sounds pretty interesting but they aren't offering it at my school this semester. I will be taking Existentialism, Contemporary Philosophy, and Metaphysics though.</p>

<p>I am dying to take metaphysics.</p>

<p>my winter break has ended....I started back today. I definitely needed the small two week break that I had though and it was fabulous.</p>