<p>Well
I don't know if I can help- but perhaps this will help others who aren't at this stage of the process.</p>
<p>Parents and potential college student being aware of what is available at the outset- is critical.
If there aren't any savings- say so.</p>
<p>Let students know how much you can afford to spend and how much you will take from income/assets/loans to help fund their college.</p>
<p>Students be prepared to take jobs in high school, to get experience for those summer positions- even if your high school job is volunteer.</p>
<p>Be prepared to earn $3,000 or so, each summer to contribute to your tuition if necessary & be prepared to take out loans- hopefully small and subsidized.</p>
<p>If your family is unwilling/unable to pay EFC- don't just apply to schools that only offer need based aid and are expensive.</p>
<p>Remember- EFC is expected to be met with loans/assets/income.
If you have no housing debt, all that equity is assumed to be available to borrow.- or the money that you would be paying for a mortgage, available to pay tuition.</p>
<p>As far as negotiating need based aid.
Negotiate, is not a word I would use with the colleges.
IF two comparable schools, give you significantly different packages, I would check to see that the school that isn't as generous has all the pertinent information. Phrase it more - that you are wondering if they considered this.... issue for example.</p>
<p>Say, your parents paid off the mortgage because now they are on a limited income and didn't want that expense. That can be stressed to the college, but be prepared for them not to change their mind.
My daughters college didn't & we refinanced our house to access the money.
( It wasn't even a case of paying it off- but because in our area- real estate has gone through the roof) Now we have a higher house payment than we would like- but that was our choice.</p>
<p>Its good to have choices- I don't know much about the schools you mentioned- and I can see your parents point- do they have an idea of what they can afford, or was it more a case of lets see where you get in, and we will see how much we think it is worth?</p>