<p>This is a d3 question...so no guarantees for admission but probably going to apply ED with coach's support.</p>
<p>When d has made her decision, she will have to let the various coaches know that she is applying ED somewhere, and that if the ED round doesn't work out, she will apply RD everywhere else. Will the other schools be asking what her first choice is? And is there a such thing as revealing too much information? Could it hurt the athlete somehow if the various coaches know which schools you have visited and what your top choices are?</p>
<p>Just heard a story about a nasty coach/recruit encounter...a coach we have talked to and who seemed perfectly nice...so wondering if this coach will turn into the Hulk if/when d calls and says she is applying ED elsewhere. And wondering how much info really needs to be shared.</p>
<p>Would appreciate some been there/done that stories so I can prep my reserved 17 year old properly for those calls.</p>
<p>Interesting question - and always frustrating when a 17 year old has to have discussions like this with a coach.</p>
<p>All I can tell you, is that if a coach turns into the Hulk over recruiting conflicts, he/she will certainly turn into the Hulk during the season as the team runs into obstacles. At least this way, you’ll see the Hulk early on (if it’s there) and make a decision wisely.</p>
<p>Our experience was not D3 but we found to be up front candid and honest was the best way to go about things. Sports circles are small and coaches do speak to one another so I would suggest being honest but no reason to disclose more information than you need to.</p>
<p>I am also planning to prepare my D for that too. I am thinking of having her telling choice 2 truthfully what she likes about them, but that choice #1 has this particular thing she is looking for. And hope the coach will understand. Like imafan said, if he turns into a hulk, then it’s better to know now than later. My question for everyone is, would it be better to call him to talk directly or to send an email? I think my D will be very timid in telling a coach no, but I feel it’s the right way to do it.
BTW, livesinhobbiton, when we talk to coaches, they came straight out and ask us which schools we are looking at. So they do know. We don’t say anything if they don’t ask, but we answer truthfully when they ask.</p>
<p>There is potential for a Jekyll and Hyde response from a coach that has been recruiting her. And if you get one of those, it should just serve as further reassurance that you’ve made the right decision to commit elsewhere. </p>
<p>The good coaches will wish you well and leave the door open.</p>
<p>I agree with Varska. My son went through this last year.He sent all the coaches very nice emails informing them of his ED choice and asking them if things didnt work out could he
reconnect in the future. All were extremely nice except for one of the coaches and like Varska said as of now it seems like he made the correct choice.
Good luck</p>
<p>Thankfully none of the coaches that are recruiting DD have asked her this. They all want to know if they are still on her list, which they are. She doesn’t really have one clear favorite so she wouldn’t be able to answer this. She has 5 schools that are all in the running and now the final decision will come down to money. She has told these 5 schools that they are one of her top choices. The other schools she has simply said that they are still on her list. She should have the rest of her acceptances (or not) in by the end of next week and we should have the money figured out shortly thereafter so she can make her decision by November. We have told her that she needs to CALL every coach with her decision though.</p>
<p>Just curious–how did you get the $$ figured out for various schools? I’m in a similar boat; I’m sure many are–the money does make a difference. Is your DD looking at D3? While the schools we have talked to all do academic pre-reads, several have a firm policy, in writing on the website, that they do no financial pre-reads and just to use the online calculator. Their theory is that since it is all based on need, the offers will all be the same. And I guess that is a second question for those who have been through this–since this is D3 and no athletic $$–were all of your packages virtually the same from the various schools?</p>
<p>We asked at various visits if they do pre-reads and the schools she is applying to will. Mostly it will be merit money and athletic aid so that information is on most websites. “Other” money has been alluded to in various visits so that is the uncertain part of the process. Once her acceptances are in we are contacting financial aid offices to see what they will tell us. Most of the coaches have told her outright what they will give her for athletic aid. The few that haven’t are the ones we are wondering about. She has 2 D3 schools on the list and those are the unknowns right now.</p>
<p>your situation sounds clear-cut, SteveMA, I am envious! d just didn’t want to go the d1/d2 route, although she could have been done with the process before the Nov. NLI signing day.</p>
<p>hockeymom, none of the schools d is looking at offers a financial aid pre-read. so we will be in the dark with financial aid also. we are taking that risk because our EFC on a couple of the calculators was very decent. but no, the EFC is not the same at every school! make sure you do the calculators just to have a relative comparison.</p>
<p>Is it standard practice to tell the other coaches where you decided to go ED? I agree with SteveMA, I think it is better to call, but I am worried that d will be very nervous and I should help her write a script. I’d like to know what uncomfortable questions might come up, although I know I can’t really help her through every eventuality.</p>