My hair person only accepted cash (after Covid) and refused to take credit cards. Although that wasn’t a big deal most of the time, it put pressure on me to always have cash and I got annoyed. She was also expensive. I always gave her a big tip (didn’t mind).
The person down the street also only accepts cash and he is much better and half the cost (and he refuses to take tips despite me trying to give).
I needed a place that will take credit cards for convenience. I also liked the second hairdresser who is better and cheaper, and required much less cash.
How often would you be going to the dermatologist if you take botox and aesthetician out of the equation? Once or twice per year?
Not sure what it is like in your area but where I live, all of the medical professionals are so, so busy. It’s tough/a wait to get appointments. I don’t want to say they wouldn’t notice you have (Mostly) left them, but…they might not really notice? I’d be shocked if your Derm brought up that you were getting botox elsewhere. There a million reasons for you to do so - quality, price, proximity…
For your aesthetician, since you mention she feels sort of like a friend and you enjoy her company, I might give her one more chance and let her know that you don’t feel like your last few appointments have been very effective, someone recommended different product to you, would she suggest anything different than what has become your routine appointment.
But I really don’t think you need to feel guilty about using people who are providing better service elsewhere.
I had a hairdresser I used when I worked downtown and for a few years after I stopped. She was fast and excellent and quite reasonable. It was not so convenient to drive into town from the suburbs once I no longer worked in town (took time and had to find & pay for parking), so my visits to her got much more sporadic and I found other hairdressers over time. I never “broke up” with her and she seemed very busy anyway.
Last time I looked her up, she’s retired and no longer cutting hair in town. I now use a place like supercuts — inexpensive, quick, and serves my needs.
I generally only see the dermatologist once a year (unless I notice something unusual).
I know I am overthinking the aesthetician issue.
Interestingly, I have had two hairdressers over the years who have broken up with me, simply because they scaled back their working hours. One quit doing hair for anyone other than her family, but the other one just needed/wanted to scale back, and I didn’t make the cut (pun intended). That one did kind of hurt. She was a someone I had met in Bible study and then started going to for haircuts and for whom I played the guitar in her second wedding! So, the fact that she didn’t retain me when she retained other clients kind of bugged me. I wasn’t complicated, and I do tip well. She didn’t do it in a mean way, but I felt like she was pretty abrupt and indifferent in how she did it.
I worked with a Pilates trainer for over five years. Weekly private sessions, group classes, planned to go on a trip she was leading. I treated her like she was a family member and have vowed to never do that again - because at the end of the day, I was just a $$ to her.
Now I’m ready to break up with the trainer I’m working with because I hate being juggled around on the schedule so he can squeeze more clients in. I’ve had to cancel training this week because I have a stomach bug and he’s just acted annoyed. Sorry I’m sick! But - I started out doing half hour sessions twice a week now I’m doing an hour three times a week. I finally got a 6 am slot; he asked if I could move to 6:30, which I could; then he asked me to go to 5:30 am. I have been trying it and it just makes for a very, very long day for me. When I cancelled my session this week, I understood being charged because it was less than 24 hours notice. He then cancelled H’s session - but still charged us for it. I don’t think that’s reasonable.
So, I may try to be like others here and fit some lifting in on my own. I’ve been working with him for over a year - I feel like I may know a little bit by this point. I’m sure he can easily replace me.
Our PT has never charged us if we cancel, especially because we are feeling ill. She’s grateful we don’t bring our germs to her and her place. My other providers didn’t charge any of us for canceling and rescheduling when we had covid either.
I broke up with my eyebrow girl for a similar reason. She had an online scheduling portal and almost every time she would text me asking me to change my time to later (presumably so she had all her clients coming in one right after the other, without a lag). I mean, don’t have an open time and then make me change it! In that case, I just ghosted her because we had no relationship outside of small talk (which I hate). She never contacted me to ask why, which IMO isn’t very good business sense but
I stopped going to my in-law who was a dentist because he’d cancel on me on the last minute, after i got babysitters and cleared my calendar. Once was understandable, 2nd time never again.
OP, I completely understand your feelings. Yes, she is a professional and she no longer meets your needs, but you also have/had a relationship. I don’t think I’d write a break up note, but if I saw her in the world or in the doctor’s office, I’d act happy and excited to see her and catch up. But not make excuses unless she asked, then say most of my needs were being met by x and that I was just a derm client now.
I broke up with a myofacsial massage therapist I no longer needed. I saw her one last time and then did not make a follow up and said I felt better and thank you. I liked her as a person, I sent her more clients, but did not see her again.
Well, this would bug me a lot. Any way you can do one more session with him (hopefully NOT changed or cancelled by him) and then tell him to consider H’s cancelled by trainer session that was paid for to make it even?
I’ll get it worked out with the gym. I buy packages through them for sessions with him and they will probably credit mine too. I give them a lot of money every month. He’s been very reliable and I do like him but I suspect he’s trying to build his own business and I would probably not be a part of that (my choice).
