<p>could the parents check online if the students have lunch or not, just like we do the online banking ? if allowed, there is no need to send a message every minute in order to know the details.</p>
<p>The meal plan is part of RPS, which is accessible thru OneStart or via the RPS website. It states on both these sites that it is restricted to the students access. The parents access is only to view Bursar bills. I have looked at my daughter’s account with her when she logged in when I visited her last week, it does give a meal summary, but no specific details on the purchase, just when, where and how much, I don’t recall if the summary gave a time of day. For example it says:
8/5/13 Gresham Food court $2.25
It will not tell you they ate a burger and fries. The $2.25 would be the I-Bucks (40%) price, it will also show a current I-Bucks balance. The money you have put in the meal plan will have been converted to I-Bucks, so don’t be alarmed if the balance looks less than what you paid.</p>
<p>Are you attempting to check if your son ate lunch or not? Or if your meal plan provides for lunch</p>
<p>thanks a lot, mama. Could you please give me a link in order to view Bursar bills? yeah, I just want to know if DS ate lunch or not by checking online instead of texting him many times a day.</p>
<p>BTW, DS told me he still could not use CampusAccess card to do the laundry, he is in Wright.</p>
<p>applepear…are you really checking if your child is eating lunch?</p>
<p>No, yankees, actually I just want to know if DS is still ok at school, he is the only child in the family. This is the first time for him to leave home. and I am so worried, I want to know where he is every hour. Sometime I sent message and could not get response, then I will become very worried. By checking online, I will feel comfortable if I see he is going for breakfast, lunch, or dinner. I could not sort out other ways to know he is safe in case I could not reach him. I hope your kids can understand. But I believe I would not worry that much after some time when we are used to it.</p>
<p>applepear–A bit of unsolicited advice here: It’s time to trust yourself and to trust your son. Trust that you raised a competent young man. Trust that your son is fully able to figure out that when he is hungry he needs to eat. Unless there is some sort of health issue or disability this will happen. </p>
<p>I understand how odd it is to not know where your child is 24 hours a day after 18 years of generally knowing this information. Again, trust the job you did as his parent. As much as we try to make things perfect for our children, we can’t always do so. The good news is that people learn from problems. By allowing your son to solve the minor problems he encounters, such as difficulty with his Campus Access card and laundry, he will become more competent and more adult. </p>
<p>BTW-his solutions may not always be your solutions. He will learn though. </p>
<p>Watching my kids go to IU and become young adults has been as exciting and as gratifying as watching them walk or read for the first time. I didn’t witness every moment of it, but I was “treated” to the maturing young people every time I see/saw them.</p>
<p>I cannot say it any better than rrah did, what a heartfelt post. Apple pear, this is a growing/learning time for us as parents as well, we need to learn how to let go. You will not know where your son is every hour, if you try to hold him to that it will be a difficult transition for both of you. </p>
<p>He will eat when he is hungry. Teenage boys aren’t going to go without food. Encourage him to drink a lot of water (there is a hydration station in Wright Food court). </p>
<p>My biggest concern is safety (my daughter told me I must have been born with the cautious gene), I am trying to perfect the fine line between loving and smothering, it can be challenging, but our ultimate goal is independent adults, so we need to give them the freedom to become that. It needs to be less about us and more about them.</p>
<p>applepear…I am a freshman this year and very far from home. Just keep in mind there is no way your son can always text you back immediately so dont worry if you dont hear from him right away. You need to give him some freedom or he will grow up worrying about everything. My mom always says that bad news travels fast so if you dont hear from him he is most likely in class or doing something really fun.</p>
<p>thanks a lot, rrah, mama and yankees. I definitely will take your words, and leave him alone, let him grow up to be an independent young adult.</p>
<p>The kids will be fine. My parents dropped me off at IU in Fall 1982 without a cell phone, computer etc. and I was fine. I did have a couple of Oh Sh… moments but I figured out that yes you may need an umbrella when it rains, you actually have to have money in your account when you write a check etc. After a couple weeks of classes, I was good to go. Put yourself in their shoes when you were 18 yrs old. You survived just fine right?</p>
<p>I just want to add to this. I so understand the emotions and concern you feel. I have spent the last couple days wondering how D is adjusting and what she is doing. BUT, I think no news is good news. I haven’t heard from her except a text about an insurance issue. So, she must be adjusting-otherwise she would call. </p>
<p>Do not drive yourself crazy in checking with him, especially what he is eating. There is so much free food this week, that you may drive yourself over the edge with worry if you do not see the dining card used frequently enough. </p>
<p>Set up a weekly touchpoint so you can get through your week and give him the confidence to get through his adjustment. </p>
<p>Every hour is too hard for students. It will impede his ability to make friends, adjust, and get his work done. </p>
<p>It is so hard though isn’t it?</p>
<p>Hi all. It looks like the $50 in CampusAccess money was added to the students’ cards today. I see it on the bursar bill and my daughter said she sees it on her card now. Frustrating that they didn’t tell us WHEN it would be added, as she has already done laundry twice now without it.</p>
<p>To the parents of newly-launched freshman, I’m here with you! Before she left, DD and I would have long daily face-to-face chats about everything going on and just life in general. Now it has mainly been the occasional text message and it’s HARD! But she did call me today, she had a short break between meeting with her academic advisor and lunch with friends, to let me know she has just been extremely busy with all of the welcome week activities and she’s doing great. So I can confirm that no news is GOOD news, and that we parents just need to get used to this new normal of much less communication. But hey, we’ve got each other :)</p>
<p>That is the truth about the free food this week. I think my daughter has hit every free food event. She texted me the other night bragging that she ate so many free cookies , she almost got sick.</p>
<p>I don’t think I used a single meal point outside of breakfast during Welcome Week. CultureFest, free pizza, etc. etc. </p>
<p>IU does a really great job of immersing freshmen into what IU has to offer–and also does the dual job of keeping freshmen from feeling so homesick immediately</p>