How to convince my mom to let me go out of state?

<p>I live in California and I want to go to Baylor University in Texas as an undergraduate next year. I know I have to apply and get admitted first, but I also need my parents’ blessings first. My dad is really supportive of all my decisions so he will be easier to convince, but my mother on the other hand, is set on sending me to University of California-Irvine or Santa Barbara or other California schools other Asian parents have heard of. My grades are fine, they aren’t perfect 4.5 GPA and I have never caused any troubles during school and off school hours. I brought up Baylor University with my mom once, but she thinks I’m going there because of a guy. I want to go there because I want a wider perspective of the country. I’ve been to Boston, which is in the East Coast, now I want to go to a state in the Central part. I plan on majoring in English and coming back to California to Cal State Long Beach to get my teaching credentials. There is no financial problem because I agreed to get a job while going to school and they are willing to pay for my tuition. I just need some advice on how to convince my mom on letting me go to Baylor University.</p>

<p>First of all, you really have to figure out what is that draws you to Baylor, since there are millions of colleges in the central portion of the united states. Second of all, you need to sit down with your mom and have a conversation with her about college in general. Listen to her thoughts and points of view about where she wants you to go and then explain in detail your reasons for wanting to go to Baylor. Show her the “virtual tour” of Baylor online as well (that’s what convinced my mom to let be go to Baylor). Once your mom see’s how much you want to go, she will let you go. She’s just trying to protect her baby, and keep her close to the next. My mom is that way as well! And my dad is like yours, very supportive and open to whatever adventure I want to par take in next! So. Overall you just need to have a one on one, calm conversation with your mom!<br>
I hope this helps! And good luck convincing your mom to see your desire to branch out to Baylor university! I hope I could help! </p>

<p>(ignore this last phrase…I cannot delete it for some reason.) concersation with your mom.</p>

<p>Maybe you would like to attend a different school, Baylor is not located in the best part of town.</p>

<p>A little late, but I’m a Californian (and an Asian) who went to Baylor and loved it. </p>

<p>But anyway, I agree with Cheer2Texas that you need to figure out exactly what it is that draws you to Baylor. Just saying that you want to visit the central part of the country isn’t enough; you could always just take a weekend trip. Realize that Waco is very different from Southern California, and Baylor is a very different school than some of the others you listed. That’s not a bad thing necessarily. I also wanted to live in another part of the country, so that was a point in Baylor’s favor…but it wasn’t the only reason I wanted to go there. Once you clarify your reasons for wanting to go to Baylor and not to the hundreds of other colleges that aren’t on the East Coast or in California, you can present these to your parents in a calm and adult fashion. I’d also agree to apply to some of those other schools, and visit all of them. It’s always good to be open to going to more than one place, particularly since you have so much time before you need to come to a final decision. And when that final decision comes, your parents will be more likely to respect whatever you choose if you show that you’ve thought long and hard about it.</p>

<p>I know college application time can be stressful, particularly when you’re dealing with parents as well as the actual application process, so good luck!</p>

<p>Maybe you and my daughter can switch places -lol- we live in Texas and would like her to go to Baylor but she wants to go to California. Honestly, Baylor is a great school. The town it is (Waco) in is rather boring but that also means it is a safe place too (you could play that up to your mom). Our older son went to Baylor (didn’t graduate from there - long story - but that is no negative reflection on Baylor). We did a college tour of several prominent LA area colleges (USC, UCLA, Claremont Colleges, Pepperdine) this summer and I kept thinking that Baylor is just as good, if not better, than all of them. Perhaps you could ask your parents to at least take you for a visit (Baylor Premiere is coming up soon). Plus, Baylor offers great scholarships (check out their scholarship calculator). Good luck!</p>

<p>Okay, playing the devil’s advocate here. As a parent, I would not be willing to pay OOS tuition of $33,910 plus $11K in room/board and travel (didn’t even include it here). What kind of job can you get as an 18 year old that makes ~$45,000. So you’re willing to have your parents pay almost $200K for your education? </p>

<p>I don’t think you’re dealing with reality. You want to go to Baylor to major in English. Then you want to come back to California to get your teaching credential. You do realize that you will be taking multiple courses in Teacher Education at LBSU before getting anywhere near a teaching credential for the State of California? </p>

<p>You also realize that the state of California is in budget crisis mode and teachers get pink slips every year? If you get a teaching credential in California will you be able to find a keep a job; and decide to move to another state, you have to take that state’s boards to get a teaching credential in that state. </p>

<p>Now, I did let my daughter go from California to NY and it was a simple decision because they funded my daughter whereas Johns Hopkins didn’t. She was looking for the best school match for HER and got into a good engineering program. </p>

<p>talk to both of your parents at the same time and review, not only the programs, but the cost calculations because if you end up without money, you’ll be going to your local CC.</p>

<p>Since Baylor is private, all the tuition is the same (no OSS tuition).</p>