How to convince my mom to let me leave iit jee coaching?

<p>I will definitely apply to us colleges in about a year. I don't even want to study at iit.
The problem is that my mom is insistent on me giving jee.
I have to attend classes for these exams 3-4 days a week,and 4 hours one class.also,they give a buttload of homework.
Along with school,this doesn't give me time to study for SAT,or any other test.how do I convince my mother to let me leave these classes?</p>

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<p>@Heisenberg98‌ We are sailing in the same boat! I had a very tough time completing my research and developing the manuscript and attending 6-hour classes every day(even on Sunday), completing the loads of HW that they give and not to mention the weekly tests. These classes suck all the energy out of your life. It is really not advisable for people to do both(JEE prep and college admissions abroad) since both demand a lot of input from aspirants if they want to excel.
For the SATs, I did regular practice and at least made it a point to take a single test each week. After this week, I have a relatively easy period and hence, can devote around 4-5 hours daily to SAT prep. </p>

<p>If your goal is to study in the US, you will need extracurricular activities on your CV to demonstrate that you can do something besides just being a studious drone.</p>

<p>@GMTplus7‌ I can assure you that I am in no way, a studious drone(nice one BTW). I have played soccer and basketball up to the district level and have captained my basketball team. I have also participated in various olympiads, performing exceptionally well in some. I have also carried out a research project on my own. My work has been accepted by a peer-reviewed journal and I am the lead(and the only) author on that paper. Apart from that, I have created a lot of computer-games for leisure purposes. I have taken lots of online courses and have done well in them too. I am also applying to SSP and SUMaC this year(hopefully, I get into one of them). Academics are great and I will be taking the SAT next month. What else do you need to convince your parents?</p>

<p>I was in a similar predicament last year. I’m now in twelfth studying in a reputed ISC school. I just had four days to prep for my SAT and thus got a 1990. However in SAT 2 things turned out to be a bit different and I got a 2380 without preparing at all. Although I have gotten into Purdue and Penn State, I still go to JEE classes. My advice to you is that attend the classes, as they will give you better conceptual understanding than the school can give you. Attend the lectures that fascinate you, for example I never attended OC lectures. Tell your mother what genuinely interests you. And about EC’s, just make sure you have one sport and one literary/ cultural activity in hand during your high school and hopefully you’ve had loads till tenth grade. That is sufficient for many colleges apart from the Ivies and other biggies. Hope this helped.</p>

<p>I was in a similar predicament last year. I’m now in twelfth studying in a reputed ISC school. I just had four days to prep for my SAT and thus got a 1990. However in SAT 2 things turned out to be a bit different and I got a 2380 without preparing at all. Although I have gotten into Purdue and Penn State, I still go to JEE classes. My advice to you is that attend the classes, as they will give you better conceptual understanding than the school can give you. Attend the lectures that fascinate you, for example I never attended OC lectures. Tell your mother what genuinely interests you. And about EC’s, just make sure you have one sport and one literary/ cultural activity in hand during your high school and hopefully you’ve had loads till tenth grade. That is sufficient for many colleges apart from the Ivies and other biggies. Hope this helped.</p>

<p>@fbhsfhthj‌ How did you cope up with studies in classes and colleges? I do not have a problem with attending the lectures but it is the huge burden that comes with it - 3 tests a week, a full mains+advance test at the end of the month and loads and loads of assignment. I have done a few ECs(which you can look above) and am currently working on something. I find it very hard to prepare for the SAT, work on a site that I am building and keep up my performance in the classes. How did you do that?</p>

<p>@mumbai98‌ See when it came to academics, there wasn’t much I could do as the topper himself in science stream was only around 85%. And ISC English is a pain in the ass. I had started my JEE classes only by July, so they didn’t help me much in school academics. In eleventh I went to JEE classes purely to gain knowledge. I didn’t take the tests very seriously although I was doing pretty well till the fag end of eleventh. The combo of college and classes were pretty relentless. On certain days, I used start from at 7:30 and used to only return home by 10 in the night. I gave up on football, tennis, piano and other stuff in twelfth. Half way through twelfth, I realized that IIT didn’t fascinate me one bit so I compromised on JEE prep and worked on my essays and stuff. You have pretty amazing EC’s, apply to two-three of your dream colleges and some colleges which understand the predicament of Indian students like Purdue. And anything above 1950 will get into you colleges with strong engineering programs (you want to major in engineering, right? ) Make sure you ace the SAT 2 and give an additional English proficiency test. You have great chances at some of the Ivies :)</p>

@fbhsfhthj‌ I have the same schedule as you did! I go to school at 7.30 and come back at 9 in the night.

As for marks in college, it is fairly easy since I am in the HSC board and my school tends to evaluate leniently. 90% and above can be achieved with a bit of hard-work.

I have a clean stretch till mid-January so I have pumped up the SAT preparation. I will ditch the exam in mid-Jan to prepare for the SAT because I do not want to waste time taking the SAT again. I will take the SAT in may/june/october depending upon how my summer schedule plans out(applying to a few summer programs) and I am also taking the TOEFL this march.

Are you applying elsewhere?

I have also applied to UT Austin, UCB, UCLA (though I can’t afford both these), Cornell(financial aid), UIUC, GaTech(not sure if I can afford this also), MIT(financial aid) in the US. In the UK I have applied to U of Manchester, U of Nottingham, UCL, Imperial College of London and Oxford. Got accepted by Manchester and Nottingham, rejected by Oxford(anyway couldn’t afford it, and my eleventh grades sucked big time). You should give IELTS rather than TOEFL. It’s easier and opens up prospects in the UK.

@fbhsfhthj‌
My college offers TOEFL courses and I do not know of any prep classes nearby that offer coaching for the IELTS. I am not going to apply to UK universities since FA is not a problem. I also do not like the weather in the UK(Had been there for a month or so). Also, everything except the the stores at the city centre shuts down after 6 or 7. Not a place for me.

@mumbai98‌ Yeah sure, whatever suits you. I’m a football fan, that’s one of the reasons I’m applying to UK. All the best for the future.

@fbhsfhthj‌ All the best to you too!