<p>I live in an apartment with my roommate and 6 other girls. My roommate and I get along with 4 of 6 of the other girls, but the other two are absolutely impossible. </p>
<p>First off, the two annoying girls share a side with my roommate and I, so we share the air conditioning/heating controls. These two are impervious to cold, apparently, because they always keep the thermostat on a chilly setting. When my roommate or I try to turn it back up to a reasonable temperature, it either gets turned down again or the controls get taken. For example, I haven't seen the controls for the heater for an entire week because the two girls we share them with are keeping them in their room and refuse to let us turn the heat up. I for one don't appreciate being denied use of the heater when it's thirty degrees or below outside and I'm shivering in my bed.</p>
<p>Also, our apartment has a kitchen, which causes a lot of problems with one of the two girls. She seems incapable of tolerating dirty dishes for even a couple of days without leaving some sort of passive aggressive note, and she keeps accusing all of us of stealing her food (via passive aggressive notes of course). I honestly don't understand why, when we've all told her we aren't doing it (we suspect it's her roommate) She doesn't get it and continues to hate us and be angry.</p>
<p>The funny thing is this particular girl is always complaining to her parents/friends/Twitter about how immature all of us (her suite mates) are and how we need to grow up. Excuse me, who's the immature one?</p>
<p>Sorry this wasn't really a question, but more of a rant.</p>
<p>Anyway, who has ideas for how to deal with these two?</p>
<p>1) Lay down some ground rules for heater use. Just because you’re cold doesn’t mean they are, so you should negotiate a reasonable agreement. </p>
<p>2) Wash your dishes. I wouldn’t leave you a note, I’d tell you to your face that leaving unwashed dishes in an already busy living situation is just rude. What if they need to use the sink?</p>
<p>On the heating, have you tried talking to them? I assume you’ve tried to get to some comfortable middle on the temperature already… is there a window in their room that they could leave open to keep their space cold? If they don’t like that idea, maybe invest in a small electric space heater for your room, you can probably find a cheap one for $20 (or ask your roommate to chip in and help get a nice one). You could also fight back and hide the controls in your room until they get over it, but stooping to their level probably isn’t the best idea.</p>
<p>For food, tell her to keep it in her room if she’s so worried. At the very least, that’ll take the blame off of you, and if it’s still disappearing she only has herself and the roommate to blame.</p>
<p>Sorry if that’s not super helpful, good luck.</p>
You know, part of being a good roomate is leaving sinks and other common areas clean for others. How hard is it to wash off plates and pots when you finish using them? I gotta side with her on this one.</p>
<p>Is this a university owned apartment? If so your housing office probably has someone who can help you work out the issues and set up some ground rules such as what temperature to keep the apartment and an agreement on housekeeping standards. Even if you live in a private apartment they may provide a service to help roomates work out issues.</p>
<p>Last semester I had some roommates that could be described in that way… One of them left tons of passive aggressive notes all the time and irrationally blamed me for things. I try to keep a clean space, but they were super neat freaks and very clearly didn’t want me to live with them, even though I was being as respectful as I could. They weren’t being respectful to me though, so I had a few talks with them hoping to reconcile, but nothing really worked. I stayed for the rest of the semester and then filed a room change request. Now I have new roommates and they’re much easier to get along with.</p>
<p>If you’re bothered by something, it’s ultimately up to you to try and resolve things in the most pleasant and understanding way possible. If that works, great. If not, get out of there, because a toxic living environment isn’t good for anyone.</p>