<p>The girl may be a manipulative, vindictive liar who didn’t really feel threatened, but realized that she could get him on this as soon as she heard the message. I have a friend whose D would do something exactly like that. She’s a sociopath who is fond of false abuse claims. They are certainly out there, albeit very rare. But even if she is, your S has learned an unfortunate lesson about allowing such people to jerk your chain to the point that you lose control.</p>
<p>From the sounds of the med school info given above, he would be better off staying at the school than transferring, since he will be able to say accurately that it was expunged by the college–which gives some idea that they didn’t consider it really, really serious–and he will be able to present his case regarding the provocation, his intent, and the lesson he learned about governing one’s temper.</p>
<p>I do think that he should consider preparing a letter that explains the provocation, but says he will accept the penalty since he realizes that he lost his temper but has been advised that complaining about her offense will avail him nothing. At least he would be on record. Frankly, I wouldn’t broach the subject of classes, because their reaction might be to force HIM out of HER classes, making him take second choices for the next couple of years. That would not be a good result. Same thing with dorms. They would most likely make HIM move. He should definitely make it a point not to set foot in HER dorm. Ever.</p>