<p>I have no objection to your taking over the family finances if that's what your parents desire. My objection is that [you tell us] you lie and sneak around doing it. I would love to hear how you consider that honorable. You might argue it is helpful to lie, you might argue it is necessary to lie, but I don't see how you could think it honorable.
Further, if you know what the counselor thinks well enough that you know a direct, up-front meeting won't work, then why don't you just do what will work? Why do you ask here for opinions on how to approach it if you have the answers? Sometimes I wish I could be a teen again so I could have all the answers. I'm nearing 50, and sometimes I see "shades of grey" in many issues.</p>