<p>It is possible that I may have the opportunity to move into a single this semester in the same building, but our building is massive so I could be a 10-15 minute walk away still. After a rocky start my roommate and I have bonded and become friends, but I just don't want to live with somebody else if I can avoid it. She has become the best roommate I can imagine, but I always feel so guilty when I am awake during the night or if I have a friend over when she's working, and even though she says it's not bothering her I still feel bad-- not to mention that we both distract each other, and when one of us doesn't go to class the other feels tempted to skip, too, we both got REALLY bad toward the end of the semester about our studies. I think I'd just be more comfortable by myself, it's TRULY not anything personal. But she has no idea I was even looking for another room and I am afraid she is going to feel betrayed that I am leaving seemingly out of nowhere to be replaced by a stranger. I'd have told her before but I never thought I'd get another room and I didn't want to make her upset about it needlessly. </p>
<p>I may not get the room, and I may not choose to take it-- I want to find out why the other girl wants to move out of it first, but I need to come to school ready to confront this issue if necessary.</p>
<p>Be honest with her and the sooner you tell her, the better. Make sure she understands why you want a single room and that you still want to remain friends with her, that you’re not upset with her about anything. Telling her now allows her to start looking for a potential replacement roommate (assuming your school allows it).</p>
<p>It’s a harsh world out there. We like to try to watch each other’s backs but when **** gets real, we ultimately must watch for ourselves first and foremost.</p>
<p>Be honest and tell her that you’re looking for single. Just casually bring it up if you can. Tell her that it really isn’t any problem with her, you just prefer single space living (if you didn’t, well then you would have been looking for another double with another friend).</p>
<p>She will not get to pick a replacement, the only way we can change rooms at my school is through swapping with somebody else-- so she’d get the girl in the single I am taking. If she seems awful I won’t swap, I don’t think, I won’t take her room unless I meet her and see her room first. If I don’t swap with her I’ll be on the waitlist if an opening comes up, whichcase whoever is next on the waitlist for a double in my building will be assigned to my current spot.</p>
<p>It is just going to seriously suck if I tell her and I end up not being able to get a room, she is going to be much less pleasant to live with once she finds out and I don’t want to be stuck with her that way until April. I am afraid she’ll feel like I am abandoning her, or trying to abandon her. When I STARTED looking we weren’t getting along and it didn’t matter. Ugh.</p>
<p>PLEASE tell your roommate ahead of time. My first roommate decided to get a single (we also got off to a rocky start but ended up being really close friends), but she didn’t tell me until the morning she was moving out. As such, I couldn’t get any say in who moved in and was left with a series of the worst roommates I could imagine.</p>