<p>Didn't the teacher notice that there were tests missing from her desk?</p>
<p>I guess the best thing to do would be just to tell the truth....that or say that you bought the tests via instant messager....I don't know. You definately are in a sticky situation, but I don't understand why some people were being so harsh. I completely understand how you're feeling. I am usually dead set against cheating...but after a while of working my ass off in a class, and I'm just SO tired, and I feel that it is humanly impossible to memorize such a HUGE amount of material for a test, that I do often write things on a desk (if the teachers an idiot) or put things in my calculator.</p>
<p>You need to tell the truth and take full responsibility for making a mistake.</p>
<p>There's a good chance that the faculty has already figured out that you stole the test. This meeting may be their test to see exactly how corrupt you are: Will you keep lying, try to frame an innocent person or will you admit what you did and take responsibility?</p>
<p>More than likely the faculty also is assuming that in the past, you've done similar things, but simply were not caught. The faculty probably is thinking about everything you've said in the past, and the faculty probably is assuming that back then, you were a liar and a cheater.</p>
<p>Your best chance of having them think that this really may be a one-time occurance is by your telling the truth. More lies will simply make you even more suspect.</p>
<p>And, there's no excuse for what you did. Most students are under pressure, but still don't cheat. Most adults are under pressure, but don't cheat. If you can't handle high school pressure, how would you handle college, professional school or business pressure? As pressured as you feel now, it's only a taste of what it means to be an adult under pressure when one is responsible not only for one's self, but also for one's family, patients, students, clients, etc.</p>
<p>Obviously you deserve nothing less than the guillotine!!!:rolleyes: Seriously, this country is full of hypocrites and I for one am tired of this moralistic ******** that people try to spread.</p>
<p>well, you are probably already at school and won't get this message, but I really rec coming clean. My son made a major mistake in 8th grade and came clean about it, admitted the pressure he was under and I could not believe how kind the school was about it. They let him off with the lightest possible punishment since he accepted responsibility. It was a great experience for him- after what we thought would be the end of his dream (he had just gotten his acceptance into a great high school when this happened). He will graduate from high school this year, has had no more problems and got great recs.</p>
<p>Good luck, and let us know how things work out for you.</p>
<p>okay i need to explain the situation better.</p>
<p>my school is like homeschooling except that you go to the actual school an take tests and your teacher isn't your mother or w/e.
teacher write amazing recs for schools and sends them off.
i steal test from teacher's desk 2 weeks ago. teacher doesn't know.
i'm slacking in schoolwork for the first time in a very long time. i haven't shown up much.
i ask for the recs to be sent to other schools with upcoming deadlines.
teacher says i need to catch up on tests (remember school's system) before she sends any more recs out. i agree, and i say i'll come back to catch up on tests and then she will send out recs.
i come in and test. i have a notebook on my dek which has the tests in them (stupid. i know.)..
teacher takes notebook, opens it up, "what's this?", etc.
i basically don't say anything. she doesn't ask explicit questions and i jsut continue with my work.
i finish test and start to write letter to teacher.
when i'm finished w/ my test and the rest of the class files out, i hand it to teacher along w/ test.
instead of reading it she asks what happened.
i say that i was studying when someone came up to me and asked if i wanted to buy the test. i explain how much i hate the subject and am under a lot of pressure and i cracked and bought it. i say that i don't know who the person is (a lot of people don't know others at my school).
she says, "well i'm glad you're being honest with me because now we can work toegther", etc. she says that she would hate to see my transfered to a regular school (again, mine is like magent) or even a continuation school.
i die inside and hollow out and start to choke on my on breath.
i go home.
i get call from principal who starts asking questions like.. is this the only subject you've done this in? you and your mother need to come in and figure out a punishment, if it's suspension or expulsion or whatever... and then you need to come in and start identifying pictures of students.. what did the person look like? i give brief description.. she writes it down. "well your punishment depends on how your cooperate with us and identifying this person." i agree that i will do whatever is needed. she says that i need to undertsand the gravity of my actions because of the school's system and therefore "we need to figure out how many other kids have them" otherwise the integrity of the school is completely at stake (because it's all bease on the tests and the school uses the same tests)..</p>
<p>so i just can't come clean... i can't. i should have before. i regret it.. i regret everything. but now it's just.. i really can't.</p>
<p>Oh my. You are totally screwed now. You got caught, and you just kept digging the hole deeper and deeper with those lies. Now, if you were to tell them the truth, they probably wouldn't believe you, and might assume you are just covering for the person you bought the test from and others who are cheating. Let's face it: the recs are gone, as they probably should be. Your whole record is under question now. Unless you want to perform some more elaborate lies, you probably aren't going to get into the colleges you want to attend. Good luck with this, but you made a bad situation indefinitely worse by continuing to spout lies.</p>
<p>Wait, you still didn't tell them the truth? If so, you will be in a hole that you will never get out of until you're out of that school...expulsion, transfer, or getting away with it (very unlikely). Problem now is your lie, they know you cheated willingly, and now you keep digging on it.</p>
<p>How do you expect this lie to end? Principal and the teacher forgetting it? They said the integrity of their school is at stake: they will not cease the search, especially in a "magnet school" of yours. The more lies and "I don't know"s you tell, the more likely they'll see a crack in you and discover the entire mess. </p>
<p>Tell the damn truth. The best way overall is to speak to them directly, but if you don't have the guts to do that, write a letter to them; much easier to confess in writing than speaking. At this point, you have to place "teacher recommendations" below the agenda of damage control/integrity. The latter will end this problem while the former will make it worse.</p>
<p>At this point, everyone is saying to tell the truth; no alternatives.</p>
<p>Oh my, please keep perspective. Yes, OP goofed, 15 y.o.s do goof, we all do and it seems like the end of the world; it's not. Get some safe adult guidance, tell as much of the truth as you can, take the hit and move on. It will be awful for a while but you are remorseful, you do regret your transgression and you will be able to move through it. Do the hard work of dealing with this and then forgive yourself.
You did not harm anyone, there is no blood, no death, no permanent scaring.
Take responsibility and give yourself time to heal and grow up.</p>
<p>It's too late to pretend the tests are from a kid who already graduated, right? I'd imagine that would be your best option...unless you want to tell the truth or something silly.</p>
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well.. no, i'm still at great fault. that's when i cracked and i said that i bought it from someone else (instead of admitting that i took it from her)...so i didn't do the right thing. i made it worse.. she said she was glad that i told the truth and that i was making this easier and that i could help them now.
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<p>Sorry that I misunderstood your situation. I thought that you had told your teacher the whole and true occurance already.</p>
<p>I think everyone is being a little harsh on erato. Everyone makes mistakes, so theres no point in telling him that his college dreams are over just b/c of this. I'm sure everyone on this board has done something at some point in thier life that was wrong. However, as to what to do - I dont know. Personally, I would tell the truth, in the hope that by coming clean, I would regain some of the respect these teachers had for me (they will appreciate your honesty and know how much it must have took to admit to this - something that most people wouldnt do). And, if you think about it, at this point the teachers arent going to give you recs, so what do you have to lose? If you tell the truth, then maybe, just maybe they will give you the recs b/c of how you handled the situation - I know if I were a teacher and a good student (as you sound) did this but then admitted to it and tried to rectify the problem, that would show maturity and responsiblity and I would still give em the rec. Anyways , you're prolly at school now, so good luck and hopefully everything will work out.</p>
<p>So you stole a test and now you're lying? If I understand that correctly, you may not get into a college since most schools are using the honor code... simple and effective.</p>
<p>Good luck, you're going to need it... and yep, cheaters never prosper.</p>
<p>But, there are senators that did cheat... but they did it at Harvard ... I'd wager most people at the top did something and didn't get caught... However, I don't really think anyone is above redemption... but, sometimes I do.</p>
<p>What did you gain by telling the teacher that you bought the tests from someone else? I just don't get it. Is that worse than stealing? Drummerdude's right, they're not even going to believe you anymore because they'll think you're just covering for the person. </p>
<p>The best thing you can do right now is just tell the truth. Haven't you ever read Crime and Punishment? Remember the part where Raskolnikov just mopes around his room for weeks with a guilty conscience and slowly driving himself insane? How could telling the truth be worse than that?</p>
<p>Seriously, confess you chopped Alyana up with an axe and set yourself free. It will feel so much better.</p>
<p>I have a friend who used two honors students who were good with computers to hack into the school's computers and get the passwords to the teacher's accounts. My friend sold them to people. They got caught, and the honors students were forced to transfer.</p>
<p>My friend got into a decent state school. It's not the end of the world. You'll have to settle for a decent school.</p>
<p>You made a mistake. You're going to have to vindicate yourself. Admit that you made a mistake and apologize profusely. Although your teachers' opinions may have changed, they are probably more disappointed than they are offended. Once you absolve yourself, though, I think that their opinions will be restored. You had a temporary lapse in judgment, and they understand that even the best and the brightest are flawed.</p>
<p>Worst case scenario: you don't get accepted into the college of your choice. Maybe you'll have to attend community college for a year and then transfer. Stop trying to justify your mistake, just accept that you made one and move on.</p>
<p>A lot of people on here are, in my opinion, being too harsh. Understand that all of these people have made or will make a mistake with the same gravity as yours. Don't let them bother you. It'll be okay.</p>