<p>I'm a freshman. I go back from break in a week and I'm starting to get bummed out. Overall, school is alright. I do have a few complaints: I don't have many close friends, my two closest friends are currently having annoying relationship drama with each other, and I live in an extremely tame honors dorm (I'm no hardcore partier but it would be nice to have the "typical college experience" every once in a while). However, it has definitely become a home away from home and I like the city it's in.</p>
<p>The thing is, when I'm home, I don't miss it. Like most people, I like being in my own bedroom and being around family. The main thing, however, is that being around my friends from home on a regular basis again has made me realize that 1. I'm nowhere near as close to my friends at college and 2. I hate being away from my high school friends. </p>
<p>I hear so many people talking about being so excited to get back to college, and while I do like college, I just like home much more. Is anybody else feeling something similar? Any advice?</p>
<p>My advice would be to just realize that whatever you’re feeling is normal, and in time, it’ll get easier.</p>
<p>It’ll take time for you to develop the same sort of friendships you have with your friends from high school, and that’s not going to happen instantaneously. Spend more time with people at your school, and with time, you’ll get closer to them. Also, there’s no reason you still can’t talk to your friends from high school. Webcam with them, text them, chat with them, whatever works.</p>
<p>Also, being in a tame dorm is FANTASTIC because it means that you don’t have to worry as much about drunken people wondering around or parties in the middle of the night when you have to study or want to sleep or just don’t feel like dealing with it. It does not mean, however, that you can’t enjoy whatever “college experience” you want to experience. Make friends in other dorms, and hang out over there if someone’s throwing a party. Go off campus with friends. Make friends with people who have the same sort of interests that you do, and you’ll be able to find something to do around your school. It’s not necessarily what dorm you live in that determines what you’re able to do.</p>
<p>It’s okay to enjoy being at home more than you enjoy being at school. You’ve known your home and your high school friends a lot longer than you’ve known your college, so really, it’s to be expected. Just give it time, keep doing things you enjoy and meeting people you like, and it’ll get easier.</p>
<p>I feel similarly, although my situation is a bit different then yours. My friends at college are much closer than my friends at home, but I am extremely attached to my family, and get huge bouts of homesickness. It’s not that I don’t like being here, it’s just that it’s so hard to be alone (I have great friends, but it’s not the same as living with family). I never really noticed before I left, but there’s just this comfy feeling I could let everything dissolve in at home.</p>
<p>Hoping others also offer up some more advice.</p>
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That’s true, and it has gotten easier. But it’s still hard :(</p>
<p>Trust me man, you’re not alone. I absolutely dread going back to college. They say that there is less drama and cliques in college, but that is far from the case. My high school was amazing and so are my high school friends (who are now in college).</p>
<p>My college friends blow. I don’t even know if I could call them my friends in the first place. Too many cliques in college and it’s hard to join them once you’re out of a group. Some of my friends are alright, but when I look down into the future, I know for a fact that the people who I currently hang out with aren’t the types of people who will consider me their life long friends. </p>
<p>I’m getting a bit ahead of myself, but the point is, college sucks. All you do is work your butt off to get good grades, have a few superficial friendships, and stress out about academics and friendship drama, WHILE PAYING A TON OF MONEY for that “college experience.”</p>
<p>If you are ever feeling lonely, take something with you to school that really feels like home. If it’s a stuffed animal, hell, go for it. If it’s pictures, go for it. Make your dorm room feel as homely as possible.</p>
<p>For me, breaks are always something I look forward to. I never necessarily want to leave because I love being at home and doing nothing. However, you do realize that breaks are finite. </p>
<p>I think everyone hates leaving home but it doesn’t mean that you can’t buck up and do it anyways.</p>
<p>I’m finding it hard to explain properly but if you have a good family, you will always find it hard to leave but once you actually have to leave it is no big deal. And being at school gets easier as time goes on. Especially since your identity (particularly after you begin sophomore year) will become ingrained in your school and it will feel like a home as well.
At least that’s how it is for me…</p>
<p>I think that’s just normal homesickness. The more times you go away from home the easier it’ll get for you. Have you tried to join any clubs to get more friends? Maybe you should try to move into another dorm building (if the school allows you to).</p>
<p>I feel you. I’m really close to my mom and I didn’t want to leave her. I felt like I did nothing over break and while I’m excited about my classes it’s just hard to be here. I haven’t made any friends but I understand that it will take time. I’m just so lonely. Classes start tomorrow so I had a whole day off today and I just walked around and read. My boyfriend comes to visit me on the weekends or I go to his school and in that time I feel like myself again. I saw all my friends over break and it was just so easy but here I feel very tense and stressed out about socializing.</p>
<p>I know how you feel. Im super close to my parents, sister, and her kids. It breaks my heart every time I have to leave my nephew since I love him unconditionally. What also makes it worse is that I don’t have a lot of friends at school. I don’t hangout with the girls in my hall. I only have 1 friend who I hangout with on a daily basis. So sometimes I feel kinda sad. </p>
<p>But overall I do like my school and I don’t regret not attending a university closer to home. I don’t really miss my home town. Or my old HS friends. Actually when I visit home I feel pretty bored in my house. It just not the same anymore. The only thing I miss is being around my family. I think once you (and same with me) make more friends and find our place at our school then we will feel more comfortable leaving home when we visit.</p>