<p>Lemaitre1–you have 2 sons in college, right? Have they ever commented that you are a “dinosaur”? :D</p>
<p>:cool:</p>
<p>Just the other side of the story.</p>
<p>My d did friend the admissions counselor at the college she attended. They use FB as a way to stay in touch. The admissions rep certainly did not have the time to Facebook stalk the prospective students. And if the OP is not talking about a very selective school, I doubt the admissions even cares what’s on there. He or she probably just wants to sent out reminders of campus events and keep his or her school on the prospective students’ radars.</p>
<p>I am going to have to talk with my two sons and see if they can bring me into the 21st century on this matter. I had heard the term “facebook” before but had no idea what it was or its significance. It is hard to see myself ever using it since I really do not see the purpose of it yet. My younger son will be coming home this weekend and hopefully he can enlighten me on something I really seem to need to know about if I am to stay connected with contemporary culture. I apologize for hijacking the thread but it was disconcerting to read something that seemed important but I did not understand what it was.</p>
<p>Facebook is really fun for us “dinosaurs.” I reconnected with a whole bunch of my high school pals, and when the school scheduled a reunion, FB was instrumental in finding people to attend. I’ve met them for dinner, lunch, etc. Of course there is a downside, as this thread illustrates. Occasionally you will get a friend request from someone you do not want to be in touch with, but it’s pretty easy to block someone from seeing you. My favorite thing to do on Facebook is share photos. I love the funny comments that often ensue!</p>
<p>Back to the OP: I agree with the advice to just ignore the request.</p>
<p>Ditto what LurkNessMonster said. :)</p>
<p>LeMaitre1–My MIL and my S and D are on facebook, but I’m not. With all the time I spend here on CC, I should not spend any more time in front of my computer! For keeping up with people, email works for me.</p>
<p>more hijacking - FB is different then e-mail. I wouldn’t dream of e-mailing people I knew in HS 30+ years ago but it’s quite fun to get an occasional glimpse of them as an adult. I’ve moved many times as an adult and my parents don’t live in the town I grew up in so FB has been great to catch up with old friends and relatives. My parents (in their 80’s) have a FB account although I’ve tried to discourage them from posting. The majority of people my age post less then once a week.</p>
<p>Social media etiquette is still evolving, and both the sites and the way people use them are very different. Twitter, in which just about everything one posts is public, has a lot of random friending/following going on. It allows one-way connections, too, so you don’t need specific approval to follow someone else. LinkedIn, the business-oriented network, used to encourage a very high standard for connecting, but now quite a few members try to connect with people they barely know or even don’t know at all. Some people use Facebook for friends and family, others are far less selective and use it more like a business tool.</p>
<p>Define your limits and stick with them.</p>
<p>I strongly agree with the interpretation offered in post #22. The school simply wants to stay in touch with you, and provide you with contacts/information/events that could be helpful in your eventual college choice. It’s a good thing. I encourage you to accept, unless you have absolutely no interest in learning more about the school.</p>
<p>When I told some peers about it today, they told me I had no choice but to accept it. I honestly didn’t see it like that fogcity just because of all the stories I’ve read about admission officers wanting to read their prospective students walls. I may be wrong, but that was my take. I could always still accept it.</p>
<p>One can “like” a colleges wall to easily see what’s going on at the college. That’s different then friending an admissions person. I "like"d several of my son’s potential colleges and then unliked them once he made his decision.</p>
<p>I’d ignore it. Facebook is usually reserved for my friends, not acquaintances, current teachers, professors, or people I am not that familiar with.</p>
<p>I have been friended by past teachers, only because they were really inspirational and friendly with me. But for an admissions counselor to do so is just wrong.</p>
<p>Prospective student* </p>
<p>just saying.</p>
<p>Ignore it and hide everything from the public that you post from now on, so it seems you’ve abandoned it.</p>
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<p>This is wise advice from suzy100. You might also add something to the brief note along the lines of, “I am very interested in [name of college] and would be happy to receive email from you and other admission officers. My email address is __________________________.” This way you won’t worry that the college folks may not think you’re a serious candidate, if, in fact, you are. </p>
<p>Then, AFTER you’re admitted, whether you enroll or not, you might want to shoot them a quick note suggesting that their FB policy makes some prospective students uncomfortable. I know that I wouldn’t want my own son receiving those sorts of Friend request. Even though there’s nothing inappropriate on his FB page, I still feel it crosses a line.</p>
<p>If you did friend the Admissions Counselor, I wonder if everyone who checked your FB activity would see the statuses, posts, etc. from the Adm Couns…?
That might not be particularly good if other colleges’ counselors were ever to see these direct connections to that one specific college…</p>
<p>Sally: I have had contact with this admission counselor for a while and I have been emailing her frequently due to problems with college board & my sent SAT scores. I interviewed with her a couple months ago. I actually just sent her an email about it today and did not mention facebook at all.</p>
<p>DS1 was sent a friend request from a CTCL LAC. He accepted it as he’d met the guy and they really hit it off and had a couple of things in common. The adcom never sent anything personal; he used it as a free way to send out info about the school to prospies.</p>
<p>The only thing that was weird was how ds felt when he picked another school. He really felt a kinship with the guy and sent him an e-mail well before he posted his final decision to let the guy know he had received better FA packages from a couple of other schools so he was letting him know he wouldn’t be attending the adcom’s college.</p>
<p>I added my admissions counselor. She walked me through the entire process. She was one of the dew that knew me since I always asked for help. I got accepted. Nothing wrong with it.</p>
<p>I recommend blocking the admission counselor if you’re really concerned, or just not doing anything so that it looks like you haven’t even seen the request.</p>