<p>Ok. So I know this is a very late reply to the topic, but I couldn’t help but notice that much of what you said is exactly how I felt when I was at my college. (I left that college by the way and am now waiting until next semester to start at a local college while living at home)</p>
<p>I was struck especially when you said it felt like you were living someone else’s life. The days leading up to when I left the college, I thought the exact same thing to myself. The first few days seemed like I was having a good time and I was very confident in my decision and excited to start classes. </p>
<p>And then it went downhill. It’s not a laziness factor and its not depression (at least in my case). I say this because when I came home any sense of depression was gone. It wasn’t just being at home, it was the sense of release and relief from being away where I was at. It was very hard to explain how I felt. I didn’t want to end up a hobo but at the same time I felt like I was going to college because that was the excepted norm for people like me to do. </p>
<p>I will say that the college wasn’t completely for me as I thought it was, but now that I’ve looked into going away to college again, the same feelings are returning, like everything would have to be just right for me to go away to a college. I toyed with the idea that it was homesickness. But it wasn’t that, because I love to travel, and what I’ve never admitted to anyone was that when I packed up and left the college I was at, I almost took off in the opposite direction of home because I needed to do something new. In the end I did not do it, but it was much more than just a thought. </p>
<p>The college for me was almost exactly how you said. It felt sort of like prison, in a weird sort of way.</p>
<p>Whatever you decide to do, I hope it’s the right decision. Even the word “decision” seems weird because if you are like me then none of options that have been reviewed seem like the right decision. </p>
<p>Both my husband and I survived college because we had really fun/interesting part time jobs. I worked in a university lab (I became a scientist) and my husband worked in a private engineering firm (and later became an engineer). We were not too crazy about many of the required classes but we both really liked the jobs…and that helped us get through the drudgery. Others have found that school really improves when they finally figure out what their career will be…and maybe computer stuff should not be your career…maybe you need to try some other classes for awhile…just a thought.</p>
<p>Nothing has really changed since then but I just keep the attitude of “suck it up and do whatever you’re told to do”. I guess I am looking forward to maybe studying abroad…otherwise everything is pretty stagnant.</p>
<p>I don’t know, I separate my life into categories, like women, friends, academics, and hobbies. Academics I’m finally starting to get a hold of (nearing a 3.0 gpa) and for hobbies…well I play a lot of cod mw 2 if that counts. The two other parts (friends and women) are failing miserably and I figure that’s why I’m so miserable.</p>
<p>I actually asked my Dad if I could pull out a huge loan in his name to go to a school in another state (where there’s lots more women and easier classes) of course he said no. I could go to another school in my state but for some reason my conscience won’t allow that since this is a great school.</p>
<p>If I had a few friends I honestly don’t think any of these problems would exist but it’s really hard to relate to anyone except my buddy who plays cod a lot. Maybe that’s your problem too, maybe not. Anyway goodluck to you too.</p>
<p>You know I’m in a similar situation. I’m at a pretty good school, and I like it, but I’m not that happy here. I’m transferring out, to a school that’s “not as good” some would say, but I know I will be a LOT happier there. I had the same rationale that I wouldn’t leave because I’m at a good school, and I would never transfer to a “lesser” school, but that just isn’t the case. It’s not all about how good the college’s name is, it’s about how good you make your experience. In 10 years it won’t matter if you went to ABC school or XYZ school, sure it looks great to have a plaque saying Harvard or Princeton, but that shouldn’t rule your life. I know people who have gone to “average” universities who have done so well for themselves and they are working in the field they want to, they’re making good money, and they don’t care that they didn’t attend an Ivy league school. There’s so much more to life than where you went to college, especially if you don’t do anything with that education. </p>
<p>Maybe you need to show your dad how serious you are about taking out a loan and transferring, let him know that you need this to succeed and be happy with your life. Also try looking at some state schools if you’re not already, tuition at them can be be priced pretty good compared to private schools even if you are OOS.</p>
<p>I think study abroad for a semester or for a year would help you. I would suggest you research the best program/country/continent for you and just do it. You will have a blast.</p>
<p>Sorry this is so late, but I registered for this site just so I could reply. I think you’d be proud to know that this is the first site that pops up on google when you type in, “I hate college” Funny stuff- your articulate little question is the Google guidance for unhappy undergraduates. </p>
<p>Anyway, I’m an out-of-state freshman, living about 3 hours from home, just finished up my first semester with about a 3.5. I feel almost exactly the same about school as you do. I don’t want to get into details… I was going to, but now that I’m trying to talk, there are too many details for me to add without losing the point of the initial post.</p>
<p>I just wanted to say that you’re not alone, I hope you’re sticking it out alright, and I don’t think you’re being a whiner at all. Good for you sticking up for yourself! And I don’t think you’re depressed as in your chemicals are all imbalanced and ****. I think that maybe you’re just ready for life to start, and you thought college was going to do that for you, and instead you’re still “stuck.” At least, that’s how I feel.</p>
<p>You’ve semi-inspired me to make a post of my own. So thanks, stranger. I know that I feel better now that I know there are other fake smiles out there.</p>
<p>i understand where you’re coming from man… in high school I kinda felt like an individual but since college I feel like a robot… I have never been so unhappy and decided to take a semester off after my 3rd semester</p>
<p>I had the same problem when I first went to college. I was excepted into a pretty hard school to get into, at least under my major (A&M/Biomedical Science), and went into it THINKING that it was going to be this great time in my life. Once actually there I made a few friends, joined a few clubs and even partook in the occasional sporting event. I thought I was pretty happy at first, but the longer I stayed the more unhappy I became. And I didn’t even really know why I was unhappy. Every thing was fine, I had made friends was in a good major making good grades at a good school, but like you, I just wasn’t enjoying the experience at all. Eventually my second semester everything got to be to much for me and I withdrew.
Now I’m in my second semester at a community college regretting my decision. I’m trying to get back into A&M. My advice to you would be to try to stick it out and find something that makes you really happy and do it everyday. If you’re still hating it, take a semester or two at a community college where you used to live. If you still decide you hate school then go from there,… but going to community college helped me figure out that I really DID want to be at the school I was at. Maybe it will do the same for you :).</p>
<p>Your problem is that you need to grow up. I’m not being rude, I’m being honest, and my first attempt at college was a miserable failure because I wasn’t grown up either. I had to live in the real world at go-nowhere jobs, paycheck-to-paycheck, and grow up, before I was ready for college again. Now I’m back and doing well and enjoying calculus and physics. Still hate the general studies stuff, but you can CLEP out of most of it if you’re good at studying a whole textbook entirely on your own (which I am).</p>
<p>And whatever you major in, for God’s sake do some research on what sort of pay you’re looking at after college. Don’t just assume that you will get handed a great job just for finishing college or for the college you went to. People with degrees from top schools are living with their parents because they majored in crap like human ecology and fashion marketing.</p>
<p>I dont think that his problem is necessarily him not being grown or mature. I think its more that he’s trying to enjoy where he is but its just hard when you have those stupid gen ed classes. He understands that they’re necessary yes, but they’re just annoying. Idk if grades are a factor or not, but any real person would admit that the college routine before the major classes is pretty much test, memorize, read, memorize, test, etc… which is boring. </p>
<p>Darko21, I completely understand what you are going through. Im going through the same thing as a chem e major (barely getting by, but thats another topic for another time). One thing that helps me is to find that one close friend, someone who will understand what you say as far as your feelings about college. Not someone who’s “Scholarly” or whatever bullcrap that one guy responded with “vast knowledge of scholars” Anyway, just find that one person that you can talk to and wont judge you and just talk it out with them. Its actually ok that you dont like college. No one said you have to like everything about college or even like it at all. you just have to graduate with whatever degree in whatever field. But I completely understand your desire to want a good college experience. I guess sometimes we all cant be like that Asher Roth song and love college. lol</p>
<p>anyway, just find your niche whether it be joining those ■■■■■■■■ student groups or dumming yourself down to people who think they’re better or proving them wrong, or blogging about how much you hate your school or what you would change on some social network or urban dictionary (a great idea actually). Trust me, Im in your same situation and i find that those things help me alot</p>
<p>Actually, I withdrew from college yesterday. </p>
<p>After watching Fight Club for the third time I finally decided that all this stuff is ******** and I don’t want to deal with it anymore. I dropped out of a top 10 public school and plan to go to a no name party school. Hopefully I won’t be complaining then.</p>
<p>That’s not what I meant. At any rate I feel like a heavy weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I’m hoping a non-technical school will be a better choice for me and give me a better experience. In the mean time I have to get a job before I go back to school in the fall. I just hope I don’t regret my decision.</p>
<p>"This is going to be my second year and I’m just dreading it. I really just don’t want to do it anymore. The work is useless and dull and the only point of it is to measure how hard you are working compared to the rest of the classmates. Last year (freshman) I didn’t really enjoy. Come to think of it, all I remember from last year was going to classes. Far from anything fun.</p>
<p>It seems like everyone’s having a vacation and I’m in a prison. I was under the impression that college was supposed to be one of the best times of your life but it’s turning out to be the opposite. So what’s my deal? Should I take some antipsychotics or should I go work at McDonald’s?"</p>
<p>Darko don’t worry about it. Don’t get too caught up in things. Just remember to view things in a different perspective Here’s an interesting question howmany times have you laughed today? How many times have you laughed with friends or prof’s? How many times have you danced till you could puke(no alcohol). </p>
<p>Let me tell you about my first year of college.</p>
<p>I was standing in a line with 5 other guys my age. five seconds later I was told to shut my mouth(other verbal reprimands)get my chin in, and do push ups like no tomorrow. I endured mental and physical harassment from my sergeants and upperclassman, my identity was stripped away, and I had absolutely no hair down to the scalp. I faced food deprivation, I was told what I could eat and not eat, and I could only drink water for every meal. Some days for breakfast all I had was one slice of bacon and a biscuit. I had to make sure my shoes and brass were shined and I had to look immaculate to the highest degree. I had to get permission to walk in a certain area on campus and sometimes even use the bathroom during mess. I slept at 2am every morning and woke up at 5:00am to the sound of constant yelling. I was forced to walk at 120 paces to class, and memorize the lunch menu 3 meals in advance. Some days I was so exhausted I was sleeping while I was running. My company started with 32 boys and at the end of nine months 17 men survived. Oh I forgot to mention about college academics… classes at 8:00am is a joke.</p>
<p>I could be an absolute a<em>sh</em>le and tell you have no right to say you hate college, but I’m not an a<em>sh</em>le, and thats not my personality. </p>
<p>College is a time for self-discovery and new beginnings. My advice for you is too not get caught up in things and appreciate the lesser aspects of life. </p>
<p>Why so serious? live a little, laugh a little. </p>
<p>Thanks for the story zeppelin. May I ask if you went to a military academy? I was nominated for the air force but decided not to go because mainly of what you just described :P</p>
<p>I think our mindsets are more similar than you realize. But I don’t think that what I was complaining about was small stuff…but I blame the school more than anything. The military is not for everyone…and same goes for academic boot camps.</p>