Im in my second semester in college and im a guy and im so bored out of my mind. Im an introvert but i dont like college. Most people have their cliques and i don’t want to be involved in any of that. I really just wanna graduate and leave ASAP. I do my work, get the B and move on. I just dislike college and its my fault because this is my second college and i dont enjoy it. It feels like 4 years in prison…welll not that bad but you get my point. I don’t even like going to the cafe and eating. I just ate an apple for lunch instead in my dorm. I dont want to join a frat or anything. I just want this to be over. What can i do?
Do you have something you’d rather be doing? Go do that.
Do you think you might be experiencing depression? Get to the health center so they can help you.
Bless your heart, that’s not normal for a young person. I agree - get some help at your college health center or counseling center. Do it now! It won’t get better on its own.
I didn’t like college either (and went to two of them as well). I dealt with it by having a part-time job on campus that I really liked, and on working internships and co-op experiences. I also volunteered outside of my college in the local community. College was a means to an end for me, so I focused on finding activities that would enhance my resume while I was there.
I think you should try visiting the health center and see if you may be experience depression.
Is there ANYTHING you like? Movies? Video games? If you don’t find enjoyment anywhere, than that’s a sign you may be experience some form of depression.
If you do find joy elsewhere, then you may just not like college life. I’d still encourage you to find a club that shares your interest, whatever that might be. Just to find someone like-minded that might help it feel less of a drag.
Yea there’s nothing im interested in. Most people are in theur cliques so its whatever and one of the reasons why i don’t like the cafe because its nasty and fattening. Its been better recently, but i still look foward to getting college over. I’m just going to deal with it .
I have a challenge for you: for the next 5 days, write down at least 3 positive things for each day. Could be an interesting thing from a class, good food at the cafeteria, someone held the door open for you at the library, nice person smiled at you as you were walking, good internet interaction, nice weather, whatever. Can you find 15 good things in the next 5 days?
I second @stradmom 's idea. Negativity is a very slippery slope type of thing, and it’s quite easy to get sucked down the depressed rabbit hole. Even forcing yourself, as fake as it might seem to you now, to find/say positive things changes the way you think and helps to improve your outlook. It’s not just a bunch of psychology BS… it really does work!
edit: I would also recommend exercising daily and finding some ‘female companions’. Getting some action is one of life’s natural anti-depressants!
Study groups. If you want to do your work and move on and you want to do it quick then join a study group; you’ll get twice as much done in half the time even after you factor in the inevitable goofing off and going out to eat afterwards.
Other than that, troll for clubs (as in student organizations) and keep in mind that just like anything else in life most of them are no fun and you’ll just have to look at more than one.
Other than that my best advice is to find a hobby. Put yourself out there; start a blog, play video games with people, waste time with the D&D crowd, hit the gym, hang out at the basketball court and mostly get served, etc. I was such a bump on the log back in middle school and I sooo hate myself for that and if I could go back and do it over again I’d totally just “settle” and pick activities i wasn’t super into just to pass the time and have an excuse to hang out; you know, sports and clubs and stuff. Anything’s better than staring at the ceiling in your room.
What were the deciding factors for each of the schools you chose? Sure, having your major, affordability, and possibly location. But beyond that, what drew you to this college? What were you looking for?
Whatever the answer is, find out WHERE it is on your campus. It’s there, somewhere. It’s up to you now to first define it, and then secondly to find it.
Its cool. I just learned to deal with it and go home on the weekends.