<p>so i've been in college for a month and i already hate it. i got into my dream school in new york city and i was really excited to start. the only thing is that i hate it. i don't mind my classes or the workload its just the social aspect. we don't have dorm parties or anything so people go to clubs and bars. the only thing is i'm still underage and even if i wasn't i would have to pay $10 covers and even more for drinks. i've never been a party girl and i don't so none of this appeals to me.
plus i've had a real hard time making friends. I only hang out/talk to my roommate and three other girls and thats it! dont' get my wrong i dont mind having only a few close friends but i would like to feel like i'm friends with people in classes too. also, there are very few straight boys in my school so i never get to meet anyone either.
this school is the best place for my major and i still like my major so i don't know what to do. everyone is telling me to stick it out but it seems like everyone else as friends and a place here. what should i do?</p>
<p>It’s been a month. Join clubs. You will click with some people. Get off CC and go out and try to find people. I didn’t find the group that I really clicked with until November and we didn’t get close until February-March. Friendships take time. Chill.</p>
<p>Its only a month into school and your a freshmen. You seem most disturb by lack of social but you also state that your not into parties or bars so you seem like your looking to make random friends ( as you mention minus being close friends). Best thing to do then is just talk to random people you see.</p>
<p>I hate it too; join the club.</p>
<p>I bet you go to NYU.</p>
<p>I feel the same way as a commuter student myself. I go to school every morning, do my own thing, rarely ever say “Hi” to anyone (unless it’s a professor that I know) and then go home to do my homework/meditate/play video games. I am a sophomore now and I still don’t really have any friends, but granted, I gave up trying to make friends after my first semester. By then, everyone had their structured groups, and it didn’t seem like anyone was about to include me, the poor, anonymous commuter student. </p>
<p>The way NYU is structured can be quite impersonal at times… But, hey, it’s only been a month. Friends do take time. In the meanwhile, try connecting back with your old high school friends. If they are in New York as well, try setting meetings with them and talk about the old days.</p>
<p>I didn’t really start making any friends in my classes until later in sophomore year. Once you get farther into your major, you will start making more friends in your classes. When you’re taking general eds and the more intro classes in your major, you typically don’t make a ton of friends in the classes.</p>
<p>I hate college too. I joined clubs, I ran for senate, I was involved with offices. </p>
<p>I totally understand what you feel as I can not do ANYTHING since I am underage as well.</p>
<p>I don’t know what to do anymore. Private message me when you figure it out.</p>
<p>eh it sounds like NYU. Everyone that goes there either loves it or hates it. </p>
<p>Anyways, you say you’re underage which makes going out a problem, but aren’t most freshman under 21 too? If its about the clubs, then I can see it being a problem. But try joining clubs. It can take a while to make friends…it took me a while, but it happened, and I’m telling you that it will work out for you too.</p>
<p>I hate college too! I’ll let you in on a little secret- you don’t need a reason to go to college or even to find your place. People go to college because there’s nothing better to do and because the middle class has bought into the notion that college is necessary for a good life. However, as you’ll find, life outside college isn’t all that blissful either. So might as well stay ignorant, have some fun for 4 years, and hope to get picked up in the corporate life soon after!</p>
<p>I bet you go to NYU. I go there too! I also feel the same exact way. I am actually a graduate student, so I am older and I can drink… but that doesnt matter because I agree, that I dont want to pay $10 to get into a club and then have to pay $10 per drink. Forget it. I have lived here a month too and I live in a dorm. I really only talk with my roommate and a few people I met in my classes. It is very isolating here, especailly because I am very far from home. I know this isnt helpful now… but things will get better. Join some clubs RELATED TO YOUR MAJOR. Meeting people in class is great but the people you meet in your major will be the same faces you see for the next 4 years. Honestly, things will get better (thats what I keep telling myself). I find NY and even NYU very distant… nobody talks to eachother, everyone looks straight ahead, everyone is consumed in their own life. Weekends are the hardest for me, since I dont have class and nobody to really hang out with. Last week I decided I wasent going to sit around my dorm all day and I took myself to a movie (Going the Distance… so cute, I deff recommend). Today I am probably going to see the movie Easy A. I just have to get out of the dorm. Treat yourself to diner or walk down Broadway. You will see you are not the only person walking by yourself and in NY its no big deal. I really hope your adjustment goes well. If you need anything, or just want someone to hang out with… PM me 
Good luck!</p>
<p>If it is NYU and you are unhappy, go ahead and transfer now. You’ll save yourself a lifetime of debt </p>
<p>But if that doesn’t bother you and you want to make it work, realize that you don’t hate college, you’re just frustrated. These situations get better. No one expects you to make your best friends for the next 4 years in a month.</p>
<p>If you are attending NYU there are many alternatives to going out clubbing. Get a copy of the New Yorker and you will see some great cheap events every weekend. All you need are a couple people who are into exploring the city and you may change your mind.</p>
<p>You can explore the many cheap wonders in NYC by yourself. You don’t have to go with other students to experience one of the world’s most exciting cities.</p>
<p>You’ll also meet people in the process.</p>
<p>^ This. Just explore NYC when you are bored. Seriously. I have the best time when I go out to a play, a concert venue, the museum, street fairs, bookstores, and the park by myself in the city. Just walking around the city can clear your mind and it’s a pretty good feeling!</p>
<p>Also join a club. I know people are tired of hearing that, but it is true. Join something you like or always wanted to try. It can be only one club that you feel passionate about, preferably one that is active each week and not twice a semester. Maybe then you’ll find someone who share the same passion!</p>
<p>If you don’t like NYU, go back to the Midwest. It amazes me how people can’t find anything to do in my home city. Maybe they’re just simple-minded dolts who watch grass grow or something and are at a loss at what to do when they’re not playing beer pong in a suburban basement.</p>
<p>If you’re a girl, you should be getting into the clubs for free. A lot of fraternities at NYU rent out bars and they never card at those events.</p>
<p>very few straight guys? are you saying there are more homosexuals there than straight guys? I bet you go to NYU. But as far as I know, columbia is in NYC too.</p>
<p>I’m not the party type either. I keep myself occupied through sports. Besides, you’re in nyc. invite your rm to visit places. You are being wayyy too narrow minded.</p>
<p>I do not see how people can stand NYC.</p>
<p>wats wrong w/ nyc? I never been there, but I got the just of it by playing GTA IV, which apparently bears striking resemblance to time square.</p>
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<p>I love NYC. I contemplated going to school in the city, but I never bothered applying after I got accepted to the college I currently attend. Sure the streets smell like garbage and pee, especially during the summer, but I seriously never get bored when I go there. There are soooo many things to do and I love the fast pace lifestyle. Riding the subway’s not bad. </p>
<p>People either love the city or hate it. I love it. I wish I could move over there after I get a job, but it’s too expensive. I might be stuck in Jersey for the rest of my life. Yikes!</p>
<p>On a related note, I don’t see how people can stand Joizee.</p>