<p>It's been a month into college and I've met lots of new people, but the group of friends I have now seems like a temporary comfort for being lonely. Fact is, I don't enjoy hanging out with them that much. Everyone else also seems very different and unrelating to my personality and it seems like none enjoys my company other than maybe this group of friends I don't really like. </p>
<p>I constantly feel lonely even when surrounded by people I've met. I was at a party on Friday and got rather drunk and had fun, but the second I woke up this morning, I felt alone again and hating college. </p>
<p>I know this another sob story and I've read other threads that say that loneliness and homesickness takes time, but things aren't getting any better and it's be a month already. Should I transfer? But even if I did, I don't think things will be any different.</p>
<p>Well if you don't think things would be any different at another school, I'd say try to make the best of the people at the school you're at. Try to meet people in your major, and in the classes you enjoy. Join clubs & groups, and try to find people you actually relate to. I hope this is somewhat helpful, and good luck!</p>
<p>I feel the same way you do. But everyday I just look past it and move on. Why should I let myself get down? I have joined a bunch of clubs and the people I have met there, I get along with more so I recommend doing that too. Just keep your head up and I'm sure we will get through this.</p>
<p>It's easy to get with the first group of kids you meet maybe because they live on your floor or something like that. This does not mean they are necessarily the right friends for you or even the friends you will keep down the road. In college, your friends can change. My S is not really friendly with the kids he met at first in college. He has met many more friends as time went on and he joined various groups, changed classes, changed dorms, etc. It is way too early to throw the towel in at your present school. Try and get involved on campus in things that interest you even a little...whether it be clubs, organizations, volunteering, rushing fraternities, sports, etc. You will expose yourself to a lot more people and have the opportunity to make different friends that may be more to your liking.</p>
<p>It's sounds like you have made "friends of convenience." That's completely normal. Everyone makes friends in the beginning that help alleviate their lonliness and assist them in getting through the first few months of school. After the few months are up, you probably will have made new friends. You'll meet people in class, the library, the SU, etc. Also, join clubs that interest you, so you can meet people that way.</p>
<p>really though, i was in your situation last year. i wouldn't recommend transferring unless there's other things you dont like about the school such as academics. give it some time and approach people, works more often than not.</p>
<p>You might be depressed. If you start getting tired in the daytime, even when you slept enough, and losing your appetite then you should check out the resources your campus health office has for counseling. Once it starts negatively affecting your work then you have a real problem. </p>
<p>Of course, you don't need to be clinically depressed to get counseling, and you could probably stand to benefit a huge deal from having somebody to talk to. </p>
<p>Then again, standing in a crowded room and feeling completely alone sounds more like post-modern existentialist dispair, and there's really no cure for that!</p>
<p>naw don't transfer.
It's all in your mind, if you keep thinking that way then the end result will be that way. Think positive and feel like you aren't lonely, and then everything will work itself out.
Your thoughts create everything around you. once u realize dat simple but hard fact, ur whole life will change.</p>
<p>Give it time. You're still in the "convenience friends" stage. I a few months your classes will have started in earnest and the clubs will be in full swing and you'll have many more oppurtunities to branch out.</p>
<p>Or, if the people you want to be friends with don't like you, think about what that says about your external behavior relative to your internal personality.</p>
<p>lol if you dont like your new friends, tha they arent your friends, they are just people around you that you dont like, as someone above said, friends of convience.</p>
<p>before you make a big move like transferring, think about how long it took for you to make those great high school friends- maybe 4 years or maybe since middle school. Point is that you cant rush these things like friendship and hope that everyone will "click" to your personality and vise versa. Just take your time. A lot of us are kinda in the same situation, so don't give up yet. College is like an emotional roller coaster.</p>