<p>Yeah I go to HNU. Its a small liberal arts university in Oakland Hills. I don’t have a car so he comes here. UCB is only 15-25 minutes from here. </p>
<p>Well its not entirely my fault I have no friends. I know I have to be more social but its hard for me. And no I don’t have any high school friends around here. My home town is 4.5 hours up north. I do still talk with some of them though.</p>
<p>Ohh Holy Names? I had a friend that was going there but she transfered to a community college.</p>
<p>I had that problem with talking to new people at first too but just try talking about the hw or whatever activity you’re doing in class. Once you start it’s not too hard to keep up with it. I have yet to find a way to make friends outside of class but Im not in any clubs or sports.</p>
<p>Well if you dont mind public transportation there’s always the bus. Im sure AC Transit has a stop nearby.</p>
<p>Yep Holy Names. What school do you go to? If you don’t mind me asking.</p>
<p>I talk to people all the time. I’m not so antisocial that never say a word to anyone lol.I talk to the people that I sit next to in class. The problem is that it never mounts to anything. All i have are acquaintances.</p>
<p>Have you tried inviting people to do things? See a movie, get ice cream, try out a new restaurant, etc. Talking to people is the first step, but building a friendship takes time.</p>
<p>Ohhh I see, that thing where you talk in class but that’s all :/</p>
<p>I had that problem the first few months but I started moving around an talking to people I dont sit near. I clicked with some of them and now I sit near them. I have a few people’s numbers but if I text them its about class. </p>
<p>I go to Berkeley City, its a community college.</p>
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<p>Wow, no. So wrong.</p>
<p>I just feel like the people who I sit next to in class already have their own group of friends formed. </p>
<p>I have the number of the girl who sits next to me in math. We always text each other when we have questions about hw. Shes always in a hurry though to get to her next class. And she’s a commuter so I don’t think she’s on campus a whole lot. The girls next door to me seem nice. I don’t have any classes with them. The other day one commented on my handbag lol. Thats about the only communication I’ve ever had on them. The other day they put decorations on their door. I was thinking about telling them I liked it just for a bit of a conversation. I know a lot of people will say just to knock on their door but I find that to be a very creepy/awkward thing to do to someone.</p>
<p>@Rebeccar- I agree.</p>
<p>After reading all your posts, I am very concerned that you may be seriously damaging your college career and that is a greater problem than your social issues. You say that you are so depressed that you are not attending all your classes. As a freshman you may not realize that you are digging yourself a hole you can’t climb out of by the end of the semester. If your grades are poor you may find yourself on academic probation and not be able to transfer to another school, if that’s what you decide to do.</p>
<p>I also think that you are courting disaster by being so dependent on your boyfriend to fill your time. I don’t want to upset you further but it’s not at all unusual for high school relationships to end before Christmas break freshman year and I’m fearful that you will go into free fall if you should end up in that situation.</p>
<p>My best suggestion for you at this point is to get yourself to your college counseling center asap on Monday. I promise that they are experienced at dealing with issues like yours and it’s really past time to be pro-active about this instead of posting about it on an internet forum. I also can’t help but suggest that if you actually focused on attending all your classes and completing all assignments to the absolute best of your ability, you would have much less time to worry about your social problems.</p>
<p>Stop being passive and take action before it’s too late. You can get out of this funk if you get appropriate help. Good luck!</p>
<p>@Joblue-……I’m not a freshman.I graduated HS in June 2012. I’m a transfer sophomore. My grades are not poor. I have all B minuses. But I wish they were higher. And my boyfriend is not my high school boyfriend. I met him 2 months ago when I transferred to this school at a college party.</p>
<p>@Bostrong----Sorry to hear you’re miserable too. I think my problem is that i don’t know how to cope with being lonely. I have always had friends/family around me. Before I transferred here I could always just go home to my family after a bad day. But here all I have is a tiny dorm room to go back to. I definitely don’t connect with most the girls on my floor. I’m not laughing at your misfortune but I always thought most guys make friends easier than girls do with each other haha. Guess I was wrong!</p>
<p>Sorry I missed the bit about you being a transfer student and that your boyfriend is not from high school but the advice still stands. The B minus grades can easily drop to C’s or D’s if the class material you’ve missed causes you to do poorly on your finals.</p>
<p>You just need to take some action to deal with your problems. Sitting in your room and losing motivation to do well academically will drastically affect your options down the road unless you turn it around right now.</p>
<p>Again, good luck.</p>
<p>:O wait youve been skipping class!?
I thought you felt like not going but went anyways
that’s not good, maybe she’s right to say go see a counselor or RA.</p>