Well, I’ve been back to our bed since Tuesday night (I’ve slept in the guest room for 2 weeks due to foot surgery), I’m back to poor sleeping, getting up between 2-3. Ive been doing this for some time. Insomnia, followed by a couple nights decent sleep.
I haven’t slept well since going back.
Hmmm, what’s the big difference for worse sleep? Separate sheets and blankets/throws made huge improvement for H & me (only took 30+ years to figure it out).
I insisted on separate sheets/blankets 40 years ago! That way it doesn’t bother H when I come into bed late, and it ensures I have a blanket covering me.
How do you do separate sheets and blankets on one bed?
We have always done that. The bed is made as usual. But when it’s time to sleep, I put H’s on his side and mine on my side. Takes about 1 min. Neither of us can stand sheets tucked in, so that helps.
We have same bed but separate sheets/throws. It’s so much better this way!
Thank you for this thread. It’s not something one usually knows about other people and it’s nice discovering we’re not as unusual as I think. After various arrangements we’re currently at king bed with separate covers, only tolerable because H is a pretty deep sleeper (I move a lot and have insomnia a couple of times a week) and he finally found a CPAP machine he can tolerate. I used to lie awake waiting for him to breathe. Sleep is so important!
I’m clearly confused and dense -how do you do separate sheets on top of the mattress?
I don’t tuck bedding into the mattress, so just have the sheets/throw the person wants to use on their spot on the bed. H has his on his side of the bed and I have mine on my side. It’s been working like a charm and we no longer have to tug bedding to keep ourselves covered if the other person accidentally ends up taking more bedding when rolling over while asleep.
(Oops, sorry I replied to the wrong poster, HIMom.)
I bet you could also just take any two
sheet sizes and tuck each one on each side. Like a twin or full on each side underneath two comforters, too.
If we still slept in same room, I’d do this in a heartbeat. But….we can’t even be in same room given temp, lighting, fan preferences etc.
(I don’t hide this fact from others (sleeping in different rooms). I think it’s perfectly fine and our relationship is better for it.)
I am sure bedding COULD be tucked in but I hate bedding tucked in so don’t miss it at all. It’s working great for me.
D has the two duvets approach they have used since living in Germany. There is no top sheet with a duvet usually. There is a mattress sheet on the bottom.
That is precisely our setup. Two duvets, each in its own duvet cover placed onto of the CA king mattress which has a fitted sheet. When I make the bed I fluff the individual duvets and arrange them with the least amount of overlapping lump in the middle. Throw an empty CA kind duvet cover - or a flat sheet - or a bed spread on top and it looks just like a ‘normal’ bed setup.
Since hubby sleeps hotter and often pulls the duvet over his head his cover gets icky quicker than mine. I probably wash his side and the fitted sheet twice as much as I was my own duvet cover.
I feel like a bed dummy but still have no clue how you do this separate sheet thing if your bed isn’t two separate mattresses 
We have a fitted sheet, flat sheet, blanket and quilt comforter on our bed - I can’t for the life of me figure out how you’re doing this! I need a visual!
Make the bed as always so it looks normal during the day. When it’s time to sleep I remove the decorative comforter/pillows and plop on floor. Then I pull off my blanket and plop on floor. Untuck H’s bottom sheet and blanket and push the half off my side to his. Then I pick up my blanket, and give it one shake and it’s nicely laid out on my half. It takes < 1 minute.
So….there’s a fitted sheet on the bed that is shared? H has a flat sheet and a blanket that you push to his side nightly? Do you have a flat sheet as well, or just a blanket?
@abasket if you’re a bed dummy, I am too!
If we had our own blankets I would do two separate twin duvets and forget about top sheets.
Oh yes. Definitely shared the fitted sheet that you sleep on top of. Nobody lays on a bare mattress. I like to cocoon in a blanket. That’s what I don’t want to share.
I still am a double sheets dummy - I can just picture lots of loose sheets! 
But more than the sheets my sleeping issue is the snoring and the movement which leaves me awake!
Dh and I have always had a king size bed. About five years ago, after being frustrated with him constantly hoarding the covers, I bought an oversized comforter from The Company Store. It was well worth the cost - no more fussing with not enough covers. I like a nice, neatly made bed in the morning so it would be too much bother for me to daily deal with separate sheets, duvets, etc.