<p>All of our college tours have happened because we were otherwise on vacation and I suggested that we take the opportunity to visit school x or y as much to see the variety of places and what college was like as those particular schools. The first tour was especially interesting because my D fell in love, but it wasn’t until the second tour that I was able to tell if she was in love with that first school or with the whole idea of college. I think she did make quick judgments, but she never refused to look. </p>
<p>I guess that if it was a place that I was foisting on her, refusal to see it would really be resentment at my leadership on the issue and fear that I might be wildly enthusiastic about a place she was not willing to consider. If we were making a trip specifically to see schools, she would develop that list and I would expect her to follow-through even if she thought it was a waste of time within a few minutes.</p>
<p>I guess there are as many different approaches as there are kids!</p>