<p>Hi, I'm a college freshman here at the university of alabama. My parents are very proud that I made the choice to go here... however, I'm very unhappy. I don't like the overall environment of the campus and my classes are, well, just too easy. Not to mention I'm crazy homesick. I want to transfer back home to NJ. I was wondering how to convince my parents to let me transfer home to a school in NJ. It would be waaaay cheaper and I'd be closer to home which in return fills my homesick void. I know I can succeed in a better environment. How can I convince my parents to let me leave this awful place????</p>
<p>Community College in NJ.</p>
<p>It’s ultimately your decision to stay or go. They can’t chain you to your dorm room desk. I would start researching the colleges in NJ that you are interested in and share the information with them - the fact that it would be cheaper, you’d still get a good education, you’d be happier and would excel more. NJ has a high level of pride in Rutgers; do you think your parents would really be that disappointed if you attended a college like that? And who is paying for the education? If you’re taking out your own loans, or if they cosigned with the expectation of you paying the full loan, then they really don’t have a say in your future financial situation. If they’re paying for it, but you’d ultimately be saving them money, I don’t see how upset they could really be if you’re honest with them.</p>
<p>my parents are very adamant about living away from home to learn to live on my own which I can still do, even though it would be saving us both money they want me to stay here. I know it’s very backwards but theyre persistent that I learn to make due.</p>
<p>Live on campus at a NJ college. You are the only one holding yourself back. If you’re unhappy and your school work and motivation are suffering, you are hurting yourself in the long run. People who are unhappy in their jobs look for new jobs. People who are unhappy with the area they’re living in can look to move. You shouldn’t force yourself to be miserable to learn a lesson. Yes, life is not always easy, fair, or fun. But when you have the ability to make things better for yourself, why wouldn’t you? I didn’t live outside of my parents house until after college (I commuted to college) and I have done just fine living on my own in a new state.</p>
<p>Another option is to find a college closer to home, in a similar town/city to your hometown to aid your homesickness, but one that is outside of NJ. There are plenty of good schools in PA and NY to explore. Then you could visit home more often by bus/train/car, but still be far enough away to be “on your own.”</p>
<p>You have been on campus and classes a whole week. Judging the level of the class and the environment at this point is a little premature. </p>
<p>Start looking at what transferring requires, and where you want to transfer. But plan finish out the semester there. Hard to tell what you will think at the end of the semester.</p>
<p>Actually i moved in the 7th, so with that being said it hasn’t been just a week. I chose to come here as a last resort and it wasn’t really in my plans to come here. But whatever the reason i’m here. either way i didnt ask for your opinion i asked for help. i was thinking of going to nj because of the cost. in state tuition is a lot less.</p>
<p>You may have been there since the 7th, but classes started on the 21st. So it has been 2 weeks. </p>
<p>Either way, transfer will not happen until end of the semester at the earliest. So the same advice stands.</p>
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<p>Really? So you already know everything they plan to teach between now and December? You are only 2 weeks into your college career and I totally disagree with everyone who is supporting your desire to bail out on the University of Alabama (aka, “this awful place”). I think that you are displaying culture shock and are having a full blown homesick panic and that if your parents give in to this now, they would be doing you a huge disservice.</p>
<p>If you quit now, you will not be going anywhere but back to your parents house until at least January. You can be emotional and stubborn and sabotage your grades this semester at Alabama but then you won’t be eligible to transfer anywhere but cc. Or you can suck it up, do well this semester at Alabama and reconsider over the holidays but I suspect that your parents know you very well and they know that if they don’t throw you into the pool, you’ll never learn to swim.</p>
<p>No one said to drop courses and head home tomorrow. Transferring takes time, and applications don’t go out until later in the semester. And as OP stated, Alabama was never in their plans and was a last resort which makes me think that the parents pushed that application and OP was not interested. Sure, there’s a chance they might turn around and enjoy it in a few months, but if not, I am providing ideas for getting out of there. </p>
<p>Now I don’t know OP’s situation with their parents, but I can say that if in a few weeks they are still unhappy, then transferring is perfectly acceptable and their parents should not stop them if it will help improve their college experience and quality of life. Parents don’t always know what’s best - heck, we don’t even know what’s best for ourselves most of the time. What we think will make us happy doesn’t always do so, and the same is true for what others think is best. Not everyone responds to various situations in the same way. </p>
<p>I agree that the first few weeks of classes, especially general ed. requirements, can be easier than we expect. But campus culture can be easy to pick up on, and if the OP never had an interest in going there then there is no reason to stay to make someone else proud.</p>
<p>well look at that… its been a month OF CLASSES now. i still don’t like it… and NO i did not say that I know everything they plan on teaching me… do you? youre awfully rude considering i asked for HELP not your input. your post is irrelevant.</p>
<p>i would also like to say that i dont just want to drop out and go home, obviously i want to finish out the semester with good grades. weigh my options of schools in nj and transfer over in the spring. Im not just going to fail or drop out. that would be a complete waste of time/money.</p>