If a college student/employee treats me condescendingly, how do I tell if...

[pmvd]

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pmvd I think you know you are offending and/or ticking people off. i remember a thread not that long back where some students were making fun of you after one of them tried to talk to you. And in that thread you stated that you should not be punished by talking with people that you don’t feel like talking to. Also in that thread I seem to remember that you did not really what to change your behavior because this is how you are.

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<p>That is correct.</p>

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Well this is the back lash of that behavior and train of thought.

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<p>Yeah, and that’s something I learned the hard way.</p>

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You would be surprised in a small sitting how quick things get around about people. All it takes is one person to tell one person and before you know it it is all around campus. That is what I see happening here given your past threads.

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<p>I have long suspected that people talk crap about me, but I try not to bring it up too often because the times I have brought it up people have accused me of being paranoid.</p>

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So really you have two choices here:</p>

<p>1) Ignore these people and go about getting your education; or

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<p>That’s what I have been doing so far. I ignore them to the best of my ability.</p>

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I think this is the better option
2) start to change your behavior and that might involve a therapist of some sort that you trust. Because this behavior will not help you in the future when it comes to working, finding a SO, having a family, friends, etc.

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<p>If I ever talk to a therapist, I will print this thread and tell the therapist to pay attention to your message because you hit the nail right on the head.</p>

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If you continue on this path I see you as having a very long lonely life all by yourself and possibly without no meaningful job options.

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<p>And that’s even truer given my major.</p>

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Honestly think about that before you answer. You cannot go on with life with this behavior mindset. Even the most introspect person knows how to play the game when they need to. Because we all have to work and be around others at some point in life.

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<p>I agree, but at the same time I feel it’s not my fault that I don’t have the mental capacity to establish and maintain a meaningful conversation with another person. Yeah, a lot of the choices I make are conscious and therefore my fault, but it’s unfair to say that it’s my fault that I lack conversational intelligence. Who knows, maybe there is something wrong with my brain. Then again, maybe it’s plain unintelligence.</p>

[RebelCats]

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@pmvd

I agree, but at the same time I feel it’s not my fault that I don’t have the mental capacity to establish and maintain a meaningful conversation with another person. Yeah, a lot of the choices I make are conscious and therefore my fault, but it’s unfair to say that it’s my fault that I lack conversational intelligence. Who knows, maybe there is something wrong with my brain. Then again, maybe it’s plain unintelligence.

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<p>Its not your fault is you honestly have some disorder that caused this issue. Were you always like this growing up or did it just happen? If you lack conversational skills you need to work on that. I know you are probably wondering how? Well that is easy (relatively speaking) start small. Start by saying hi to people like your teacher, dean, workers at the school. You don’t have to have this long drawn out conversation at first. Its just a passing thing, if they want to have a longer conversation then you want to have, then you use the polite excuse to leave "I am late for class(input something that sounds important) and tell them it was nice chatting with them. Thats it, build on that.</p>

<p>This website might be of help to you:
[Sharpening</a> Your Conversation Skills](<a href=“http://www.hodu.com/sharpening.shtml]Sharpening”>http://www.hodu.com/sharpening.shtml)</p>

<p>P.S. if you want to talk but not post a thread you can pm me.</p>

[BMWdude335]

<p>to the original poster</p>

<p>there will always be people in the world who hate you. always. maybe it’s because you remind them of their middle school PE teacher, or maybe its because you have something they don’t. Either way, if you revolve you life around dealing with these people, well, its just not gonna work. You have to decide to a] get rid of the problem once and for all or b] move on and pursue your own goals. </p>

<p>my 2 cents.</p>

[LasMa]

<p>OP: Here’s how we know you have low self-esteem: You care WAY too much about what other people think of you. Most of us care about that, but it seems your entire world is wrapped up in it. That is not healthy. A good therapist can help you with this; find one.</p>