<p>I was reading this thread and then almost lol’d when I saw LadyDi start up again. It’s not even the content, it’s that actual students and maybe even some prospective students were giving their thoughts based off of their experiences here and then the mom stood up and said the exact same thing she’s said in twenty different threads. “one of these is not like the other”</p>
<p>LadyDi, you don’t seem like an unreasonable person and I honestly don’t even think the stuff you’re saying is so terrible because your reasoning is laid out and people can take from it what they will. But at this point it seems like you’re engaging in some kind of catharsis. Contrary to popular opinion, catharsis isn’t actually a productive way to deal with your emotions - it polarizes them.</p>
<p>This is what I think the problem is and there is always the chance that I’m wrong. Your argument is that you are an NC resident and your kid is not stupid, in fact, is actually pretty smart, so as a tax paying citizen you should not be strangled by him going to a NC state school. I agree with you 100%. BUT there are many other schools in this state where I’m sure your son has/will get money (I haven’t done my research on your son so maybe you’ve already put that out there). So that takes care of that. Your son can probably get a free or close-to-free education in the state of NC at a school that is not terrible. I bet UNCG would be fine, or State, or App, or whatever. Even if he didn’t get a scholarship there, you could probably find a cheap option to where you could minimize your debt. So that takes care of things.</p>
<p>I’m not sure where else this argument should go. Your son was admitted to Carolina, so that’s great. Maybe he didn’t get a scholarship, but the debt you would incur from him attending here is not outrageous. It’s up to you to do your research on whether it’s worth it to incur that amount of debt. Maybe it is. Maybe it isn’t. But if it isn’t, he can go elsewhere in the state of NC and you haven’t been wronged. Right? Emotions aside for a second, that’s what makes sense, does it not?</p>
<h2>Also… I have no idea how NMF really goes but I have a feeling it doesn’t factor in AT ALL. I bombed it. I had a friend who actually is attending Harvard who literally fell asleep while he took the PSAT. Let’s just say we had a terrible guidance counselor that year and I had no idea that the PSAT mattered for anything. And my mom didn’t know that I was taking it that day, either, since the guidance counselor wasn’t on top of things. Kind of a gigantic train wreck for my school, when I look back on it.</h2>
<p>My thoughts on bettering UNC:</p>
<p>Eliminate the elitist out of state students.</p>
<p>I’m joking. But seriously. Some of y’all come off as jerks in the way you describe in staters, or, as I should say, the sorry people. I think Carolina actually does a pretty good job of proving that, though SAT is predictive of success to a certain extent, you can have an incredibly vibrant community while still having a holistic approach to admissions. I obviously can’t disagree that if you were to accept less in state students that the SAT score would raise and that’s great for its own reasons, but having learned more about our admissions process, I actually feel very positively towards it. They read your essays. They really, really read your essays.</p>
<p>And this has been said a million times, but labeling in state students as homogeneous is a pretty ignorant thing to do. You know what, I’m not even going to expand on this. I take it too personally.</p>
<p>Now time for me to be offensive.
- I’d love it if there were no traditional greek system. Ironically, some of my best friends are in sororities and I’m sure they’ve been happy with what they’ve done. But my experiences with the greek system have been generally extremely negative. I have heard some of the most racist, sexist stuff from greeks. I’ve had some Greek friends (who are in the ‘more academic’ fraternities/sororities) go to rehab who I feel like otherwise would never have gotten involved in all that. I used to think the J. Crew tacky patterns of little bull dogs on men’s pants were dorky and endearing, now I can’t take them any more. Anyway, I know there are some great people who happen to be greek. It happens. Sorry if you read this and you get flustered, but this is my experience and I stand by it. They will probably never eliminate the panhelenic (aghh sp branch of the greek system because that would be a crazy move donations wise. I bet if we didn’t depend on alumni donations so much that they’d already be gone, at least, that’s the feeling I always get whenever I read anything about what’s going on in the system.</p>
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<li><p>This isn’t really a complaint, it’s more of a thought. If you look at the heads of most organizations, they tend to be Moreheads. Maybe this is because 1. Moreheads are just the best leaders and they’re awesome. 2. Non-Moreheads are not interested in being leaders and so it just works out that way, 3. Moreheads are grandfathered into leadership positions because of the networks they’re immediately involved in when they start at UNC. Maybe it’s a bit of all three. Still, it would have been nice to go to a school where there isn’t an immediate divide between students. I’m a hypocrite, I’m a Carolina Scholar. But honestly, I’m not really a part of a program like the Moreheads are and there is no networking to speak of from my scholarship. I think it would be refreshing to be at a school where everyone was just treated equally from the get go. I feel like there are several groups within Carolina and the Moreheads in my year seem to gun especially hard to the point where I can only stand to be around a handful of them. Again, ironically, some of my best friends are Moreheads. But they’re the kinds of Moreheads who ask themselves if they actually deserve the honor rather than whisper to each other about cousins and blah blah blah so tired of this. Maybe it was just my year. In general I feel positively about Moreheads because I see all the good they all do here. It’s just the environment created from having merit scholarships that sometimes I feel iffy about. Not a huge deal, though.</p></li>
<li><p>More single dorm rooms. I loved living on campus but I also had a serious boyfriend junior year and had a strong desire to not **** off a roommate. I lived in Kenan and was not about to go live down on S campus. So. Now I live in Carrboro, which great, actually, and I’m kind of glad I was forced into the situation. I have to remind myself that I actually go to a public school and sometimes we gotta make compromises. Still, it would be nice to be a five minute walk away from all of my classes.</p></li>
<li><p>Connect Carolina can burn in hell.</p></li>
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<p>That’s really it. I used to complain about parking but then this Bio professor lectured me on sustainability and I dropped it.</p>