<p>Newsflash: It's very normal for parents to talk each other behind their kids back all the time. "Do you let them drive with ___?" "When is your child's curfew?" "Do you think this party is a good idea?" Maybe your parents trusted you so much that they assumed your friends were as open with their parents. Ever thought of it that way?</p>
<p>Stop feeling guilty about your friends and the after-prom party. They lied to their parents, and their parents found out. Now they will pay the consequences. If this party was innocent, they wouldn't have needed to lie. I can't imagine why any self-respecting hotel would rent a room to a bunch of teenagers for a party anyway. This is NOT going to end well, and you're lucky you won't be there.</p>
<p>I speak from experience when I say that when a child lies to a parent, and the parent finds out (like your mom did) the sense of betrayal is HUGE. I felt like a fool when I found out my daughter was lying to me -- how stupid does she think I am? And WHO is she? I thought I knew her, but obviously I was wrong. This takes TIME to heal. Trust isn't given, it's earned. You admit that you violated your parents trust in the past. Now that your mom found the alcohol in your car she'd be crazy NOT to be angry and distrusting. It's going to take time and PATIENCE for things to be repaired - two things that teens aren't known for being good at. But if you are open and honest with her, in time she will begin to trust you again. You can't get angry when she verifies that what you tell her is true. "Fool me once- shame on you. Fool me twice - shame on me."</p>
<p>I think your depression has less to do with the prom than you think, and more to do with a very natural and appropriate reaction to a big life change that is coming. High school is ending, and school with your friends is all you have ever known. The future is scary. It's completely normal for you to feel depressed and scared. </p>
<p>If you're really the good kid that you are striving to become (and good for you!) you will turn out alright in the end. It's hard to see that now, but someday you'll look back on these learning experiences and see yourself growing.</p>
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<p>Love it. </p>
<p>Humans don't get their last bit of cognitive function--the bit that understands consequences, until they are 20 to 21. That's one of the reasons humans hang around the nest for so long.</p>
<p>This will pass.</p>
<p>Your mother did you a huge favor. The hotel party is trouble. I suggest you reach out to your mom and tell her how you feel.</p>
<p>One way to gain trust is to spend time with her.</p>
<p>that's all well and good, but doesn't change the fact that said hotel party would be fun for an average teen.</p>
<p>Call me when you're 25 and let me know if you still think a party in a standard hotel room is the bomb.</p>
<p>that's the thing, i'm not 25. i don't see what i may think in 8 years should dictate what i do today.</p>
<p>"Humans don't get their last bit of cognitive function--the bit that understands consequences, until they are 20 to 21."</p>
<p>Diesel, when you were 2 you might have wanted to run out in the road, but someone older knew better. When you were 8 you might have wanted to eat 3 hot dogs and wash it down with a coke before going on a roller coaster, but someone older knew better. Well now you're 17. The hotel room party is like the 3 hot dogs and the roller coaster. Just because you think it seems like a good idea now, doesn't mean it is. When these things go bad (which they often do), they go REALLY bad.</p>