<p>Sometimes I feel like I'm not what a girl should be. I'm not a tomboy by any stretch of the imagination, but I'm not a girly girl either. I HATE shopping for more than an hour, I like to grub, even though I usually like looking nice, I don't spend much time putting on make-up and sometimes I just don't care at all. I hate cooking above all else, and I dislike cleaning. Am I a boy? But, on the other hand, I like wearing dresses, I like dressing up occaisonally, I enjoy girl gossip, and I was just wondering am I freaking out over nothing? Or is there something wrong with me.</p>
<p>Maybe someday you can show me how much of a girl you are ;)</p>
<p>Why do you think that girls have to love all of the things that you list? You sound like a 1950s sitcom. The world has moved on a great deal since then. I know plenty of girls and women who are similar to how you describe yourself.</p>
<p>why are you always so condenscending? (sorry I can't spell it?). Sorry I wasn't alive in the 1950s, and a person notices when they're a bit different from the norm.</p>
<p>My new girlfriend doesn't cook either but she did drop 100 bones on getting her hair done, which I made fun of her for. I said what if the baby needed food and diapers with that money, then she reminded me that we do not have a baby :( I want a baby!</p>
<p>Do you want a baby or want to go through the process of getting a baby? Just a thought. :)</p>
<p>Yes on both counts.</p>
<p>I like the process, not the result.</p>
<p>When your fatherhood clock starts ticking and all your buddies are having babies, it is an entirely different story.</p>
<p>I'm not gonna lie, I was under the impression you were a guy online the entire time.</p>
<p>EDIT: And I thought your name was Brian.</p>
<p>Yeah she never has explained the screenname to the best of my knowledge.</p>
<p>It's a character from Lord of the Rings (for those who have seen the movies she's the daughter of galadriel, though she plays no part in the movies and isn't a character there). :D</p>
<p>IMO, you need not worry. From the way you described yourself, you sound much like a number of girls and women that I know and admire (including my wife and my daughter :)). </p>
<p>I think you are fine. Just be yourself! I have read some of your posts in the past, and I just read a few recent ones now to get to know you a little better, and I think that being yourself is a pretty good way to be! :)</p>
<p>Yeah see LoTR . . . . j/k there are plenty of girls that like that. I don't see why you are concerned. Are you really feeling that out of touch? Those sound like a lot of traits female engineers have (j/k lots of other girls too). Whether you feel good about yourself or not is what counts. Not what you appear to be. if you aren't happy being lazy about appearance then do something to change it. but if you're okay then who cares. As long as you look good for the right occasions it doesn't matter.</p>
<p>Btw I thought you were a guy too. I might know why. I thought the name looked like cerebellum or cerebrium (with Brian added on like somebody already stated). Who is more proud of their brains than a guy? Not many girls take that stance. So it wasn't really what you wrote it was just how your name appeared.</p>
<p>Celebrian,</p>
<p>You sound fine to me.</p>
<p>stacey you're overly critical and steretpical of yourself. lots of girls do what you do, lots of girls don't do what you do, lots of guys do what you do and lots of guys don't do what you do. I do some of the thigns you don't do, and do some of the things you do too.</p>
<p>As long as you're neat and clean, that's fine. I would describe a manwoman as a girl who is also a slob. Girls shouldn't be slobs. If you're not a slob, you're fine. And you sound like you can at least appreciate the girly things. No one likes a slobby girl who constantly talks about how she hates everything girly. So you're a girl in my book, if that makes you feel better.</p>
<p>Every person is different. It would NOT be "normal" for everyone to be the same.</p>
<p>The title of this thread scared me for a minute...I thought maybe you'd gotten really uncharacteristically drunk and somehow got coerced into having an operation...eh, I had the whole story planned out in my head. </p>
<p>Just for the record, I knew you were a girl all along, since way back in the day from some thread in the High School forum where we all explained our usernames.</p>
<p>You're freaking out over nothing. Ask yourself what prompted those thoughts. </p>
<p>I know lots of girls the way you described yourself - more than the girly-girl w/ lots of make-up who's a shop-a-holic character.</p>