Not a hard decision for me. I go to any events I’m interested in, without hesitation. I’ve been to three weddings thus far this year. I’ve been eating at indoor restaurants. I only mask at medical facilities
I honestly don’t care if people are not vaccinated. I’m vaccinated but not boosted. The White House Correspondence Dinner had to show proof of vaccine and test to get in. It didn’t stop a spread. Everybody I know who has had Covid since the beginning of the year was vaccinated or vaccinated and boosted. I think relying on only being around people who are vaccinated is silly.
If I’m at a party with two people and one is not vaccinated and doesn’t have Covid, and one is vaccinated and has Covid , who is more a danger to me.
I agree, you’ve got to do what you are comfortable with but life goes on normally for me.
We’ve been attending indoor events and restaurants for some time now. For me, life is short and we can’t avoid indooor activities forever. Everyone has to do what they’re comfortable with, however. You don’t sound comfortable attending and that’s fine.
Great support here for personal decisions.
To ask the question I feel you must be somewhat uncomfortable. So ask yourself under what conditions you wouldn’t have any hesitation - and can you make that happen?
I’m still masking in grocery stores. Maybe not in a small store if there are only a few people. At D’s inside graduation there was a good bit of room for seating but very, very few masks. D is in the health professions and she was one of only a few wearing a mask for all the ceremony except when she walked the stage. I masked until we sat down.
I also know I have a trip planned in two weeks that I do NOT want to get sick before. So I’m going to be extra careful these next two weeks. Do you have anything coming up that is more important than this shower?
I would not choose to attend something like an indoor concert yet.
Hate the phrase, but “you do you”!!! I think some people follow the crowd - the less people mask, the less people mask! Some people don’t go places where masking is still the rule. I work in a hospital so it is not foreign at all for me to mask.
I would personally politely decline and use the excuse of being high risk. Not because I’m particularly worried as I’ve been vaxed boosted and had covid, but because as an introvert I really try to avoid baby showers and other gatherings of social obligations. Covid has been my go to excuse for over 2 years, and I’m sticking to it. 
just a little levity
If I had come in contact with anyone who tested positive for COVID in the previous couple of weeks I would skip it, primarily for the purpose of not putting the pregnant woman (who the shower is for) at risk.
If I were significantly immune suppressed I would skip it.
Otherwise I would make sure that I was fully vaccinated, with boosters as appropriate, would attend, and would wear a mask. If no one else had a mask on I might take mine off.
At this point I am figuring that we all either have been or will be exposed to COVID. The social distancing and masking and working from home gave us time to get vaccinated. My entire family is vaccinated and boosted, so IMHO we need to get on with our lives.
However…
Exactly right.
I don’t really disagree with anything here, but I would prefer to keep my mask on regardless of what others do.
Just recently, I went to a large conference in the Bay Area. 90% of the people in the conference room (probably around 200 total people) were NOT wearing masks. I’m vaxed and boosted, but I elected to stay masked (and debated about leaving the conference). I then got tested the next day (pointless, I agree) and then five days later. Luckily, I tested negative both times. To be on the safe side, I quarantined away from my family for five days in my home office and wore a mask anytime I was around the family.
I would love to return to normal, but I’m not sure we’re there yet (Bay Area has a significant uptick right now). But it clearly does seem that the US is now at the stage where it is a personal decision for everyone.
Yep I agree here. I’ve been in office, unmasked since June 2020. I’ve been to the gym for much of the time, but I limit my time and go when it’s not crowded. We eat indoors, but we go to places where we are in and out usually in 30-45 min. We go to movies during off times when there are <10 (usually <5) others in the theater. Our lives aren’t that much different than precovid
But events that are over an hour, where lots of people are together still make me jumpy. If everyone else had theirs off, that’s when I want to wear mine. I recently went to a meeting where we were 3-5 feet apart for 1:45. I was the only one masked. I felt much better that way and why not? It’s no big deal at all. I just had to sit there quietly and say “yes” every so often.
OP- I am comfortable turning down indoor events right now. I have a close family member who is immunocompromised, and while I’m OK not seeing that person periodically (I had a medical thing I needed to take care of and was told I’d been exposed, so self-quarantined) I’m not OK never seeing that person because I’m “back to my normal life”. We also have a new infant in the family and if it’s a choice between socializing or seeing the baby, I chose the baby who is too young to be vaccinated and also too young to calculate risk!
I think it depends on what you’d miss if you ended up getting covid right now. Even in my pretty cautious part of the country, people seem completely done with Covid, and even at work meetings where the rule was “masks on” people are draping them on one ear, standing too close, etc. So I"m resigned to getting it, maybe, even after taking reasonable precautions, but I sure wouldn’t choose someone else’s shower over seeing my own grandchild!
Very true.
However, some events may be more valuable than others of similar COVID-19 risk. An hour indoors for some special event may be more valuable than an hour indoors for an ordinary restaurant meal. Some people may accept the risk for the special event, but not for an ordinary restaurant meal.
That’s about it. That’s why I was so hypercautious as we had a very big event just a few days after my attendance at the conference where very few people were masked. I’d say we’re pretty risk-averse for the next few months.
That’s what I meant upthread when asking how close you are to this person. My daughter? I’d be there. One of my many cousins? Not likely.
I was invited to a good friends mother 95 birthday. It was at a small restaurant with 50+ people. I asked ahead of time if she was going to have people tested prior to the party since the mom was 95. She said no. I went for an hour. I wore my mask the whole time and did not take my mask off for food or drinks. My friend was not happy, but so be it.
I recently went to a company workshop with 15+ people. They opted not to get tested before the workshop even though my firm offered testing onsite, so I wore my mask.
I only eat outdoor. My friends know it by now and they make fun of me from time to time. I know most of the nice outdoor restaurants around me.
On the other hand, my sister is living the life to its fullest. She fully vaccinated and is Covid free. 
Indoors with poor ventilation, and other people in close proximity, then I’d wear a mask. But certainly would prefer to be located near a window or door, if possible. I don’t want ANY down time. Being sick sucks. I’ve got better things to do, then stay home in bed.
I swear, it would be my luck that I would get a raging case of Covid if I dropped all precautions!
I just got home from spending almost 72 hours with my husband in the hospital after a visit to the ER indicated several undiagnosed issues. 1 in 10 people wore masks. No physicians were masked. I was astounded given the uptick. I asked a couple of the nurses about the current Covid status. One avoided the question entirely and one went off on the side effects of vaccines. I was one of the 10% masked. My husband, the patient, never masked. We will see what the next few days bring.
Wow! I think they’re still mandated in hospitals in my area. That’s really worrisome. Sorry you have to deal with that. I’m getting a minor procedure done this week, and need to follow really strit precautions, plus bring my vaccine card or i can’t get it.
I helped H write an invitation to an indoor birthday party in which we asked people to only attend if they’re vaxed 2x plus at least 1, preferable 2 boosters. Said they can mask as preferred and we will have spare masks (surgical &n95) available and hand sanitizer. Nearly all invitees are about 80 years old and H is inviting 30 of his old buddies. Will see what the rsvps are like.
We have been attending some events but try to only dine indoors rarely and only when the place is very uncrowded.
I’d likely pass on the shower and perhaps invite the expectant mom out to dine at an outdoor venue with you.
I think you are really uncomfortable that’s why you are asking this question so I think it’s fine to turn it down. At this point where we are right now it really doesn’t make any difference if people were vaccinated or not. If they were not vaccinated more likely then not they had Covid at least once or maybe more. Everyone have different level of comfort and it’s perfectly fine.
I am inconsistent. Several weeks ago I was at an indoor Easter extended family gathering where all were unmasked. This was out of state and it was precious to be invited.
For most of this winter I have been careful to avoid indoor dining as Omnicron was raging. Now that spring has finally arrived, we can be outside in these northern states and I will be outside while socializing as much as possible as long as cases are increasing.
One of my best friends had RA, and I was careful to avoid risky behavior to protect her. But she passed away, unrelated to Covid. So my decisions are based more on current rates and whether I have any travel planned that could be impacted by falling ill. Or whether I will be around anyone immunocompromised in the next 5 days
I have done a handful of indoor events. (Art exhibits, high school alum event and going to a fancy restaurant next week.) Went to one movie where there was only one other person in the theater - weekday matinee. I’m saying no to most indoor events and I have two boosters, but we have some things on the calendar that are risky. Grad school reunion in July, big bash birthday party next October, hopefully a trip to Japan in November. I’m twice boosted, so objectively I know I’m unlikely to get very sick much less die, but I’m still concerned about long Covid. I wouldn’t hesitate to say no to a shower and just send a present unless I really, really wanted to be there.