<p>my ex is asian.</p>
<p>Before college I dated a Chinese-Japanese guy. One of my friends is happily dating a black woman in college, they’re adorable together. I agree with BeautifulNerd, I never went on a man hunt but now I’m dating a fabulous black man (I’m white).</p>
<p>But yes, personality is always key. You may find that you are attracted to white guys (or in my case, asian guys) and then suddenly something else comes along that makes you change your mind.</p>
<p>Um… it’s 2009. Why is this still even a topic?</p>
<p>What’s that supposed to mean? Believe it or not, but there are still many people who turn heads at it and are very opposed to it.</p>
<p>^^Unfortunately, I agree. Yes, race is still an issue, people have trouble seeing past skin color sometimes. I was talking to some girls from my school, and they feel bitter when they see a black man dating a white woman. As a white woman dating a black man, I feel insulted by this stigma, that black men date white woman just because they’re denying black women, and not because he is dating me for who I am as a person. Some see it as “selling out” when black men date/marry outside their own race. It’s just something I don’t agree with.</p>
<p>I found a post online from a forum that sums it up: </p>
<p>*"(**I’m speaking on behalf of convos from myself and my black girlfriends): Black women once they reach a certain age will have more non-married woman than their white, hispanic and asian counter-parts. On the same token Black men make up well over thier fair share of our prison populations, and are more likely to be killed at a young age. So when some black women see a decent, attractive black man with a white woman its basically a slap in the face ( they are taking all our men) Also take into consideration black women have not histroically been represented in American media as desirable, or beautiful…So it’s like its bad enough “White america doesn’t want us, but our own brothers don’t either” Again this is an opinion I have heard and I’m sure you will find a great many of black women don’t feel this way myself included. This explanation does not make any stigma you might face fair to yourself or your husband just maybe give you a point of reference…"</p>
<p>This is just one example of an issue related around black men dating white women, but plenty of other races have their own issues to deal with.</p>
<p>You know what’s really whack…black dude with a hot asian girl.</p>
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<p>collegehelllp, that is such a stereotype. what about those black girls at top schools?</p>
<p>A lot of my school’s football players (mainly black), date white girls. However, I can’t recall seeing a white guy dating a black girl. Not trying to be racist, it’s just what I see.</p>
<p>Collegehelllp, that has to be the single dumbest comment… </p>
<p>Your parents–or the school system, or someone–seriously failed you.</p>
<p>collegehelllp,</p>
<p>I think you need more help than college can offer you. There are plenty of overweight, poor, single WHITE, Asian, Native American, Hispanic, and other mothers as well. There are also plenty of poor, deadbeat dads of any creed or color. </p>
<p>I recommend living in the 21st century instead of going to college.</p>
<p>Are you guys serious?</p>
<p>The poverty rate is close to 30% for African American single family households, and that isn’t even taking into account the homeless and/or multi-family households, which are basically people who cannot afford homes or rent themselves. </p>
<p>My point was just that you don’t see many AA women with other races because they have, by far, the highest single mother rate, which is an incredible burden for any potential suitor, the lowest incomes, and, because they make less money, and lower incomes have a direct correlation with higher weights, the highest overweight/obesity rate.</p>
<p>I am honestly sorry if I offended anyone, it wasn’t meant in that manner.</p>
<p>Collegehelllp:</p>
<p>I’m not really sure anyone is necessarily offended. I think most people are just in shock of how little sense you are making.</p>
<p>Did you ever ask yourself how these women are becoming mothers in the first place? It is not as if they were just born with children. Aside from cases of rape, these women obviously had to have been in some kind of relationship with a man.</p>
<p>How is it racist to state a fact? Collegehelp is saying things that are true. Pointing out a TREND is not racist at all.</p>
<p>People these days are so PC, it’s ridiculous.</p>
<p>B Man 22:</p>
<p>I don’t think anyone has said that what Collegehelp said is racist. However, this is pretty close to being racist, “You know what’s really whack…black dude with a hot asian girl.” Any particular reason why you feel that way?</p>
<p>Wow collegehelllp
I mean I’m far from overweight and my family isn’t hurting at all. My mom and dad are still married, and yes, he’s my real father.</p>
<p>People think that they’re “stating fact” but within those “facts” are hidden biases. </p>
<p>@catsushi, that’s what I was saying. I’ve dateda an African (he was Somalian), black guys, a Mexican guy, and a white/Mexican guy. Now, I’m with a white guy. Lol I don’t see why color is such an issue for so many people.</p>
<p>@LasMa, you’d think these things would be a norm by now, but do you know how it feels when people call you a “sellout” for being with someone you love that just happens to not be your race? Do you know how hard it is to keep my boyfriend calm when someone calls him a n*gger lover all b/c his best friend is black? It’s 2009, but things haven’t changed as much as people would like to think they have.</p>
<p>Newjack,</p>
<p>Whack, in this case, isn’t meant to be derogatory. More like a…“whoa!” Because as an asian male, you are slightly disadvantaged in the mating game (unless you’re attractive), and you almost feel entitled to an asian partner. When any non-asian dates an asian girl, you are perplexed. Slightly jealous as well. But for blacks, it’s not even jealousy; it’s pure confusion. That is why it is whack. Many older asians don’t say it, but they are traditionally a racist bunch of people. There is SOOO much stigma that comes from dating a non-asian. Asians are also prone to stereotyping people in the most close-minded fashion without any chance of swaying opinion. What they think, is. And when it comes to non-asian non-whites, it’s just a big no-no for older asians. And that mentality can pass onto their children. So sometimes when an asian sees an asian girl with a black guy, it goes like: “Whoa…her parents approve? How’d she even meet him? They must have been brought together by the 4 elements! What school did she go to? Why is she dating him?” </p>
<p>Now, while I can fall into this particular trap, I in no way actually approve of it on any moral grounds. </p>
<p>I hope that clears some things up.</p>
<p>Nobody called him racist. Racist, no. Some shade of clueless, bordering on Moronic, yes.</p>
<p>BeautifulNerd - Thanks for letting me know that you’re not overweight or poor, your completely irrelevant contribution has caused me to reach an epiphany about the meaning of life. </p>
<p>I don’t need multiple people telling me that there are exceptions to rules, isn’t that common knowledge? </p>
<p>Again, my post wasn’t mean to offend, I was merely trying to point out that there are reasons for AA women being single other than simply being so enamored with the black man.</p>
<p>Plattsburgh, please elaborate on how it’s moronic to think that many African American women are single because a huge chunk of them have multiple undesirable traits.</p>
<p>@collegehelllp-
No problem! 
Ignorance is bliss. I try to help the needy when I can esp. in regard to common sense. Exceptions to rules? You’re acting like all black women are overweight. Common sense is lacking in that thick skull of yours. If you wanted to point out reasons, perhaps you should’ve done it in a more constructive way b/c generalizations get you nowhere in life. Also, society has brainwashed you. Some men love thicker women, and being a single mom is not always an automatic turn-off to guys. Like I stated before, these are your biases as well; you wouldn’t be defending your response so much if it was simply just a fact.</p>