<p>I think what really sucks is when I see another African-American male dating a girl of another race, and because of the way that other blacks look at them, when I gaze, I often get a look of negativity from the guy because he thinks that I’m looking at him as if he’s “selling out”. It’s quite the opposite, my good sir! </p>
<p>I wish it were more accepted as well.</p>
<p>It could be because he dislikes being gazed at.</p>
<p>I love my cousin, and I respect that he has only dated white girls. He never talks down to black women and has never said anything negative about them.</p>
<p>ON THE OTHER HAND, I can’t stand my other cousin. He’s just a manwhore. He had girls on Myspace fighting over him on his contacts, girls cursing me out b/c I sent him a comment and they thought I was his gf (until I cleared that up), and girls BEGGING me for his phone number. No disrespect but he’s not that good-looking. He’s a star basketball player that averages 35 points a game (and that’s a minimum for him). This whole basketball thing got to head (which is understandable in a sense), and he’s moved up from black women per se. He dates the “easy” white girls that will also serve as status symbols. </p>
<p>Now, cousin 1 is going to Cornell and dates girls that are extremely beautiful, DROP DEAD gorgeous. Cousin 2 dates the girls no one wants. </p>
<p>See my frustration with this? Cousin 1 genuinely likes the girl, and race is no issue to him. Cousin 2 is obsessed with his power (doesn’t even have plans for college, he thinks he can get drafted out of high school) and sees white girls as trophies.</p>
<p>It’s not just one person; it’s a common thread.</p>
<p>Then maybe you should quit gazing at people, particularly strangers.
Black, white, Asian, whatever, if I see some random person “gazing” at me, I’m going to think that person is weird as hell.</p>
<p>My point is maybe it’s not their relationship they’re responding to, but being stared at–whether or not it’s meant to be rude.</p>
<p>BeautifulNerd, your cousin may have a tough time getting drafted out of high school as it’s not allowed by the NBA. You might want to let him know.</p>
<p>Collegehelllp- He’s stubborn. Lol EVERYONE knows that they make you go to college to get drafted now, but he thinks he’s “special”. I asked him what college he wanted to go to one time, and he laughed and said, “College”? It’s a joke to him. Ha. I’d love to see him in 20 years.</p>
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<p>It’s just that I’m shocked. I figure that interracial dating is still disapproved in the rural backwaters of the deep south, and I know it’s forbidden at Bob Jones “University.” But at the vast majority of college campuses, is it still an issue? If so, I find that very discouraging.</p>
<p>It’s not just rural. I’ve seen <em>many</em> Asian guys complain about Asian girls going out with white guys.</p>
<p>I like observing people. It’s kind of what I do. I’ve just observed that over time. Perhaps due to perceived cultural lack of acceptance?</p>
<p>@LasMa- I don’t know about in college but in general, yes. I find that it’s not even just the south b/c my boyfriend is from the south and his family is really cool about everything. It’s also in the North (Indiana and not just the southern part). My grandma is black and my grandpa is white, but people act as if there’s a huge issue in the town they live in. I mean, the town is really old and mostly filled with white people, but you’d think that since it was in the North, it would be better. People there are just as bad as the South. It’s a rural area, and I know how the neighbors are so I don’t go outside too much when I’m there (at least not at night).</p>
<p>It’s hardly the “rural backwaters of the deep South.” Since the history of racism between Black and White Americans is deep in this country, a lot more focus is put on it, especially in the media, and it’s more “open”, we talk about it a lot. we learn about issues like slavery, Jim Crow laws, segregation, etc, at an early age. </p>
<p>Meanwhile, Asians account for only like 5% of the population, plus their history in this country is shorter, but there are plenty of racial tensions, especially amongst 1st and 2nd generation. I think Asian-American racism tends to be subtle, they don’t form groups like the KKK, it’s as simple as wanting your kids to marry only Chinese, or only East Asian, or only White/Asian. Bear in mind that can be cultural as well, not necessarily racist (like if they want to keep Korean culture strong in their family or something). I have a close friend who’s an Asian guy, very liberal, open-minded and intelligent, goes to an Ivy. Yet i’ve heard even him make racist remarks about Asian girls/white guy. It’s kind of a complicated issue, but definitely not just a hillbilly thing.</p>
<p>We still have a long way to go concerning race relations in this country, and they exist for every ethnic group. It doesn’t suprise me that there are so many threads about this kind of stuff.</p>
<p>I don’t feel like it’s right for anyone to treat whites wrong just b/c of the past. Not all whites are racist, but people group them all as one.</p>
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<p>Not all African American women are fat single mothers, but collegehelllp seems to think they are “a huge chunk” of the African American population. According to some logic, it’s fair to go either way…</p>
<p>…my mind is blown. I just hope people like collegehelllp aren’t prevalent. S/he says those are “facts”. I wonder if s/he has ever looked at the underlying “facts”.</p>
<p>Just taking a trip to the African-American sub-forum on CC should suggest that stereotype is just that: a stereotype.</p>
<p>Too many people rely on numbers to explain away and justify latching on to stereotypes. At the very least, take in account the cause for these statistics and consider that statistics are not exactly notorious for being accurate.</p>
<p>Then again, can one truly look at those on this site, obviously the very tip top of African-Americans and say that these are representative of the entire race?</p>
<p>Of course not. It’s saying the opposite, there is no one representation of a race is my point.</p>
<p>I could have easily found negative stereotypes and claimed them as “facts,” but I didn’t b/c that’s childish, wrong, and it’s hurtful to others. He can say w/e he wants about African-Americans, I’ve heard it all before. When you grow up in a racist school or a racist town, you grow immune to the BS. I’ve learned to fight ignorance with wisdom. When students or even teachers treat me like I’m mentally challenged (which I am not) just b/c I’m Black, I don’t run off crying; I prove them wrong and make them look dumb in class. Some people think that all Black people are supposed to be dumb and just look for a career in entertainment or in sports. It’s not right, or better yet, it’s not JUST, but it happens. I get upset, but I’ve learned to fight back in a constructive way. It’s amusing especially when the students who made the jokes and racist comments need my help or have to suck it up and say, “You’re not what I thought you’d be.” Ignorance is bliss.</p>
<p>To all the people who have mentioned that some people still have an issue with interrracial dating, you guys are true. That fact sucks, but it’s true. My friend went somewhere with a white friend of hers and got lots of mean stares.</p>
<p>^^^ Your friend is a good one. When people stare at me, I wave. Don’t look at me w/o saying hi or acknowledging me somehow; it’s rude.</p>