Is anyone scared of trasnferring?

<p>soooo all you guys that said u werent sure about transfering cause youve started to really like ur school...if uve heard from schools already, have u decided yet? i keep changing my mind about whether or not i wanna leave or not and its driving me crazy!</p>

<p>i cant decide whether its worth it to leave my school for a school thats only slightly better than mine (6 above mine in the top 25 LACs) and, from what i saw, has questionable academics.</p>

<p>Yeah, I'm in the same position. I've made a lot of great friends here, and am part of a fraternity, so I feel like I'd be betraying them if I left. But then I look at the juniors and seniors and see how miserable they are and how they can't wait to leave and tell myself I don't want to end up like that.</p>

<p>My school sucks. I'm currently in a small American college in Moscow. Having spent 3 semesters here I already know everyone in person and am kinda bored. Also, academics are quite limited. I can't transfer to any of Russian schools because of the differences in school systems.</p>

<p>So, now I'm trying to transfer to a US school. It means that I'll probably move to a new country (if accepted, of course :)) where I know absolutely no one. Probably, I will never come back to Russia or, probably, not. I don't know in which country I will work or live in future, what my family will be like... Just the idea of being thousand miles away from everyone I know.. It's SCARY!</p>

<p>But. It was sort of crazy decision to transfer in my sophomore year. And I hope it was a right decision. I'm thankful to my CC. Without it I would never ever know the whole variety of options I have in life. If I initially went to a Russian university, I would be narrow minded, never knowing I could do more than anyone else does here. My mentality is completely different now, I see far beyond 2 years from now and know I have plenty of options. So, I'm much more excited about this whole thing rather than scared.</p>

<p>Last year I was scared to death at times but as I told LxJxCx earlier, it's okay to have doubts about transferring. If you read the fine print on your withdrawal forms, you will be admitted back to your old school if things don't work out. I say, GO FOR IT. Just jump off the diving board into the deep water- you never know what the new school will bring you.</p>

<p>When I felt scared, it was only because people at my old school were being nice and sweet to me (remember, spring brings the feeling of being alive in all of us) and I had everything all set up for me in the fall such as 3 leadership positions, great classes, and a cushiony work-study position. But I've wanted to leave for so long that it became second nature to me and that eased my anxieties.</p>

<p>If you really put in the time and effort into transferring and gave your school your best shot and that fails, you know it. You know that you need to try your chances of making stronger relationships and better life elsewhere if your current school just simply cannot provide you with things you need.</p>

<p>It may feel like a HUGE betrayal to leave your groups of friends but you're doing it for YOU, not for anyone else. That's one thing that most transfers forget about- their own sense of self. If you can articulate your reasons for leaving well, then your friends/frat brothers will understand. They know that their school isn't flawless and that some people just can't handle dealing with the flaws anymore. By telling them the truth, they'll know who you really are and respect that. By having this group of friends that you have now is only the beginning of your social network that you will come to rely on after college. Most people don't have that- most are limited to their own schools. As for professors- it really all depends on how good your relationship with them has been. If they supported your transferring, then they will love to hear about your endeavours later on. As mentioned, if you can keep your relationship with them, then they will help you out in the future also.</p>

<p>Just some comforting words to remember when you send in your deposit check.</p>

<p>Thanks ticklemepink for the kind words.</p>

<p>I made some great friends at my current school (W&M) too, but the truth is that I can't stand the atmosphere of the school. Nor can I live in Colonial Williamsburg for four years. It just isn't right for me, I wound up here almost on a fluke...and pretty much wound up hating it. Either way, I'm two weeks away from freedom...but I really will miss the friends I have down here, they definitely are good people.</p>

<p>I've already transferred once
and I think I might do it again
(yeah I'm one of THOSE people)
I went away to school in NYC first semester and found that it was lacking in the college experience type thing, so I was pretty miserable and transferred back home to the University of Minnesota.
I ended up applying to transfer to UW-Madison, and much to my suprise (because I applied over a month late), I got in!</p>

<p>now I don't know what to do.
I'm comfortable here because I'm so close to home, have my car, know this city and stuff, but as far as the U goes, I'll take it or leave it.</p>

<p>So yeah, I'm afraid to transfer again, so much so that I might not even do it.
I'm afraid that it will be the wrong decision.</p>

<p>I worked my ass off in order to transfer. If it weren't for wanting to transfer I probably would not have gotten such good grades, taught myself pre-calculus, and taken placement test after placement test to get into Calculus (I finally did get into). If my friends don't want me to transfer, that's their problem. The same thing happened whenever I decided to graduate high school a year early. I will be transferring to SMU as a sophomore when I am supposed to be entering as a freshman. Community college is not going to get me anywhere so thank god for being able to get into schools through the backdoor. I will no longer be embarrassed to say what school I go to.</p>

<p>Am I scared? More like anxious. I have moved so many times that I am used to change. I have never lived in the same house for more than two years. Everyone in my family gets a new car every 2-4 years. Its just how we are so I think I will be fine in that department.</p>

<p>i'm more anxious than scared also.</p>

<p>would anyone here transfer to another school whose department you're majoring in is less respected and not as good as your current school's major department? i cant decide if sacrificing a little bit of academics for a better social life is worth it...</p>

<p>i would leave WM in a heartbeat even if it was just to go back to ohio (miami oh) or to villanova</p>

<p>Hey ndhopeful, I just got into UVA....now I have a huge decision to make</p>

<p>I am terrified. I’m a sophomore at UNC-Chapel Hill and have made great friends and gotten really involved, but i just don’t feel like i really have a place here. i have been undecided the entire semester whether or not to stay here or transfer to Sewanee: the University of the South. the academics are worse, but i feel like i would love the small community. im also worried about leaving unc’s active social scene for sewanee ( a town with zero bars), but i just don’t really feel accepted here. I literally cannot decide.</p>

<p>It’s interesting this topic came up. I’m transferring as a second semester freshman to a new school in January. I was scared to death to come to college. When I got to my current college, I ended up hating it. But in transferring, it’s no where near the fear I had when I first went to college. Honestly, I feel like I’ve already been as low as I possibly could be at my current school that I’m simply not afraid anymore. It got to the point for me that I just stopped caring about going somewhere new…</p>

<p>This thread was started over three years ago. I wonder if the topic starter ever transferred?</p>