Is "Buyer's Remorse" Normal?

<p>I know I should be enjoying the college life and all that, and I am at times, but sometimes I just feel really down and keep wishing I chose another school (University of South Carolina for about a full-ride), instead of coming to Penn, though I'm not paying too much to go here, costs the same as going to an average public university. Of course, I do not know what it'd be like if I went there, but since Univ of South Carolina is only like 2 hours from my home while Penn is over 9 hours, I feel that'd be at least one thing better. I chose Penn since its academics were better (studying engineering hoping to go into business, etc.), seemed to have more opportunities, and since they gave me a good package, and I wanted to take a challenge and go far from home to see what I could do. And also since USCarolina isn't too great of a school. But then, now I keep thinking in hindsight, like none of it matters anymore. Did this happen to others? How did you do?</p>

<p>You’ve only been there for a few weeks. Wait until you find your place. If you’re still feeling out of it after a semester or so, then be concerned.</p>

<p>When I was a freshman, I initially had a little bit of buyer’s remorse about my college. I even thought about putting in a transfer application. It all melted away when I joined a fraternity, made a few friends, and got involved in a bit of research. Looking back, I couldn’t have imagined myself anywhere else. Also, it took me a couple years to realize exactly what made me subjectively a great fit (as portrayed unintentionally in my essay), culturewise.</p>

<p>Yeah, I just need to tell myself to stop worrying if i made the best decision right now and see how it goes</p>

<p>Buyers remorse is extremely normal. I’m going through it right now. I’m sure you’ll be fine, but it will continue to grow on you if you know it’s not the right place for you.</p>

<p>thanks caldud, I will see how it goes</p>

<p>You will always wonder “what if” and i’m sure if you went to USC you’d be wondering if you should’ve gone to Penn! Just know you can’t change your decision now and enjoy it as much as possible, if you still feel this way after a year maybe think about transferring but you need to give it more than a month.</p>

<p>I think you’re right thunder, thanks. I’m going to give it a year and hope for the best</p>

<p>All I know is that we’re from Florida, and my son gave up a scholarship to the much cheaper and higher rep U of Florida (and got into FSU’s prestigious music program) to attend U of South Carolina on a music scholarship. He absolutely loves it and I am happy he made the right choice.</p>

<p>I agree you need to wait it out, but it comes down to culture and fit…</p>

<p>I logged into CC to post for the first time ever to say holy sweet Jesus I wasn’t actually expecting to find someone in my EXACT situation on College Confidential. SinkOrSwim, I’m also a Penn Engineering '16, and I’m undergoing everything you’re talking about. I applied for M&T ED with deferral to Engineering, and now I really wished I hadn’t checked the deferral box. I’m clinging to the hope that this is just an internal hazing period and it’ll blow over eventually. I’m just not used to the culture here and I haven’t made many people who I can really call “friends.”</p>

<p>haha reivei i know how you feel, it can be really tough at times. Also, keep pressing on, and i’m sure in time you’ll make a lot of good friends. It’ll probably take a while, at least a few months, and maybe even the whole year. are you going home for fall break/Thanksgiving?</p>

<p>It depends on what you want to do. If you’re a business major and fairly on top of things or want to work in the Southeast after your career, SCAR would have been a better choice.</p>

<p>Another factor is if you took on any debt. If you had to take debt for Penn and would not have for SCAR AND you could have had similar opportunities from SCAR, I think thats a mistake as well. It really depends on what you’re doing there.</p>

<p>Basically, if you want to be a business man and have a really fun and easier college experience, south carolina would have been a better choice. Great business school, pretty good compsci/engineering, the rest is about average or poor. Football and social stuff is unbeatable, though penn state is no joke when it comes to those things either.</p>

<p>yeah, I guess you’re right. No debt here, but I am so far looking to get a job back in the SE due to weather, but I’m flexible. Well, no point in regretting anymore, only can move forward. But…if it was between Penn State vs USC, I would’ve definitely chosen usc, penn state wouldn’t have drawn me out here</p>

<p>You can’t live your life regretting the choices you made - you made the best decision at the time based on what you thought. Chuck it up as a learning lesson on your road to better things, and you’ll actually come to appreciate what you had to overcome to get where you end up.</p>

<p>What matters is what you’re going to do moving forward.</p>