Not looking to personalize this as I previously highlighted how challenging the process is and how stressful it is on parents, but in post 178 you said…
Does seem to be about your “top” kid, you do seem to be extrapolating and you are diminishing someone’s “well rounded kid” as you describe them.
And previously you posted…
Once again seems your macro view is being driven by your micro (kids) experience and suggesting checking boxes and randomness is the determinant of an applicants success diminishes those that are successful.
I wish your kid success @Htas and hope this helps provide the citation you requested.