<p>Is it hard to make friends at NYU seeing as I am a shy person (not very rich) person?? Since it isn't a typical college dorm experience, isn't it hard to get to know people well?</p>
<p>It’ll be hard to get to know people no matter where you go if you’re always shy. You need to come out of your shell more.</p>
<p>you will find your tribe. But it may take you longer if you are shy. You will have to step out of your coMfort zone and join clubs and socialize to find them.</p>
<p>Obviously, like the above user said, if you’re shy, you’re shy. Regardless of your college. He wants to know if NYU’s social life would be particularly hard for a shy person.</p>
<p>Answer his damn question instead of lecturing.</p>
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<p>@sludgeboat
What are your suggestions?</p>
<p>@1081736 - NYU is a very diverse school with tons of students, you’re bound to make some good friends…I know people who are were extremely shy in HS but were able to open in college. It’s a different atmosphere. Take advantage of it…reinvent yourself. </p>
<p>Are you considering NYU for class of 2014? Why not join the Facebook group and begin from there? </p>
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<p>If you’re afraid of being social, and are generally introverted, make sure you dorm in traditional housing instead of apartment style. </p>
<p>Traditional housing includes Hayden, Rubin, Weinstein, Goddard, and Brittany.</p>
<p>Apartment housing includes Third North, and formerly UHall.</p>
<p>@milkandsugar</p>
<p>Do you mean suggestions for the OP for dealing with the NYU social sphere? I don’t know, because I don’t know too much about it. </p>
<p>To answer the question, I’d bet it IS hard. NYU has tons of undergraduates, no campus, and one of the biggest metropolises in the world for a home. Plus, I think NYU attracts naturally independent and self-driven/concerned students who aren’t intimidated by New York, so keeping up might be a challenge. </p>
<p>Of all the colleges in the United States, NYU might be one of the most important for visiting ahead of time. I think it’s kinda a love it / hate it place. But give it a chance - you might really be surprised about it.</p>
<p>@sludgeboat</p>
<p>Actually that is a good answer. My D goes there and she says it is hard to make friends EXCept if you are a Tisch kid. They all hang together from day 1. They eat, sleep and stay together.So you have to be creative in finding friends.</p>
<p>I used to be like you, extremely shy and had a hard time making friends. I can tell you making friends will be as hard as you allow it to be. A few years ago I was sick and tired of not making friends, of feeling like an outcast. I decided I was going to try and be outgoing, try to talk to the kid next to me in class. It was hard for sure. One thing outgoing people don’t understand, we can’t always control how shy we are. I would sit there determined to talk to people, people I knew were nice and I liked, but I’d get this anxiety and blush and it wasn’t so fun for awhile. Its like this defense, you get hit verbally so many times that your mind and body instantly retreat. To your mind (subconsciously) its much safer this way. Even to this day, I blush a lot when I have to get up in front of the class. It doesn’t bother me anymore, my body just does it instinctively. </p>
<p>Some the problem will have been Jr. High and High School. As some who has done college and high school at the same time, there is a huge difference it people and atmosphere. I would go to college in the mornings talk to my friends, do great in classes, feel great, until I got to high school later on for afternoon classes. Its like an invisible wall of dread that hits you as walk through the halls. I don’t know for sure what it is, but it has to do with the kids. College is not like that. Clicks are so small, they become groups of friends, and its easy to find your own niche. The lack of that dreadful feeling will help you too. </p>
<p>If I were you, and I wanted to be sure I had friends when I went to NYU, I would start practicing now. Realize you shouldn’t be afraid of the high school kids, if you bug them, you’ll never see them again after this year, if you make friends all the better. A little practice goes along way, trust me. Your really going to have to push yourself out there, its not like a switch turns on and your suddenly outgoing. You have to learn to trust people. I’d also try talking to people online (make friends here, myspace, or facebook,) who are going to nyu. When you get there, you’ll know a few people at least.</p>
<p>Finally, when you get to nyu, stay in the traditional dorms, join some clubs. Even if you cannot overcome your shyness, you’ll be able to make quite a few friends there.</p>
<p>I would suggest that you meet some other people who are also shy. You may feel that you are not so bad in comparison. Otherwise if you start out with some very popular and outspoken persons, you may feel even less willing to talk. I visited NYU last week. Let’s admit, many students are very outspoken and confident. This does make it hard for someone shy.</p>
<p>On the other hand, I felt that the NYU setup does not require you to social too much if you don’t feel like it right away. It doesn’t have much outdoor playground where people can “bond” quickly, say playing sports together. So yeah, focus on the academic stuff and as you are more senior and familiar with the area, you can start breaking out of your shell more. It requires some energy that you should have accumulated by then.</p>
<p>The other plus of NYU for not having the “safety cocoon” aka a traditional campus may seen overwhelming at first to you. But it actually will help bridge you to the society better and help you get out of your old habits of being shy. you will have to deal with others in the society, whether they are NYU students or not. i actually really liked it.</p>
<p>Also, I have to admit, that the New Yorkers can seem “rude” at first, they are very nice group of people actually. They just have their own way of doing things efficiently that I actually like and can appreciate. </p>
<p>In a nutshell, you should be fine. I won’t worry about it at all.</p>