I don’t go to clubs. I don’t go to parties. I’m just bogged down by homework and essays and don’t have the time to work that into my schedule. I’d rather unwind in my bedroom anyways.
Hey if you don’t feel the need to socialize then don’t. I am a very independent person. I have no real friends at my school and I’m fine with that. If that’s how you are, then great! Nothing wrong with that. If you do want friends, then I am obviously not the person to ask lol.
I feel the same way. I don’t really have a social life, I just spend my time studying and focusing on school. Though I’ve always been like this, I’ve never really had a taste of what a social life is like.
If you are happy with how you are handling your life, it’s fine!
I’d encourage you to try to make a couple friends, perhaps from class, just because it’s sometimes nice to have that, but you shold not feel pressure.
The thing abut college is it’s a great opportunity to really “You do You!” If you’re happy, then don’t force it. If you decide you want to socialize, there are many outlets.
Group projects seem to be the thing today so that will likely happen over your four yrs. When it does, you’ll have to meet with others, discuss things, etc. It may be nice to have a cup of coffee with someone.
I agree with all the above. If it’s okay with you, then it’s ok! If you prefer to just focus on your academics and to be solitary during any downtime, who’s to say that has to be a problem? If you want to connect with people, you can always do it over academics, such as joining or forming a study group, joining academic societies on campus, etc.
Did school start yet? If not I’m guessing your school has orientation right before school starts with some special activities. If possible try checking out some of them. You won’t be bogged down with school work and some don’t require you to be vocal. It might give you a chance to meet some potential friends.
Also look at some of the school sponsored activities past orientation. Some may be fun, short time frame etc. My daughter’s school has a Saturday night free trip/transportation to an indoor trampoline park that is about 2 hours door to door, not partying based and no need to be very vocal as an example.
Even though you might assume everyone goes to parties/clubs that isn’t usually the case. Even at big party schools there are students who have no interest in partying. It is fine to stay in and do your own thing but do know that there can be fun to be had without partying. If you are happy with your solitary that is completely fine.
I would reach out to find some like minded friends…when they have the club open house go to that and sign up for some clubs that are interesting to you. But it is okay to be introverted and spend time alone.
@momtogirls2 Yeah college started and I’m already passing out from gases in chem lab lol.
Yes absolutely. There are plenty of people that live life and prefer the same things that you do in college. There may be some social pressure, but you have to live life in the way that makes you happy. People find personal fulfillment in many different ways, but you got to do what is right for you