<p>Chill, girl. ;) If you let loose of all the uptightness that HS relationships bring, stuff 'll come to you.</p>
<p>I'll follow my own advice soon.</p>
<p>Well, personally I have rejected the guys that have asked me out. And I suppose I'm smart, considering my grades/accomplishments compared to the other students. I don't mean to sound full of myself. Just saying.
I just don't agree with relationships at this age and I'm very picky. Plus I find the guys I meet immature. So there. I enjoy my freedom.
Moreover, I have no interest in any guys right now whatsoever.</p>
<p>I think it is possible to be smart and taken. :] I went to a new high school and it seems like the valdevictorian knows how to manage her time wisely and to have fun. It just depends if the person who is smart is open and willing to have fun versus the one who is smart and is not open to anyone. :P Psycho_Paroxysm, you remind me so much of myself when I was 15. X]</p>
<p>It all depends on whether if you're willing to go out and meet new people. Putting yourself out there, even when faced with a possible rejection, is how to make friends.</p>
<p>I'm not valedictorian, but I'm kinda close (3rd). I've had a boyfriend for almost 2 years. He's not a genius, but he's not stupid either (in some honors classes, probably in the top 50 in our class). I think one of the main reasons that our relationship works is b/c he never feels inferior- I'm not the kind of girl who shoves grades and intelligence in people's faces. Most of my friends (guys and girls) aren't in any of my AP classes, either.</p>
<p>I can see why most valedictorians/salutatorians/etc. don't want boyfriends, though. Having a relationship on top of tons of homework, cheer practice, clubs, and work can be extremely draining. Sometimes, I'll leave for school at 6:30 and I won't get back until 10 at night. When I get home, I just want to pass out in my bed, but I almost always call my bf and chat with him for awhile, instead. He definitely gets irritated when he feels like I "don't have enough time for him," we've almost broken up a few times because of this. </p>
<p>Like most of you, I've got so much going on that it would really make my life easier if I just cut some stuff out b/c I <em>don't have time for it.</em> It's all about priorities, though. Not to get sappy, but if you find something that means something to you, you have to stick with it. Is having a boyfriend worth getting less than 5 hours of sleep on a regular basis? For me it is, but it may not be for you. Don't stress about getting/keeping a relationship if you don't want one- you can still have a ton of fun if you're single.</p>
<p>whew, that was long :)</p>
<p>My school doesn't rank, but I wouldn't be valedictorian if they did. I had a 5.0 W (took 6 APs by the end of junior year) after last year, but I have a stubborn B in math this year, so that would drop a little if I were to recalculate. Basically, I'm not a total dip****, but I'm also not the smartest kid ever. But yeah, I have a job (20 hrs a week), I was a track captain last year, and I'm a competitive gymnast, plus a million other clubs.</p>
<p>And yes, I have a boyfriend. We don't get to spend a crazy amount of time together (he's in marching band at his university, and that scheduel conflicts with mine sometimes), but we find time for each other.</p>
<p>Am I intimidating? I have no idea. I guess, though, this being my third boyfriend ever, might indicate that a lot of times the smart kids don't date? Also, my school is full of crazy smart kids, so a couple that both originally went there might not be a great representation.</p>
<p>Well... now that I think about it, for me the issue isn't so much a lack of time or energy--I'm a big believer in not driving myself over the edge with a packed schedule and all that, and I don't really want anything besides my normal level of anxiety-related insomnia to keep me from getting a healthy night's sleep. The thing is, I love my friends-- some of them I absolutely adore (like guy #2 in my post above--don't know what I'd do without the kid) --but my guy friends are the only guys I can think of whom I'd consider dating ((I'd have to like the guy and enjoy his company to be in a romantic relationship with him--and if I like him and enjoy his company, then I'm probably friends with him. Eh. Makes sense to me.)) and the last thing in the world I want is to lose their friendship. I mean, if we continued being as considerate and kind to each other as we are now, then I wouldn't expect any big heart-renting issue... but it'd be hard to break up with a guy and expect to have him as the same friend he was before the romantic relationship began. And it'd be hard to not end the romantic relationship with him if I'm leaving for Europe for a gap year after graduation and he's not graduating yet and there are a lot of nice girls in his class, if you know what I mean... God, it'd be the most awful thing to have him do anything that would make me lose my trust in him. Makes me sad just thinking about it, and it's a only hypothetical boyfriend anyway. :(</p>
<p>My case is, I think, different from most people's, and I'm certainly less than qualified to give advice on the subject of valedictorian romance. Obviously. :p</p>
<p>[edit: The majority of my friends are in the class of 2008, by the way.]</p>
<p>Last year we had some really brght girls and I don't know if any of them had a long/semi-long relationship, but they were all really nice and involved. </p>
<p>This year I'm in the running for Valedictorian as long as I keep up the straight A's, my unweighted GPA is higher than other peoples' though (because i took a lot of AP's my junior year). I'm involved in a lot of clubs, my church, and will have had 15ish AP's by the end of the year. But, I've also had a few b/f's. One for a year, a couple in between, and I am currently in a relationship that has just passed the 10 month mark =).</p>
<p>That being said, most people are surprised I can handle everything, especially a relationship, but I think it really depends on the person. I jsut have good time management ;-). The smart guys are constantly on "bad" terms with me, they make fun of me and such a lot, but it'll be alright. </p>
<p>It is true though, most people don't think that girls are as smart as they are, whether they realize it or not. I've found teachers are especially bad about this.</p>
<p>What? seriously i find smart girls very attractive. If they're ranked higher than me, im more turned on. the problem is that no girl at my school is really all that smart. I complicate the fact that i don't hang around "smart people" because i like having fun and screwing around. but seriously any guy who doesn't like a girl b/c they are smarter is retarded.</p>
<p>i get called a feminist for wanting to excel and being studious. it's rather obnoxious.
but even still i've had a few boyfriends (who weren't nerds as well) the past 4 years.</p>
<p>Hello,every one, I come from Chinese,My English is bad,so don't make fun of me,think you,I hope to find a friend in here</p>
<p>welcome Chinese to CC.
Yeah, I think most people are intimidated by smart people. Plus, some of the smart people are not interested in relationships anyway. They are busying thinking about classes, homeworks, or projects. Those people just don't want to waste their time dating.</p>
<p>LOL everyone who's in the top 10% of my class is a girl except for like 5 guys...the girls either have a BF or get drunk and screw around at parties. Come to think of it, only a few of them have bfs, and they're all really pretty and athletic. Hmm...</p>
<p>Everyone thinks my good friend the valedictorian is really hot, but she's never been on a date or had a bf. At the moment she's in a messy friends-with-benefits relationship with another one of our good friends, who's like #5 in our class. They're both bored, lonely and hormonal, I guess. Anyway, I think she intimidates men. Even when she walks she walks with power, yknow what I mean? Like full steam ahead. She always jokes(?) around that she wants to rule the world. </p>
<p>As for me, I'm #7 in my class, I've been told that I'm very attractive, but guys generally don't come near me - I have to approach them. And I'm pretty tired of it. And the kind of guys who like me are the ones I want to be just friends with, and I'm tired of that too. I've heard I'm hard to read and somewhat intimidating. I've never been on a date or had a bf. So yeah, I'm pretty sick of high school.</p>
<p>Considering that high school is suited more to girls than guys, most of the valedictorians will be girls.</p>
<p>Our valedictorian is very good-looking and she really hasn't been without a boyfriend.</p>
<p>Well, I'm not valectorian but I'm like salutarian. I'm asian and I look younger than my actual age. I don't consider myself hot or gorgeous but I think alot of guys think I'm cute or something. And the guys who have asked me out before are not top students, ones whom I would not want to date. But then the top student guys never seem to be interested in me that way. Why is that? How can a smart girl attract stupid guys and be rejected by smart guys? And why does alot of caucasian guys just seem to like asians?</p>
<p>heh, seeing this thread makes me think.</p>
<p>I'm known as one of the smartest kids in the high school (taught my self japanese at 11 or so), but I'm also one of the most popular. Never really thought about how, I mean I do ridiculously nerdy stuff that I seem to get away with that other people get looked down upon (video games, studying for PSATs/Sats, etc). I never really thought about going for girls that are intellectual in all of my AP classes, but thats generally because they aren't the most attractive.</p>
<p>But besides being smart, I have to say that I'm also a huge partier. I'm known as the kid thats, "crazy smart but smokes alot of pot". People wonder how I don't study, didnt use to do homework, etc, and still manage a 3.9 GPA (prolly closer to 4.4 now didn't really care to check), but I think thats the key in just enjoying being smart and having fun in high school. I don't push myself, I let myself let loose and have fun. Generally the girls that are 4.0ish students don't really like to party, aren't too experienced, and no offense ladies not to be vulgar, but think their pussies are made of diamon and must be treated as such. I never really bother with those girls, so when they talk to me I kind of blow them off. I prefer the girls that are preetty smart but still have fun and party and don't take themselves to seriously and wanna enjoy the moment. alot of the times these are girls that have a few honors classes, like 3.3-3.6 GPAs, and know how to party but know how to get serious when its needed (though being serious isn't needed too often :p). Alot of guys in high school aren't looking to get married, sometimes having fun is just what's on our mind, and alot of girls that I know or been with will admit that as well.</p>
<p>TBH, sometimes smart attractive girls also shut themselves down so to speak. Not showing their personality, not wanting to really have fun and smile, and are sort of closed. There's only really been a few times I've actually thought about making a girl my actual girlfriend, but one I remember was a girl who was really smart but also had fun and didn't even party like I did, but she was attractive cuz she was smart and fun. So I mean if you want my advice, if you are trying to get in a relationship (or just get laid), you don't have to party and all like I do, but you should loosen up some and at least laugh and interact with people, its good for the soul.</p>
<p>P.s. - Keep in mind I'm probably not normal seeing as how I get 2000s stoned on practice tests >_></p>
<p>haha i was going to post something about this....but from all the post i have read... there is really no answer to this because there are girls who are smart with a boyfriend and there are girls who are smart with no boyfriend... i guess it all depends on the situation...</p>
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<p>And for the soulless, undead demons? ;)</p>
<p>Yes it is possible. I was in a relationship all of last year with a very smart girl high gpa, and very, very high ACT. As for myself people see me as smarter than I actually am I only have a 3.7, and 31 ACT and am not in the top 10% you make the call whether or not I fit the description. For an "intelligent" person to have a relationship that lasts, it usually has to be with someone else fairly intelligent. Personally, I don't judge intelligence by numbers and say I won't date anyone who has a gpa below 3.5, rather more or less how they act, ie no ditsy blonds need apply.</p>
<p>Hmm. Strange question. I'm in the running to be a valedictorian at my school, but am strictly asexual (non-romantic variant) and have no desire to get a boyfriend. After losing 40 pounds over the summer, I've been getting a bit of unwanted attention.</p>
<p>As a result, I've turned down three guys in fairly rapid sucession this year (plus one freshman year), earning me a reputation as an "Ice Queen"...</p>
<p>I'm perfectly happy with that! :D They've let me alone since.</p>