Is intelligence a turnoff?

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>Since middle school no girl has every really showed any signs of interest in me or tried to flirt etc.</p>

<p>This isn't supposed to sound pompous but I'm 6'2 and somewhat good looking (imo); I'm sorta introverted I guess, but shy people are in relationships too.</p>

<p>I see girls with total d-bags who I wouldn't really consider better looking than myself.</p>

<p>The reason I ask is because I'm considered to be the future valedictorian (again, not trying to sound pompous) etc., and I can't understand why at least not one girl has every really talked to me.</p>

<p>I know that the guy's expected to make a move and all, but girls show signs and flirt, no?</p>

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<p>Disregard the whole location thing btw.</p>

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<p>I think it definitely gives people a different first impression of you. A lot of people know of you before they actually know you, and spend some time developing their opinions. Even if it’s not conscious judgment, they’re going to consider you as different from other people.</p>

<p>Try looking outside of your school if you want an easier time with it. The only girls I’ve ever dated I’ve met through either volunteering or extracurricular activities. It’s really refreshing to talk to people who have never heard of me.</p>

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<p>Everybody’s different, but I rarely meet people who wouldn’t go for a smart guy.
Who are your friends? Are they mostly guys or mostly girls?
(If you don’t talk to girls - start!)</p>

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<p>Clearly not, or I’d be able to get a date.</p>

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<p>IMO, a lack of intelligence is a huge turn off (I’m a guy). I was attracted to a girl who could recite more digits of pi than I could - now that’s hot ;)</p>

<p>Sent from my SGH-T959V using CC</p>

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<p>How does memorizing digits of pi = intelligence?</p>

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<p>I sure hope not. Then again, at least in high school, everyone just sees me as the smart girl to whom you can ask homework questions. It’ll change in college!</p>

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<p>I think intelligence is a turn-on. Unless you have to make yourself sound smart obnoxiously every time you talk, I don’t see why it would be a turn off.</p>

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<p>You’re suppose to talk to them first. Also when you do talk to them, be friendly and carefree. Do not be corrective or overbearing with your intelligence</p>

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<p>Lol I’d have to go out with someone smarter than me. I’m a guy, if that means anything.</p>

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<p>If you are annoyingly smart and act like a know it all–that’s a turn off.</p>

<p>If you’re smart but don’t flaunt it–that’s a turn on.</p>

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<p>My boyfriend is crazy smart, and I’ll admit that at times it makes feel inferior, but he’s incredibly sweet and caring. I am hugely attracted to intelligence, but it’s all in how you handle/show it. Some people will form opinions about you solely based on stereotypes, but that’s their loss.</p>

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<p>Intelligence is one of the qualities I covet most from a girl, so no, it’s definitely not a turnoff for me.</p>

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<p>I don’t really look at intelligence as something “sexy.” If you’re smart, you’re smart. I will fall in love with someone that has memorable qualities that go beyond intelligence. Heck, a guy that can make me laugh and enjoy my company is more than enough.</p>

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<p>I’m part Asian, and there’s this French blonde that I’m with that beats me consistently at AP Calc. Now that’s hawt.</p>

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<p>I agree with FantasyVesperia. Intelligence is one thing, but turning it into a memorable quality to benefit a relationship is another.</p>

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<p>some1 told mi that girls lyke it when u where deoderent!</p>

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<p>Ohhhhhhhhhh.</p>

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<p>I think most people like to date someone about as intelligent as they are (as well as having similarly good looks, health, cultural background etc.). Because of this, whenever you’re in a minority, such as being extremely smart, you’re drawing from a smaller pool of people who would be good dating material. There’s also some evidence that most girls like to date a guy who is a bit worse looking than herself. If you’re an 8/10, you’d be most successful dating a 9/10 girl. I’d venture so far to say that at a high school, probably 1/20 girls are even worth dating for a student like you. </p>

<p>Really though, most of those girls who date total jerks are not too special themselves. Many of them have major self-esteem and/or emotional issues that you’d not want to deal with, believe me. It’s better to not date at all than to date someone bad just for the sake of dating.</p>

<p>Btw, I’m a 6’2" male myself, in contention for valedictorian or salutatorian, just like you. About half the time in high school, I’ve had a girlfriend. Really, you’ve gotta put yourself out there. Smart guys have a tendency of thinking too much and not acting enough. Girls are not going to come up and talk to you. That’s not the culture we live in, the man is expected to do the chasing. Additionaly, if you’re good looking, smart, and tall, a lot of them are in fact going to be intimidated by you (yes, girls can be intimidated by hot guys just like guys get intimidated by hot girls). Put yourself out there. Chat up some girls you like, get their number, and go from there. That’s the only way you’re going to get dates for the most part.</p>

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<p>AeroMike hit the hammer on the nail’s head</p>