<p>Right, but it takes them 40 minutes to drive to the school from their house, then they pick you up and drive you back to their house another 40 minutes. It’s 80 min a weekend for you, it’s 160 min a weekend for the parents. </p>
<p>I just don’t think it would be comfortable to be staying at one person’s house the whole time who is not related to you. Though clearly you know this kid pretty well, do your parents know his parents? That would be a lot of my apprehension as a parent, I wouldn’t want my kid imposing himself on another family, even if they were willing, for a year or several years (however long it takes for you to finish at this school) unless they were very close friends. Even mild accquaintances wouldn’t cut it. And staying at other people’s houses on the weekends, I mean, won’t you want some kind of permanent home, rather than being bounced around all the time? </p>
<p>I just think its an awkward and complicated arrangement when things could be so much simpler if you just went to a full-week boarding school.</p>
<p>but my friend will probably be going to the school
so the mom would have to make the journey and his current school is around 50 mins away,anyway
I know it is an awkward and complicated arrangement but is there anyway it could work?
Does anyone think it will work?</p>
<p>It would work MUCH better for you if your were staying at the boarding school. What if the family you stay with have to move? What if they decide for another reason that your arrangement is not working out for them, and ask you to leave? You then may have to drop out of HS. There are too many “what ifs” that might come up with the kind of arrangement you are trying to set up. Take it from a parent, what you don’t need to when studying at a highly competitive boarding school, is anything that will add additional hours to your already long day.</p>
<p>I agree with the points made by other posters, but also see an additional issue. What if you and your friend get sick of so much togetherness every weekend, start to grow in different directions (it happens) or even have a falling out? Suppose the friend has or finds a significant other to spend weekend time with, leaving you with no one to socialize with? I think that the arrangement might become claustrophobic for both of you, no matter how good you feel about the friendship now.</p>
<p>^I think the problem is really what you do when you aren’t by yourself, that is to say, what you will do with yourself on the weekends you are home, in a strange town with no friends and no transportation, a perpetual guest in someone else’s house. And It hink that’s a valid point about you and your friend growing apart. That’s a very common thing for people your age, to have close friends who get more distant as you both mature and change in high school.</p>
<p>I think your parents and his parents need to talk and hash out these issues. Don’t know what grade you are, but don’t forget you are asking them to take on a multi-year commitment–or is this a one year deal.</p>