Is there a school for the Nerdy, Quirky, Very Bright but Not Well Rounded Kid?

<p>I have a son who is in 8th grade and is
Nerdy (really into computers, attends computer camp, plays MAGIC),
Quirky (a few friends but generally considered a little off by his peers)
Very bright (extremely high reading and vocabulary, tests in top %) but not great grades (As and Bs) because he is bored with the classes so doesn't work hard on homework, etc.
Not Well Rounded since all he does is play computers, electronics and MAGIC.
Not Sports oriented --although he did play football and did well this year.
Not Arts or language oriented.</p>

<p>The local High School next year will be a disaster and there are no private day school possibilities nearby.</p>

<p>He really needs to be in school which will challenge him academically and where he can be with other bright nerdy quirky kids who understand what is talking about and where he feels welcomed. He needs schools with computer club, chess club, robotics club, MAGIC club, etc.</p>

<p>Is there a school out there for him? Full Pay of course.</p>

<p>hope this helps:</p>

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<p>Exeter, or for someone who is not quite “socially” there I would suggest an all boys school. Having a coed atmosphere can add an entire other level of social pressure. Boys schools can still retain the high academics.</p>

<p>does EXETER THAT NERDY?!!!</p>

<p>SPS has a magic club.</p>

<p>Public school might actually be a good option for him. Kids usually become more socially competent after puberty, so maybe being around other types of kids would give him a good chance to adjust.</p>

<p>It’s a little late in the admissions cycle for 9th grade.
Can he make the most of 9th grade at the local public and then start BS in 10th?</p>

<p>That was our general intent–have him go to public HS next year then to BS for 10th grade, however as 9th grade gets closer and we find more out about our public school, we are starting to think may he should start next September.</p>

<p>We recognize that will leave out the top schools but hope there may be others with openings.</p>

<p>here’s a possible caution for you. we, like lots of others, have wondered how the schools use the SSAT test results. one use we’ve been told about is that they compare SSAT scores with school grades, for a variety of reasons. for example, if an applicant has a very high SSAT score but just mediocre (B’s etc.) grades in a non-exceptional school, it might be a warning that the applicant is simply not a serious student. you might try to finesse that by alluding to his boredom with schoolwork. i’m sure they’ve heard that before but i don’t know how it flies. your best bet may be to have him do his freshman year in the local piublic high school - and start right now on becoming an all-A’s student to show that he has the academic self-discipline they want to see.</p>

<p>Fairly soon, the SSAT organization will start posting “schools currently considering applications.” [SSAT</a> Member Information](<a href=“http://www.ssat.org/membersearch]SSAT”>http://www.ssat.org/membersearch)</p>

<p>If you are a full pay family, and your child is very bright, you may be able to find a school this year. I think it would be worthwhile to call schools you might be interested in, to see if they would accept a “late application.” I suspect many admissions directors might be willing to bend the rules for someone who’s late.</p>

<p>I’ll quote another poster on this site, Newyorker22:</p>

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<p>As I recall, someone last year claimed to have had good responses from schools after March…oh, here it is: <a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/prep-school-admissions/694617-now-mid-april-dust-settling-i-wish-tell-my-story.html?highlight=tabor[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/prep-school-admissions/694617-now-mid-april-dust-settling-i-wish-tell-my-story.html?highlight=tabor&lt;/a&gt;. You should read this thread!</p>

<p>I take it that Boston University Academy is out of your commute range?</p>

<p>A thought: How about Pre-prep, repeat 8th, graduate 9th, go onto Prep in 10th. Eaglebrook is on rolling admissions, unsure about the others and there are others.</p>

<p>We are out of range for any day school so are looking for a boarding school.</p>

<p>Let me reframe the question–what school would be good choice for 10th grade after he spends a year at public school?</p>

<p>Lets say he gets in the 90 + SSAT and is a mostly B student with one or two As in his first semester at high school.</p>

<p>then what New England/New York schools are recommended for a still very bright, nerdy, quirky kid?</p>

<p>A key piece of the admissions puzzle that’s absent from this scenario is the teacher/principal/head or school recommendations. I know everyone tends to focus on the hard stats but strong recs are vital to favorable admissions outcomes. If you choose to apply for 10th grade, you may want to work with him and discuss social strategies that he can implement in the classroom without compromising his individuality.</p>

<p>Even if he is not interested in the arts and languages, he will have to take a few arts classes and probably at least 3 years of a language. It think these are requirements at the boarding schools of which I am aware. Some boarding schools require team sports, and all the ones I know of require activities like athletics or theater after the academic day. </p>

<p>Have you considered hiring an educational consultant? There is a list here [Find</a> Educational Consultants – Boarding School Review](<a href=“http://www.boardingschoolreview.com/consultantdirectory.php]Find”>Find Educational Consultants) An educational consultant who specializes in boarding schools might make good suggestions. Some consultants who specialize in colleges will tell you that they can also advise on boarding school. In my opinion, it would be hard for someone to be on top of both college and secondary schools.</p>

<p>As an added wrinkle, it can be hard to transfer from public schools to private schools. Private schools know how important recommendations are for placement. Most public high school students will only ask for recommendations when applying to colleges. If the local high school next year will be “a disaster,” the teachers and guidance counselors may not be able to write good recommendations. </p>

<p>Freshman year is a year for schools to acquaint students with the workload and to establish good habits. To jump from a school at which he’s bored and alienated to a school with a demanding workload would be a challenge. </p>

<p>Ops’ suggestion is worth evaluating. An educational consultant who specializes in boarding school would be able to help you sort through the options. He/she has probably seen many students like your son.</p>

<p>Your son seems very interested in computers. I found this school online, the Maine School of Science and Mathematics [The</a> Maine School of Science and Mathematics](<a href=“http://www.mssm.org/]The”>http://www.mssm.org/). It is a public boarding school. Its website states that students from Maine and other states attend. It is a member of the national consortium for specialized secondary schools of mathematics, science and technology, and it hosts a high school chapter of the Association of Computing Machinery. It has a Computer Science department, which is unusual for any high school.</p>

<p>i would be iffy about sending him to a Founder’s League school (i went to taft).
knowing taft and reading your description of your son, i wouldn’t send him there. taft is not very good with “non-conformists,” especially among boys (meaning, you ought to be a hockey player or a laxer).
i would say no to loomis too, since loomis is much more of a sports school.
choate tends to be more “hockey-oriented,” but it’s academics are much more challenging than other schools.
st. paul’s has a lot of really intelligent kids… but, from what i’ve heard, their strenuous academics leads students to go down… not so desirable paths so to speak. i may be wrong on this front.
i don’t know that much about other schools, but the founder’s league schools tend to be of the same ‘genre’ (for lack of better words). meaning that, a lot of them are typical new england boarding schools and not very open to non-conformity. there are always, however, the exception kids. that, however, is another story.
if you’re cool with west coast schools, i would honestly go with that. schools like kate and thatcher have beautiful campuses and tend to be more non-conformist friendly and very much less sports-oriented. thatcher falls better beneath the latter categories. of course, i don’t know much about the cali schools, so i could be wrong.</p>

<p>ALSO. about the late application. i’m applying as a junior with a late app, so i’ve done some research on this subject. this year, they’re getting LOADS of apps, since the upper-middle class and upper class are (economically) starting to do better. BUT. i would recommend apply NOW, even with a late app. i came into to taft as a new sophomore, and i’m telling you, coming in as a freshmen is much better (and easier, application-wise). look at it this way… schools taking in applications for freshmen have to accept an entire class of kids. a late application wouldn’t hurt. even if he didn’t get in this time around, it would give him good experience for the second time around applying as a new sophomore.</p>

<p>THIRD THING. (sorry, i’m dragging). as a student, i wouldn’t be worried about required arts and sports. first of all, it’s a good way to get introduced into new stuff. for example, he could simply take beginner’s art, beginner’s photography, and beginner’s ceramics. and there, he’s done with his arts. sports-wise, no school requires you to participate in teams… they simply can’t have that many players on one team. there are other activities available, like volunteering or yoga. but, your son could even get into a sport he never thought he’d enjoy. i never even knew lax existed before i arrived in new england. but now, i play at the jv level, and i LOVE it.</p>

<p>hope this helped.</p>

<p>It sounds like your S needs a non-jocky school. My suggestion is look beyond NE. We found the schools further south less sports focused–St. Andrews, Lawrenceville, Peddie–all offer great education and a motivating environment, but not the same macho, jocky, preppy mold. Also, think small because I found if the kid is underachieving academically, you will need to small community to watch and nurture you S to bring out his potential.</p>

<p>My S has now taken his SSAT and as we knew he is very bright and got 99%. </p>

<p>He has also started 9th grade and is doing well so far. He is playing football and plans to play basketball (doesn’t hurt that he is 6’ 3")</p>

<p>Anyway, I am still looking for specific school recommendations for him for 10th grade: a school with a lot of really bright kids, with opportunity to study computer science, is welcoming to kids who may be a little geeky or quirky and does not over emphasize sports participation–some required involvement is ok but should not be required to play 3 sports for example. We would like the school to be within New England or New York. I do not think he would agree to a a boys only school. </p>

<p>Thanks for any specific suggestions that I might then research.</p>

<p>I think he might be a good fit with Exeter. Funny, at the parents’ assembly yesterday, either the Principal or the Dean of Students mentioned that every Exeter student, whether an athlete or not, is really a nerd at heart. Also, a rumor I’ve heard is that Exeter places more emphasis on the SSAT than most schools do, which - if true - would work to your son’s benefit. I believe that Exeter cares too a lot about writing skills as shown by applicant essays, as well as the student’s comfortability with adult conversations as indicated by the interview. Finally, Exeter wants good kids who really enjoy reaching out to help others and don’t exhibit tendencies to cause trouble for others. Either a sport or phys ed is required for all but one or two terms, but intramural sports are said to be focused on mainly having fun without being highly competitive.</p>